So you made this agreement withher when she was starting high school? At age 14 you expected her to understand what it meant to promise to pay for college?
I find myself

at this too. How could a 13/14 year old be expected to make a decision about how best to invest over $30,000 in her education?
Also I can't believe this school charges $8,000 a year tuition and then charges for AP courses on top of that

. I went to a mediocre public high school where 25% of each class year dropped out before graduation and only 30% or so of those who graduated went to a 4 year college. Still, our AP courses were free.
But going from where things are with the OP, I'm going to differ with a lot of the posters here. This is how I see things. If you make enough income to afford paying $8000 a year for high school, then my guess is that when your DD fills out the FAFSA the EFC will be substantial. Let's suppose it's $12,000 a year. This means that unless your DD wins substantial merit scholarships, that $12,000 bill will be all of her responsibility if she goes to a 4 year college/university. If she wants to be competitive for these types of scholarships (or for competitive colleges/universities), then she needs to take a very challenging high school curriculum and should consider taking the highest level courses offered (which I assume are the courses the counselor is recommending).
Realistically, what are her chances of winning an extremely lucrative merit scholarship? What kinds of grades/SAT scores, class rank, curriculum does she have? One of the colleges I applied to--The College of New Jersey...it may have since changed it's name--offered a full ride scholarship. Generally you had to have SATs in the 1350 or 1400 and up range (this is back when there were only 2 SAT sections--verbal and math) and be at the very top of your class in terms of rank and take really competitive classes. I'm not sure if they still have such scholarships, but she should look into those types of things if she has the SATs/grades etc to possibly get one.
Okay, but what if she is not likely to be eligible for those types of scholarships? Well if she's not able to do that, then at pretty much any 4 year college/university she's going to need to pay that $12,000. As far as I know, there are pretty low limits on the amount of federal student loans a college student--especially a freshman--can take out. I'm not positive that a freshman can get that much money in federal student loans. She may have to take out a personal loan for some of that money at extremely unfavorable interest rates. Perhaps she could work while going to school. How much can she realistically plan to make? Will she have living expenses to pay as well?
It seems very unwise to me for an 18 year old to take on such a financial burden--especially if non-student loans are involved. I would think, if you are not able/willing to help your daughter financially AND she is not able to win any substantial scholarships, that community college for the first two years of college is the only reasonable option. If that is the case, then I am not sure how important the AP classes will be. It may still save a bit of money for her to knock out some Gen Ed requirements through AP classes rather than paying for them at a community college--but community colleges are generally pretty inexpensive (compared to many 4 year colleges/universities at least); so I don't think it will save a ton of money. And in terms of taking a challenging curriculum, generally admission to a community college will not be extremely competitive. And, my guess is that when it comes to transfer from a community college to a 4 year institution, it is the work one did at the college, not one's work from high school, that will matter most in terms of admissions.
So, to sum up, I think it all really depends on which path she is likely to take in the near future.
A bit off topic--what are the world religion, dance, and entrepreneur classes? Are they AP type classes? I don't remember them existing when I was in high school. Or are they university classes? Why do they cost extra money?