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[Pembo]

Would you send a friend request to a high school boyfriend? We graduated 20 years ago.

I'm just being nosy........

 

[mamacatnv]

No - I would get a new found former high school Girl friend who knew former boyfriend to send the request and then I would make sure I posted to her wall often and frequently so he would see it and hope he would send me a message or friend request. He did! Oh it is SOOOO High School

Took me only a few minutes to remember why he is the "former" boyfriend

I love FaceBook!

 

[Cindyluwho]

Thank God neither my husband or I have a problem being friendly with old boyfriends/girlfriends. If it was an old "friend", just friend, would you have any problem sending them a friend request? To me, it's the same thing. If a person passed through your life and left an impression, they had a part in who you are now. If that was a good thing, then it's something to embrace, whether it's an old friend or an old boyfriend/girlfriend.

Every person that has loved me has left a footprint on my heart and I treasure every one of them.

 

[GJM]

Yes, I am friends with my old HS boyfriend.

 

[aprilgail2]

I have many old boyfriends on my facebook- one of them I even have his wife as a friend on there!

 

[turkeymama]

I am Facebook friends with my ex-boyfriend's dad and brother, but not him. I'm guessing he doesn't own a computer, or at the least isn't on Facebook since he isn't on the friend list for either one of them.

However, I was friends with the brother for a long time prior to us dating, and the brother also dated my best friend from high school, so I am connected to the brother in other ways. If that wasn't the case, I probably wouldn't be friends with any of them.

Of course, that's just one opinion. I don't think there is anything wrong with it, but I would probably question the sudden curiosity in an ex.

 

[natenapril]

No. It was 20 years ago? I am not sure if I would even remember most people from 20 years. I graduated 13 years ago and don't recognize some names anymore until it is pointed out.
Also why would someone be interested in talking to an old boyfriend? Maybe I am just clueless

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

I saw an old boyfriend from 30 years ago in high school. He has become friends with a friend of mine. That felt weird because he can now contact me if he wants. I don't feel like contacting him but it is interesting to see his profile. I guess he never married.

It is quite a coincidence to find him on facebook. There must be 80 people with the same name. Yet of all those people, his name came first and it had a picture that was unmistakeable. I wondered if that was some message from the cosmo directing me to contact him. Many other people are much harder to find.

BTW I am separated so the thought has crossed my mind to contact him. He was pretty near or an actual genius.

 

[Pembo]

No. It was 20 years ago? I am not sure if I would even remember most people from 20 years. I graduated 13 years ago and don't recognize some names anymore until it is pointed out.
Also why would someone be interested in talking to an old boyfriend? Maybe I am just clueless

I'm curious as to what happened to him...and lots of other people I knew in high school. I always recognize names of people I graduated with or knew in hs...recognizing faces and names together is a different story. Many of them look so old.

 

[MushyMushy]

Yes and I have! Neither my husband nor I have a problem with it. I have a few people I dated on my friends list.

I know people can have different opinions on this. Personally, I like the walks down memory lane.

 

[Buckalew11]

I'm not friend requesting mine. I don't know if he'll friend request me or not. There's only one on facebook that I know of. One old BF's wife is on there and I'm friends with his sister. Two of #1 old boyfriends friends have friend requested me and I accepted and one I even chatted with. We're all still friends (#1 and his wife came to see my dad before he died and then came to the funeral).

I just think it would be awkward for them to see what I'm posting. I probably post TMI or something, lol.

 

[powellrj]

I have been reconnecting with old high school friends on facebook. While no old boyfriends are on, at one point I had more men than women as friends. I asked DH if that bothered him and he looked at me like I had 2 heads, no it didn't bother him.

 

[Silent1CB]

If you have other high school friends as FB friends, sure. If not, then no.

Nosey? Isn't that what FB is for?

 

[kafitty]

my guideline is, if i would say "hi" to them if i saw them in real life, i'll be facebook friends with them.

 

[JoiseyMom]

I found my ex-bf from JHS! I friended him Nothing wrong with it.

 

[Binnie]

I totally have old boyfrieds as friends on Facebook. It's awesome to see where they are now. One of mine lives in Paris and travels extensively for work, so his updates are normally about where he's travelling now. I'm soooooo jealous, but it fits the guy perfectly!

It bothers DH a little, especially the guy I dated when I was 13 (who DH introduced me to!), but I don't really care, and ultimately neither does he.

 

[disney1990]

Heck, I am "friends" with my ex-husband and his wife. My daughters are friends with all of their former boyfriends. We are all able to put the past in the past and remain friends.

 

[OK!]

I sent one to my first college boyfriend. We'd kinda sorta stayed in touch during the intervening years (we dated from 1991-93 or thereabouts), though very sporadically; he accepted and it was cool.

 

[RadioNate]

I'm friends with several guys I dated in HS and college. I don't think it is any huge deal. My DH is friends with a college girlfriend and an old HS girlfriend. That old HS girlfriend of his is now one of my best friends!

My 2 most 'serious' HS boyfriends, I am not friends with. In fact, I have them both blocked so they can't friend me. Those relationships were HUGE mistakes and I don't care to go back there. If I saw them on the street, I seriously would pretend I was someone else...or hide!

But I'm not naive enough to say that it is always a good idea. We had big marriage problems when an EX of DH's contacted him through FB 12 years after they broke up! She was absolutely willing to move across the country to be with him. He was flattered by the attention and really made all the wrong decisions. While the contact was only via FB (internet/email) it still did a lot of damage to our marriage.

 

[pyrxtc]

I ahve quite a few old boyfriends as facebook friends. I don't see the big deal. I found one or two and the rest found me.