This is so accurate. My twins are like night and day. My daughter loves any and all rides and hates the characters. Her twin brother only likes meeting characters and the slowest, easiest rides (cries on Snow White, Pinocchio, and Mr. Toad because they're too scary). And their big brother, for all his talk, can't stand any fast rides except GRR. I think this is why a few of us gave the suggestion to be prepared to go with the flow. I understand that's not your style, but just be ready to have to split up occasionally, to have failures on rides you think they'll love, and to also be pleasantly surprised at what they do like. I remember taking my oldest to
Disneyland for the first time when he was 2. I had all these expectations of what it would be like, but nothing prepared me for what he would and would not enjoy. While I was not disappointed, none of our hard-developed plans actually worked out beyond which park we were visiting which day and most of all, I remember how surprisingly exhausting it is to go as an adult with children. Worth it, but pace yourselves and be ready to collapse at some point. I agree with what others have said: If you have to have a plan, pick a land to start with, work through that one, then move to the next. If you're starting with EMH, pick Fantasyland first as it will be the best time of day. On a regular day, we pick New Orleans Square or Tomorrowland first depending on which one our kids pick. At DCA, for someone who has never been, Carsland is a good one first off, but we always go to Monster's Inc. first, then whip around to GRR, Little Mermaid, the Boardwalk area, and Carsland last (not much for little kids there despite how fun it looks).