Educating someone else's teen...

[chicagodisneyfan]

I didn't say nor imply any of this and nor did any other poster, so why are you on the attack?

I simply said that parents in my circle would be upset if I spoke to their child about something of that nature. I would, out of respect, have to decline to answer and refer them back to their parent. If you find that wrong, that's a shame.

Not sure why the animosity, but then again--it's not the first time you've read things wrong in my post today.

That make me sad. If you refuse to answer a question, the child will feel like there is something wrong with what he/she is asking.

Are you allowed to speak on ANY topics with another child? Or it is just biology that is taboo?

And yes, I am the one in the neighborhood that girls come to - usually for tampon info - and I happily share facts.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

OP, once again, I support what you did. I wish more adults shared your honesty about human reproduction.

Who's being dishonest, though?

Many answered what they would have done in her shoes and for several, it isn't something we'd touch with a 10foot pole since their might be reprecussions from the kid's parent if they discovered we had this discussion.

It doesn't make us dishonest.

 

[clovergirl5]

So Darsa is a stranger to this boy? I don't think so. Now, if I happened to be shopping in Best Buy, and a 14 year old boy approached, and asked if I could answer some questions he had about menstruation, I might just refuse... Your kids seem to be young - how many 14 year old boys are you in contact with on a regular basis?

Can you imagine...

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

That make me sad. If you refuse to answer a question, the child will feel like there is something wrong with what he/she is asking.

Are you allowed to speak on ANY topics with another child? Or it is just biology that is taboo?

And yes, I am the one in the neighborhood that girls come to - usually for tampon info - and I happily share facts.

With a boy (who is not my own)--anything invovling a girl's ovaries or nethers of a girl would be taboo.

With a girl (who is not my own)--anything invovling the nethers of a boy would be taboo.

While it may make you sad, that's too bad. If you speak to your child, then there is no reason for me to need to say anything.

If you don't speak to your child, I have no idea why and I'm not going to be subject to your fury.

Why a boy would need to know about a tampon is beyond me, but if you happily share it with the neighborhood boys--it would really make me wonder why you feel compelled to tell them such things. That, to me, is sad.

This has nothing to do with me being a prude (which is what I feel you and others are inferring), but rather--maybe the other parent is and I don't take it upon myself to interfere with their decisions for a child of the opposite gender wanting to know anything about the reproductive organs of the opposite sex.

If that can't be respected--that's okay. It is unlikely that your child would need to ask me anyway since likely they'll get the fool scoop from their own parent--which is a wonderful thing.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Who's being dishonest, though?

Many answered what they would have done in her shoes and for several, it isn't something we'd touch with a 10foot pole since their might be reprecussions from the kid's parent if they discovered we had this discussion.

It doesn't make us dishonest.

What repercussions from parents? It really boggles my mind that another parent could have concerns about answering a question!!

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

With a boy (who is not my own)--anything invovling a girl's ovaries or nethers of a girl would be taboo.

With a girl (who is not my own)--anything invovling the nethers of a boy would be taboo.

While it may make you sad, that's too bad. If you speak to your child, then there is no reason for me to need to say anything.

Why a boy would need to know about a tampon is beyond me, but if you happily share it with the neighborhood boys--it would really make me wonder why you feel compelled to tell them such things. That, to me, is sad.

This has nothing to do with me being a prude (which is what I feel you and others are inferring), but rather--maybe the other parent is and I don't take it upon myself to interfere with their decisions for a child of the opposite gender wanting to know anything about the reproductive organs of the opposite sex.

Well since the uterus is the primary organ involved with a period, I guess I can discuss with your children

(also I talk to girls about tampons!)

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

What repercussions from parents? It really boggles my mind that another parent could have concerns about answering a question!!

I have personal issues with authority figures--it's my own hang up, but something I deal with.

I am not going to deal with a parent getting po'd b/c I took it upon myself to educate their child on subject manner that they might not approve of in regards to the human body.

I choose not to cross a boundary that might be in place and for others to have a problem with it--that is their problem and not mine.

Perhaps you are okay with getting yelled at or having a child banned from being your kid's friend in the off chance their mom and dad gets upset that you discussed tampons or pads with a boy or manhood parts with a girl.

I am not.

I do not fault those who don't have a problem--but I don't understand why someone like me or MHM is getting condemned for it. That's pretty screwed up.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Well since the uterus is the primary organ involved with a period, I guess I can discuss with your children

(also I talk to girls about tampons!)

