Emailing an old flame???

[CBRorBust]

Maybe she could stop e-mailing him for a few days.

Yup! I bet you he is not spending as much time thinking about the situation as she is!

 

[castlegazer]

Since they live in different areas and its not awkward to not run into him or ask him casually out to dinner - let him make the first overture to something further from their relationship. This is completely against the grain of womanhood and will take a lot of selfcontrol from her - but it is best.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>I pretty much agree w/CBRorBust on this. My opinion only, of course. She's investing too much of herself in this mental relationship she's having w/her friend.

If he were interested in her, he would have dropped that relationship of convenience a long time ago, or at the least, he would have already let her know that he's interested in her.

It pretty much sounds to me that he doesn't want to let go of this attention he's getting from her, but he doesn't want to give her more, either.

Good luck to your friend, however this turns out.

 

[kadaten]

Originally posted by Disney Doll

The "aversion to computers" thing is a bunch of hooey. Nobody these days has that much of an aversion to computers. Also, he doesn't have enough of an 'aversion" not to do it at work, now does he?

Well, I disagree. DH really doesn't like computers, barely emails at all. Worst part....his entire day is spent on computers...4 or 5 different systems! And 3 email accounts!! The only thing he does at home on the computer is play a few games every now and then (think Tetris...nothing involved) just to unwind before bed. He only checks his home email 2 or 3 times a week, and he constantly misses social events at work because he doens't check his regular email, only his urgent work-related account. Some people just genuinely do not enjoy them and only use them when they have to.

Also had a very dear friend who we could speak on the phone for hours on end. But when email came along...I'd happily type nice long messages...he didn't like email...too impersonal...so I would only get a line or two back from him.... And he was an engineer who used computers daily!!

As for the OP...sounds like friends to me, but I'm a sucker for situations like that. She could keep on being friends and see if it leads anywhere later...

 

[pnelson]

Thanks Everyone! Once in a while, it's fun to dish about someone elses situation-As long as the drama isn't mine. Kindof like a soap opera. I think everyone had very valid points-especially the one about making him wait it out a little-Very hard for women to do though-Why is that, I wonder.

 

[Pin Wizard]

We get more attached than they do!