Etiquette Question?

[Pomlover2586]

I have previously extended 2 save the date notices to 2 former work friends. I no longer work with them and haven't spoken to either in a few months......am I still obligated to send them an Invite? At this point the guest list is going higher then originally anticipated and if I can politely manage to not invite them i'd like to......any suggestions? Please no flames I know this may be a touchy subject for some and i'm just trying to do the correct thing. Thanks!

 

[Beep]

I'm not sure about etiquette but I wouldn't invite them. I would explain that family have taken more places than you originally thought. If you haven't spoken to them for a while I would send a letter to their addresses.

Hope that helps x

 

[caryndisneydiva]

no flames from me here! after we sent out our save the dates. one VERY rude jerk that mark is friends with who is super unsupportive of our wedding had it RTS to my parents. i then had to explain to my mother what would cause a 61 year old man to act in such a way. we had sent him and another mutual friend std's. the other friend was only invited because jerkface was included and we couldn't invite one without the other. when i sent out my invitaitons, i did not include either of them and i don't feel bad about it at all. consequently, i have a situation very similar to yours. right when we got engaged i had a business partner who knew about the wedding, we'd look at dresses online etc when we had down time. we only were work partners, i didn't see her after work at all. i left that job shortly after announcing our engagement. by the time i sent out invitations i barely spoke to her anymore, maybe once a month. she expected an invitation, but i didn't invite her. i justify it this way, i have a HUGE family with 23 1st cousins alone. then i have a ton of extended family. it is much more important for me to invite them than to invite someone i barely speak to. that's my 2 cents...

 

[Skylarr29]

Etiquette says that you should invite anyone that received a save the date, I say invite who you want and given the circumstance I wouldn't invite them anymore.

 

[lpizzuro123]

I would say not to invite but if you feel the need explain like the above poster said that you had more family then you thought and they have been invited.

Linda

 

[Ember]

In a normal wedding I would say you are obligated to invite them. In this case, being a destination wedding, I think that changes a little. HOWEVER, you might want to find some way of seeing if they already booked anything, as that is the point of STD's. If I had booked time off work and a flight I would be pretty cheesed to not get a wedding invite!

 

[tomthebarncat]

I would invite them and hope they that RSVP that they are not coming. I know that if I was in the same situation, that I would politely decline and probably just send a card, and not even a gift. You will find that many of your guests will not show and it will all even out in the end.

 

[Pomlover2586]

Awesome great ideas guys!

Oh and Ember......my wedding isn't a destination wedding.....i'm doing it in my home town LOL Wish I could do a Disney wedding but for 100 people it wasn't happening on our budget!

 

[Ember]

Awesome great ideas guys!

Oh and Ember......my wedding isn't a destination wedding.....i'm doing it in my home town LOL Wish I could do a Disney wedding but for 100 people it wasn't happening on our budget!

My apologies! In that case, I would probably extend the invite and hope they decline. They probably will. Who wants to go to a wedding where aren't close to the people anymore.