I was simply talking about boys--which clearly got missed.

If my child happened to have a question about her menstruation, I would not object to an appropriate discussion with a female adult.

 

[golfgal]

Can you imagine...

Actually, yes, on a DARE with some middle/high school boys

So if the14 years old girlfriend of your son calls and asks you what she would have to do to get his ....... working you would sit back and give her a full explanation or would you scratch behind your ears?

This whole story raises only red flags in my humble opinion.

Apples to turnips and yes, I WOULD talk to this girl AND my son about the consequences of their actions. The kid had a question about how much blood comes out, which is the exact same question MY son had about girls and periods, heck it is the same question I got from my DD too. I don't see anything wrong with the question at all. Eventually these boys will get married and will have to live through this whole process on an intimate basis with their wives.

 

[mjkacmom]

With a boy (who is not my own)--anything invovling a girl's ovaries or nethers of a girl would be taboo.

With a girl (who is not my own)--anything invovling the nethers of a boy would be taboo.

While it may make you sad, that's too bad. If you speak to your child, then there is no reason for me to need to say anything.

If you don't speak to your child, I have no idea why and I'm not going to be subject to your fury.

Why a boy would need to know about a tampon is beyond me, but if you happily share it with the neighborhood boys--it would really make me wonder why you feel compelled to tell them such things. That, to me, is sad.

This has nothing to do with me being a prude (which is what I feel you and others are inferring), but rather--maybe the other parent is and I don't take it upon myself to interfere with their decisions for a child of the opposite gender wanting to know anything about the reproductive organs of the opposite sex.

If that can't be respected--that's okay. It is unlikely that your child would need to ask me anyway since likely they'll get the fool scoop from their own parent--which is a wonderful thing.

It would never, ever, cross my mind that another parent would have an issue with me discussing ovaries with their teenage son, and yes, I do think you are a prude. It's an organ in the body! It has a function! I will tell teenagers not to smoke, because it will damage their lungs, an organ. I never thought tampoon was a taboo word. 50% of the people in this world menstruate! Heck, 100% pee and poop! Out of their privates!

If a parent had an issue with me discussing menstruation with her 14 year old son, I would just assume she was a nutcase.... Menstruation, and even reproduction, are not taboo - I'm not discussing the mechanics of oral sex! I'm discussing funtions that you can find in books geared towards 4 year olds.

But at least your kids are getting the FOOL SCOOP from you!

 

[clovergirl5]

With a boy (who is not my own)--anything invovling a girl's ovaries or nethers of a girl would be taboo.

With a girl (who is not my own)--anything invovling the nethers of a boy would be taboo.

While it may make you sad, that's too bad. If you speak to your child, then there is no reason for me to need to say anything.

If you don't speak to your child, I have no idea why and I'm not going to be subject to your fury.

Why a boy would need to know about a tampon is beyond me, but if you happily share it with the neighborhood boys--it would really make me wonder why you feel compelled to tell them such things. That, to me, is sad.

This has nothing to do with me being a prude (which is what I feel you and others are inferring), but rather--maybe the other parent is and I don't take it upon myself to interfere with their decisions for a child of the opposite gender wanting to know anything about the reproductive organs of the opposite sex.

If that can't be respected--that's okay. It is unlikely that your child would need to ask me anyway since likely they'll get the fool scoop from their own parent--which is a wonderful thing.

I somewhat agree with your comments in this post... parents in this day and age NEED to be open with their children and inform them about everything. It is first and foremost the duty of the parent. But, as we know, there are not so good parents out there and if a kid feels comfortable turning to me or another adult with questions about stuff like that, it is such a good thing getting info from a trusted person rather that ending up in a situation down the road ending up pregnant or a father or with an std because they felt they couldn't turn to anyone. I feel the kid who will have the courage to ask questions is a great thing! To bad there weren't more responsible kids like that in the world. But I do agree, it SHOULD come from the parents, but doesn't always happen and that is the parents fault.
In our community, with all the sports and school events, you get to know kids and families they belong to. Like the pp said, its not like some random stranger walking up to you asking those type of questions. At least for me, I kinda know whos who and obviously they trust me and know me to ask questions like that, which I would answer if I knew the kid wasn't getting info at home or referring their questions to their parent if I knew it was a close knit family.
I can see both sides. I am very open with my dd13 about all issues and if I wasn't, would feel ok with her asking a friends mom.

