Ever wish you weren't so nice???

[florida-again]

I'm one of these annoyingly nice people, and I'm starting to wish I wasn't.
My housemates (who I consider to be close friends of mine) are having a dinner party, at OUR house and didn't invite me or our two other housemates.

So wish number 1: I wish that I didn't always make sure I include/invite them if I do anything.

So I was watching TV just now and one of their guests came in and asked if they could turn it over and watch something else.

Wish number 2: I wish I had said 'no, actually I'm watching this'

They then decided to show their guests round the house. My room is a mess and I really didn't want anyone in here. I told them that but they asked if they could look anyway.

Wish number 3: I wish I'd said 'no!' it's my room and I would rather no one saw the mess.

GGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR......I wish I had some balls! The strange thing is that I can be assertive at work, with strangers, with BF, but with my friends I'm so annoyingly nice! I don't know why! It's not like I have trouble keeping or making friends.

I WISH I WASN'T SO NICE!

 

[laurajetter]

I'm sorta like that, too. The main problem I have is that I wish I could be more fun at work. I mean, I laugh at other people's jokes and antics and at the fun sarcasm between coworkers, but I've never had a relationship at work where I am buddy buddy with them to the point where we can pick on each other, if you know what I mean.

I am always so agreeable, don't really voice any complaints although inside I'm really ticked off, always smile politely, etc. However, I think this behavior causes others to not have that camraderie that they do with others. I will sit at the lunch table and see the sarcastic banter between the co-workers who might insult each other (in a lighthearted, fun way) and wish that I could be like that. But I can never think of anything witty enough to join in, and if I do say something, they respond in a serious yet polite way, I guess because that is the impression of the type of person they think I am.

Anyway, just try your best to be a little more assertive next time. My dad always told me that people can't take advantage of you unless you let them, meaning if you don't speak up for yourself, then you basically are giving them permission to walk all over you.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I am a very nice person. However, that's different than allowing myself to be taken advantage of or not knowing when to speak up. I have learned how and when to be assertive, like when I was on the phone with Verizon Wireless yesterday dealing with another wrong phone bill. I wasn't raised speaking up for myself, though. It came with experience. But I've always been nice.

 

[CheshireVal]

No, I'm not nice like that. Never have been.

You just have to say no or people walk all over you. If you know that these things bother you, then just open your mouth and say NO.

 

[CapeCodTenor]

I'm also one of those nice people too, and it irritates me.

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

I'm also one of those nice people too, and it irritates me.

ME TOO!

 

[ChristmasElf]

I'm one of the nicest people I know and it sucks!! I'm going to work on being a little nastier in the coming year.

 

[Sparx]

I'm nice if I like you or if I feel like it. On the same token, I'm mean if you need it. I'm not really mean or anything like that, but you're not going to walk all over me. I'm actually more nice than I am mean. There is a difference between being meak and being nice.

 

[vivilasvegas]

If someone who wasn't a guest of mine came into the room I was in watching tv and changed the channel, I would have just stared at them until they backed slowly out of the room.

 

[Magix]

I've always been one of those ultra-nice people who avoids conflict of any kind. BUT, I'm starting to change my ways. No more messing around, letting people walk all over me! I'm tired of it and I won't stand for it anymore. I'm going to speak my mind and if no one likes me anymore, so what? I'll get by on my own.

Just incorporating a bit more of a piratical attitude into my daily life. I'm standing up for myself and it feels great!

 

[luvmy2sams]

I've always been one of those ultra-nice people who avoids conflict of any kind. BUT, I'm starting to change my ways. No more messing around, letting people walk all over me! I'm tired of it and I won't stand for it anymore. I'm going to speak my mind and if no one likes me anymore, so what? I'll get by on my own.

Just incorporating a bit more of a piratical attitude into my daily life. I'm standing up for myself and it feels great!

I'm doing the same thing. It's hard, but I'm liking myself much better now that I'm not so nice anymore. I love the "piratical attitude". Mind if I adopt that phrase?

 

[phorsenuf]

How many housemates do you have?