Embarresssed by cousin's activity

[Stitchfans]

I'm sorry but most people myself included would trade you if that's all you have to be embarrassed about in your family.

 

[DISUNC]

I wonder if my Bulging Biceps embarress my family?

Naaaaaaaaah! I'm pretty sure I embaress them for many other reasons!

 

[PrincessKitty1]

First you say you happened on a picture of him, now you say you googled his name and looked at his Facebook photo? Sounds like you and your kids are seeking out pictures of him so you can make fun of him?

I had way more than 3 majors before I decided on nursing. What's the big deal? For a lot of people, the 20s are a time of having fun and exploring what they want to do with their lives. Why in the world would you sit around and gossip about somebody doing something so innocuous?I think you could focus on being a good role model for your kids.To me, that might mean that you could teach them not to comment on another person's appearance unless they are making a compliment.

By the way, I've known 2 serious bodybuilders and they were both female and both health professionals. They were both very cool, smart, and friendly people.

 

[tasha99]

If he's working, I wouldn't be too worried about him taking a while in college. It happens. I would worry more about what's going on in my own nest. What kind of values are your kids learning if you don't all stop judging him so much?

 

[PaulaSB12]

My siblings and I have a neat tradition-we have a monthly lunch with our elderly Mom. At these lunches we talk about ourselves, our lives and our kids.

Sister has a DD same age as MuscleBoy. She graduated from college already and is working in her field for 3 years now. I guess that is where the "explaining" happens-why this semester he dropped all his courses but one, why the next semester he changed his major.

Every semeester there is a new twist- now he's onto the third major. Funny thing is he (Muscleboy) never , ever discusses college-only his bodybuilding. and , no, it brings in no $$. He works at Walmart, in the automotive area, changing tires as his job.

You nephew isn't hurting you but your attitude towards him quite frankly stinks. He is working, studying and doing his body building while you teach your children to be intolerant smug snobs. Why not call him you nephew instead of that insulting Muscleboy tag? How rude what a great message for your children.

 

[waltsgirl]

If I was your nephew I would be embarrassed by you and your family. Your lack of tolerance and acceptance are far worse than body-building.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Look, I am not going to flame the OP and throw around negative comments.... (seems some negativity or even a bit of sarcasm can warrant a infraction here anymore).

I do understand that this kind devotion to bodybuilding CAN, and often does, have it's negatives. ( I do believe that this kind of approach to bodybuilding can have its psychologically addicting and psychological as well as physical negative effects ) I can understand that everybody, including the OP, has a right to their feelings.

However, having said all of that in order to let the OP know that I do kind of see where she is coming from....

OP: you are WAY to vested here.... It's not your child... And, you might want to be careful about overstepping boundaries with your own feelings/opinions. Take a huge step back, and LET IT GO!

 

[HighClass]

Well, he may only have one class, but contrary to your name you have absolutely no class.

Wow-kind of an "attacking" post here.


I don't say these things to my kids, my brother or the nephew-just letting steam off here.

 

[wvjules]

Nope-not the wedding person

Everytime I meet with the Bodybuilder's father (my brother) we hear a list of excuses why he is in college for now 7 years, why this semester he only takes ONE class, yada-yada.

His total focus is bodybuilding-I guess that is what bothers me.

I don't "monitor" his Facebook-just happened upon this pic today and it "skeeved" me out. blech

Wouldn't that make him your nephew instead of cousin?

ETA: Oops, I see that's been pointed out already. Nevermind.

Let the making fun of the bodybuilding, forever college student, walmart working cousin/nephew continue.

 

[Anewman]

I don't say these things to my kids, my brother or the nephew-just letting steam off here.

I still dont understand why there would be any "steam" to let off.

I dont like soccer, but I support my nephew that loves that sport. He is not going to college, yet I still love him very much. As long I dont have to pay his bills, I really have no say.

 

[wvjules]

Nevermind, wrong poster. Oops. lol

 

[ols386]

My brother's son-in college-has become a big time Body Builder & posts pictures of himself on Facebook

My kids only see him a few times a year-but see his Facebook pictures , but think the huge muscles and the deep deep tan is just bizarre.

At our family Christmas events , he comes in a short sleeve shirt so he can flex his muscles and show off. I find it sort of strange.

