I didn't know until I got to the top of the elevator that my spouse was not allowed to wait for me to arrive. When the manager grabbed my wheelchair, I asked him to please get my spouse and he told me no, he would push me over to where he was seated.
At that point I made the choice not to create a further scene, but it was very, very uncomfortable for me, and in fact, he did almost hit a table with my wheelchair because (which is very, very common in inexperienced pushers) he misjudged how far out my feet were in the chair.
People genuinely do not understand that a wheelchair (or
ECV) is not the same thing as say an automobile. To me (and many mobility aid users), they are an extension of my body and touching my wheelchair is the same thing as touching my body. Pushing my wheelchair is the same thing as coming up to a stranger, putting your hands on their shoulders and gently "guiding" them to move the way that you want. I feel it is a bit demeaning, because the only people that you ever see physically moved by other people are children.
So, I try to remember that most people don't understand this and ask them not to do it. Fortunately, this incident at Le Bistro is the only time that something like this has happened. Probably because in any other situation my spouse would be right there with me and he is basically immovable if someone else tries to take over pushing my wheelchair. Now he knows not to move (if something like this happens again), but this was new to both of us.
And since I appear to be in a complaining mood

I really hate, hate, hate it on the buses when people stick (or try to stick) their strollers and/or children right between the legs of my wheelchair. They don't understand that when the bus goes around corners or stops and starts, the stroller or children are going to smack up against the insides of my legs, causing me large amounts of pain.
My spouse has taken to sitting in the seat next to me and only getting up when someone with a disability or little one gets on the bus and then he gives up his seat to them and stands between my legs himself, as he knows to brace himself so he doesn't hit my legs. But people get really upset when he prevents people from putting their stroller or child there and there is really no way for them to understand in a crowded bus how much of an issue that is for me.
Oh, and my spouse waits until the last minute to let someone take his seat because he has found that if he gets up too soon, someone without a little one or apparent disability will grab the seat (usually teenagers) and he prefers to have the seat go to someone who needs it if at all possible.
