Dyeing children's hair

[MiniGirl]

Once the child has the means to pay for it (highlighting, or color), and keep it up to look nice, they can do so. I'd say that would be about the age of high school. It's sad these days to see young kids in the nail salon every week with their moms getting their nails done and eyebrows waxed. I'm talking 10 year olds! What kind of message are we sending to our kids? That they have to have this or that done to them to be accepted and look good? Whatever happened to just being a kid? They'll have the rest of their lives to be adults so l feel they should be kids and just enjoy who they are and not feel like they have to have this or that to look like a grown-up -- and then work for those extras and pay for them on their own. They'll certainly appreciate the value of a dollar more.

I have 2 friends who go to the nail salon regularly with their dds. The emphasis has never been put on the physical appearance aspect of it. It has always been more of just a mother/daughter thing and spending time together. Yes, there are other things they could do, but this is something they enjoy. I really see no harm in it.

 

[Minnie's Pal]

My 10 yr old DD has been wanting to get a couple streaks in her hair...some wild color. I was up for some temp. color but her hair is dark brown (so for anything to show up as it should, it would have to be bleached first.) So I won't let her. But my hairdresser suggested trying kool-aid as a temp., cheap method to give it a try. Anyone tried that?

 

[IDoDis]

I do once in a while take the kids to the nail salon. They get a manicure or pedicure. Nothing outrageous, much like the BBB. They enjoy being pampered and we both enjoy the special time. I will not let anyone get fake nails, eyebrow waxing etc.

I have 2 friends who go to the nail salon regularly with their dds. The emphasis has never been put on the physical appearance aspect of it. It has always been more of just a mother/daughter thing and spending time together. Yes, there are other things they could do, but this is something they enjoy. I really see no harm in it.

I have no problems with letting dd go for a special occasion. She only went to get her nails done once this past year -- for her birthday. And she lightly tweezes her own eyebrows. The special occasion stuff once in a while twice a year thing -- no problem. The bi-weekly salon visits -- not for my DD. Not until she pays for it. I think she'll figure out she can do a lot of this on her own. Later on when she's older and has a career, if she wants to go twice a month, that's her prerogative. I don't want her to expect it nor be the type who spends her money on lavishes but then can't pay her cc bills.

I saw one of DD's friends who is quite the Prima Donna and was 9 at the time, tell her mom that she (the mom) could NOT go to Sam's Club because she (the mom) HAD to take the girl to get her toenails done and her brows waxed (which looked ridiculous on her at that age). The mom said they could go in a few days, but the girl insisted they go that day and the mom caved.

 

[aprilgail2]

My 10 yr old DD has been wanting to get a couple streaks in her hair...some wild color. I was up for some temp. color but her hair is dark brown (so for anything to show up as it should, it would have to be bleached first.) So I won't let her. But my hairdresser suggested trying kool-aid as a temp., cheap method to give it a try. Anyone tried that?

My friend wouldn't let her daughter dye her hair pink so the kid and her friends used kool aid and did it themselves- it ws far from temporary! The mom took her to a hairdresser twice to try to get the hair back to its normal color!

 

[Cindy B]

Aliitle color streak is not an issue. I have issues with 2nd and 3rd garders getting full head highlights colors and blonde streaks. I used to work in an urban school and I saw many many Latino and African American kids with all types of permanent hair color on a daily basis. Most of the girls in my 3rd grade class had something...

 

[NHdisneylover]

Well, I am a cheap skate so my issue with it would be cost Considering cost I would not pay for "upkeep" on something "permanent" but I would likely spring for a one time "for fun" dye job (even once a year or so). I also think it is healthier for the hair to not have processes done contunually when it is not needed (by needed, I mean covering grey I have to get myself expempted there!)

I can see where "natural" colors and highlights is a kid acting like an adult (becuase a large number of adults do routinely dye and/or highlight their hair), but I actually think the unnatural colors are really more of a kids being kids thing than a kids being adults thing. I mean, very few adults dye their hair blue purple, green, etc.. It is often not good for one's career, etc. But kids can get away with it and jsut play with their hair. So, while I would let my kids dye their hair (within my level of comfort for cost) any color or shade they wanted, I would prefer they want wild colors (being kids and playing) rather than "natural" highlights (wanting to be too grown up or maybe expressing disastifaction with their natural looks).

I honestly am surprised by how many schools these days do ban having ones hair colored. It was a non issue when I went to school and plent yof people had coloring at various times. I did not see it effect anyone's grades. I don't know, to me it seems really invasive of the shcool to tell a child how she/he must have her hair done. What business of the school's is it if a kid has blue hair, blonde hair or no hair? If it REALLY is causing a distraction in class just (nicely and politely) ask the child to wear a hat or scarf in calss. Of course, most of the schools which prohibit hair coloring also have dress codes which prohibit wearing headcovering in school otehr than for religious reasons, so I don't know where to go from there.

 

[disneychrista]

But my hairdresser suggested trying kool-aid as a temp., cheap method to give it a try. Anyone tried that?

My daughter has dark hair (naturally) and the kool-aid did NOTHING. Maybe we did it wrong but my guess is that her hair being dark the color won't show.

 

[Darsa]

(didn't read the replies 'til now, lazy!)

My DD(almost 14) first colored her hair when she had just turned 13, hating the way her blonde hair got so dark at the roots. I don't think I would have allowed her to color her hair before that, myself. Not saying that others shouldn't, that was just me really. If she asked me for funky colored streaks I'd probably be okay with that; I would insist on a temporary "try out" before doing anything long lasting tho. DD's hair grows veeerrrryyyy slowly, so if she didn't like it she'd be stuck with it for a long time.

 

[Crystal0608]

My 1st professional hair dye was in 9th grade- my cousin from CA had burgundy hair and I wanted it SOOO bad so my mama took me. It came in style here in NC 2 years later, lol. I also did the koolaid packs for blue. I have dark brown hair, so it really didn't show up. I also peroxided and lemon juiced it in the summer. All the while I was AG and a straight A student.

I dyed my little sisters hair with pink streaks when she was 6 and was 17 and send her to school. She totally loved it and it eventually came out. She was a blonde, so it showed up great.

My dd (9) has been begging me for blonde highlights (med brown hair). When she can take full care of her hair, she can get them. That promise has got her fixing her hair more and straightening the front and sides of her hair with a straight iron. She still can't do the back, so I figure by the time she is 10. Now, if it was temp streaks, I'll let her do those anytime. Last year, I let my ds (7) get a mohawk and temp dye it red at the end of the school year. When it grew out, we shaved it off and he regrew all his hair over the summer. It started a trend the next school year, lol. It's just hair.