So every time my kids say something about him and roll their eyes, I try to be diplomatic

Wouldn't it be typical for body builders to wear clothing to flex their muscles? What's the point of having them, if you can't flex them so that people can see them? It doesn't really seem strange to me. At least he doesn't come to Christmas gathering with no shirt at all on.

 

[MoonFaerie]

Wouldn't it be typical for body builders to wear clothing to flex their muscles? What's the point of having them, if you can't flex them so that people can see them? It doesn't really seem strange to me. At least he doesn't come to Christmas gathering with no shirt at all on.

Not only that, but why does short sleeve shirt = showing off muscles. Sleeveless I could agree with, but not short sleeve. My dh and ds pretty much always wear short sleeve for Christmas or other family gatherings. You get that many people in one house acting stupid, and it gets hot. Heck, I'm pretty cold natured, and I've even been known to wear t-shirts to winter time family events.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Maybe you shouldn't keep looking at it if it bothers you that much.

I agree. But I get the impression that High Class is into "investigating" what people online are up to. (Oops! There's that preposition at the end of a sentence! )

 

[mscoachung]

This is sooooo wrong on so many different levels. These guys compete but they are drug tested in the drug tested divisions so it is usually just a great work ethic that gives them the bodies they have. There are non-drug tested divisions but you have no idea. At his age, it's all probably all just determination. There could be a lot worse things to complain about. Your kids may want to use him as a role model. These guys are not stupid either. They can tell you diet, safe and not safe moves & exercises. They value their health and their bodies.

 

[tasha99]

I agree. But I get the impression that High Class is into "investigating" what people online are up to. (Oops! There's that preposition at the end of a sentence! )

Actually you ended it with a verb particle. The phrasal verb is "to be up to," so in your sentence, "to" isn't a preposition. So you're good! (Not that I agree with the no preposition at the end "rule" anyway.)

(I'm taking a class called Later Language Development, but it could really be renamed "Extreme Grammar." Unfortunately, it's hard to turn the grammar off . . . )

 

[2BigKIdz]

Is this thread a joke? First he is referred to as a nephew, then a cousin I thought the children that were rolling their eyes were just that, children, but now realize they are "young professionals". They really have nothing better to do than make fun of their cousin because he is a body builder? How sad. He is not hurting anyone, what difference does it make to you how many years he goes to college, what he majors in, or how much he tans?

 

[MoniqueU]

Isn't that the truth!? Heck, my family has molestors, thieves, druggies & drunks, lazy living off welfare, underage pregnancies, bigots whose kids have interracial relationships, and uncle who married someone who used to be his niece, habitual liars, trouble makers, ultra religious, etc.

At family get togethers, there are those who bring foods you don't dare eat and you have to watch your all your belongings or they might get taken. And before any eating is done, we have to patiently wait through a fifteen minute prayer.

Consider yourself lucky.

You just described my upcoming family reunion. If I have to listen one more time how my uncle who molested my cousin is volunteering in the church as a teen group leader I am going to scream. That same cousin got hooked up with a guy that was of another race and I thought my grandparents were going to have a stroke and the rest f the family is barely talking to her. She has 4 kids, no job that i know of and her ex husbands greatest achievment was landing a job at Hard Rock. and that's just the tip of the iceburg.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

You just described my upcoming family reunion. If I have to listen one more time how my uncle who molested my cousin is volunteering in the church as a teen group leader I am going to scream. That same cousin got hooked up with a guy that was of another race and I thought my grandparents were going to have a stroke and the rest f the family is barely talking to her. She has 4 kids, no job that i know of and her ex husbands greatest achievment was landing a job at Hard Rock. and that's just the tip of the iceburg.

Yeah. What I described is my family. And just like you, that's just the tip of the iceburg. But with large families such as mine, you get the entire spectrum.
Although I guess if I hadn't grown up with this, I might be embarrased about some of my relations too. Actually, at times I am. But, they're still family and I treat them as such and try to not judge them.
With my family, a bodybuilder would be the least of my worries.

 

[MerMom60_94]

Why be embarrassed by someone who's dedicated to a sport? Not my cup of tea, but I would accentuate the positive.

ITA.

OP, would you be less embarrassed if he were beer swigging with a pot belly and a sweat shirt? He probably works really hard at his diet and body building and has a lot of discipline if he is that muscled. He has a right to feel good about himself. There are so many worse things that he could be doing that are truly embarrassing and that would truly be a bad example for his cousins.