Facebook, the new Christmas newsletter

[WDWJDS]

I don't post updates often, but I do share happy moments in my life just like I would in person at my job, or at a family gathering.

If my co-workers were aware that my child was anxiously waiting to hear about an acceptance from her first choice college, I would let them know that she is happy to report that she got accepted! It would be the same with FB.

I don't post every "A", but I do post things that are rare. And I wouldn't hesitate to post a pregnancy announcement, even if I knew that there were people who were having difficulty conceiving. I can share my happiness while being there for your struggle.

 

[okeydokey]

How about the cryptic post?

Those posts that are just a or :'( or "I knew this would happen". Someone bites and asks, "what happened?" but they never reply.

Why do they do that?

Vague Booking is the worst! Things like

Why do these things happen to me?
Sometimes I just hate people!
The worst day ever!

And then if you ask what is going on they don't want to talk about it, or just say PM me. Can't stand it.

 

[NaLisa]

I have a close family member going through a divorce. Rather than unfriend each other, they antagonize each other on fb.

One posts all the great things they are doing when they don't have the kids... The other then posts how they are having such a great time with the kids and love them so much etc etc. Back and forth, back and forth.

UNFRIEND each other!

Yuck. I think I'd unfriend both of them for a while.

 

[usd2bmd]

Does anyone else have friends who use Facebook to brag about their families? It reminds me of those Christmas newsletters ("We are so busy this year between our monthly trips to Hawaii on hubby's private jet and attending Susie's various award ceremonies .")

I have friends who never update their status unless it's something splendiferous: "My husband insists we visit the French Rivieria this summer; but I'd be happier if we just cruised on the Fantasy again." or "Scotty is taking Honors Thermonuclear Physics, which is so rare for a 3rd grader."

It can't be just me ...

It is definitely not just you. It is sort of ironic when you know the truth.

I have a friend who always posts about how awesome her life is and how her daughter is her Best Friend...then my daughter shows me the stuff her daughter posts on Twitter about her mom. All in the same day, maybe they should get their story straight.
Or the one who posts about how great her sons are, one has hit (multiple times) his last three girlfriends.

I've been mostly mum about my pregnancy--no ultrasound pics, no baby bump pics, etc. on Facebook too because I know I am friends with people who have had fertility issues...plus it's just not my personality to boast.

My FB friends make the ultrasound pic their profile pic. I will get flamed for this...I am happy for them having a baby really I am, but i feel that an ultrasound picture is a private thing...so they are now an acquaintance...then I don't see it.

How about the cryptic post?

Those posts that are just a or :'( or "I knew this would happen". Someone bites and asks, "what happened?" but they never reply.

Why do they do that?

They are just dying to see how far their friends will go to get the scoop.

FB has taught me that I am a mother of the ONLY average student left on the planet as all of my FB friends have kids in accelerated honors programs and taking AP courses in everything.

My husband and I aren't really happy because he doesn't post his undying love for me on FB.

But I am happy so that is really all that matters to me.

The most common thing you will see on my FB is me complaining about the way people drive.

 

[hlg22]

How about the cryptic post?

Those posts that are just a or :'( or "I knew this would happen". Someone bites and asks, "what happened?" but they never reply.

Why do they do that?

Because they secretly love the drama and use it as a passive-aggressive way of getting attention. I have a high school friend who does this all the time. I think it's hilarious - another friend and I actually will joke about her latest drama. She'll post things like "I have no true friends" or "Just when you think no one else can disappoint you, someone does." Then everyone piles on and assures her of how wonderful she is and expresses concern, etc., etc. A week later, same thing all over again. Once, she posted an even more dramatic than usual post about how horrible her life was and then went awol from FB (she's usually on every hour). Friends in other states called 911 concerned that she'd hurt herself. When cops showed up at her house she was totally fine and pretended like she had no idea why anyone would even be worried. Train wreck.

 

[Belle0101]

I have one FB friend that up until very recently was rotating her Profile Picture every 2 or 3 days. They weren't new and it was the same 3 that she was rotating. After a while people quit "Liking" and commenting on them.

Well, this past Monday she posted, "Thinking of being done with Facebook." That brought out the comments:
*Oh no, why?
*What happened?
*Talk to me!!
*Don't say that, I enjoy your pictures so much.
*I feel like I just found you. I don't want to lose you.
*No, I would miss you so much.

And in typical VagueBook fashion, she hasn't posted anything to her page since.

 

[TheAviator]

Because they secretly love the drama and use it as a passive-aggressive way of getting attention. I have a high school friend who does this all the time. I think it's hilarious - another friend and I actually will joke about her latest drama. She'll post things like "I have no true friends" or "Just when you think no one else can disappoint you, someone does." Then everyone piles on and assures her of how wonderful she is and expresses concern, etc., etc. A week later, same thing all over again. Once, she posted an even more dramatic than usual post about how horrible her life was and then went awol from FB (she's usually on every hour). Friends in other states called 911 concerned that she'd hurt herself. When cops showed up at her house she was totally fine and pretended like she had no idea why anyone would even be worried. Train wreck.

Or the ones that post every single bump in the road, sniffle they get, and make it sound like they just got diagnosed with cancer. When I want attention I'm up front about it, I just post WILL SOMEONE PLEASE PAY ME SOME BLEEPING ATTENTION!!

 

[MNdisneymom]

For any of you that are annoyed by parents bragging/complaining/whatever on FBI, check out **** parents blog. Soooo funny, in a completely wrong way.....

 

[Ginny Favers]

I love facebook because a majority of my friends are writers and we're always trying to outdo each other with funnier and wittier statuses. My facebook feed always makes me smile.

I also like when someone posts that they sold a new book or whatever because it's actually a bit of friendly competition, which I enjoy-- it inspires me.

But I have a few real-life friends who post everything about their lives, a running commentary on exactly what they're doing, and they somehow have a bunch of groupies who encourage this sort of behavior by commenting on and liking these mundane posts.

Honestly, if I don't really understand the value of a personal facebook page. If I didn't do what I did for a living, I'd never be on it.