 

[clovergirl5]

It would never, ever, cross my mind that another parent would have an issue with me discussing ovaries with their teenage son, and yes, I do think you are a prude. It's an organ in the body! It has a function! I will tell teenagers not to smoke, because it will damage their lungs, an organ. I never thought tampoon was a taboo word. 50% of the people in this world menstruate! Heck, 100% pee and poop! Out of their privates!
If a parent had an issue with me discussing menstruation with her 14 year old son, I would just assume she was a nutcase.... Menstruation, and even reproduction, are not taboo - I'm not discussing the mechanics of oral sex! I'm discussing funtions that you can find in books geared towards 4 year olds.

But at least your kids are getting the FOOL SCOOP from you!

OMG...Im roflmao!

 

[Disneyadore]

Apples to turnips and yes, I WOULD talk to this girl AND my son about the consequences of their actions. The kid had a question about how much blood comes out, which is the exact same question MY son had about girls and periods, heck it is the same question I got from my DD too. I don't see anything wrong with the question at all. Eventually these boys will get married and will have to live through this whole process on an intimate basis with their wives.

And the next day you could find yourself behind bars because the parents girl did not like youre "little talk" with a young girl,maybe even a child in their eyes.

 

[golfgal]

It would never, ever, cross my mind that another parent would have an issue with me discussing ovaries with their teenage son, and yes, I do think you are a prude. It's an organ in the body! It has a function! I will tell teenagers not to smoke, because it will damage their lungs, an organ. I never thought tampoon was a taboo word. 50% of the people in this world menstruate! Heck, 100% pee and poop! Out of their privates!

If a parent had an issue with me discussing menstruation with her 14 year old son, I would just assume she was a nutcase.... Menstruation, and even reproduction, are not taboo - I'm not discussing the mechanics of oral sex! I'm discussing funtions that you can find in books geared towards 4 year olds.

But at least your kids are getting the FOOL SCOOP from you!

Besides that, if they don't know what a tampon is how in the heck are they going to go buy them for their wives when she really needs them too (something my DH has NEVER done because he is too embarrassed to even say tampon, btw).

 

[golfgal]

And the next day you could find yourself behind bars because the parents girl did not like youre "little talk" with a young girl,maybe even a child in their eyes.

Right

Exaggerate much.

 

[wdwmom2]

And the next day you could find yourself behind bars because the parents girl did not like youre "little talk" with a young girl,maybe even a child in their eyes.

Defendant: "Honest Judge, I was just talking about menstruation."

Judge: "How dare you speak about Aunt Flo when she is not present to defend herself!!! I am sentencing you to 30 lashes with a wet tampon"



I am ready to take my points now and sit in the naughty chair

 

[ginna74]

And the next day you could find yourself behind bars because the parents girl did not like youre "little talk" with a young girl,maybe even a child in their eyes.

well if the parents deem it as sexual harrasment (I know pushing it a bit) or the "talker" as being a preditor (talking about sexuality (sex) with a child) then things could happen. Now you might have had the BEST intentions, but leaving the sex chats and body chats to proper people is always a SAFE way to go.

 

[golfgal]

well if the parents deem it as sexual harrasment (I know pushing it a bit) or the "talker" as being a preditor (talking about sexuality (sex) with a child) then things could happen. Now you might have had the BEST intentions, but leaving the sex chats and body chats to proper people is always a SAFE way to go.

You have GOT to be kidding. Is this what the world has REALLY come to that a teenager can't go to a TRUSTED ADULT and ask questions about sex??? I guess all that talk in the SCHOOLS about seeking out a TRUSTED ADULT to talk to if you can't talk to your parents should land the teachers in jail as accomplices to a crime then.

Ok, that's it everyone, get out the bubble wrap, plug their ears lest someone say something to your child that wasn't pre-approved by you first. This list would also have to include all the topics banned here which will not be named too as well as sex, relationships, bodily functions, etc.

 

[ginna74]

Well if the parents don't see your good intentions then it might get sticky...

 

[mjkacmom]

Besides that, if they don't know what a tampon is how in the heck are they going to go buy them for their wives when she really needs them too (something my DH has NEVER done because he is too embarrassed to even say tampon, btw).

My poor DH - good thing he had two older sisters! I can't tell you how many times he's been sent to the store, and had to call me while in the aisle, and try to figure out what I want! Once time he brought home slender tampons, for teens. Poor dd13 was mortified when I told him that after 5 kids, a sneeze would make that shoot out of me!