DVCing w/o spouse-handling the guilt!

[FreeTime]

I am having DVC withdrawl! Unfortunately, my DH doesn't get as much vacation as me. I really, really, really want to go in June when school is out so that we can take our nieces and nephew (they do poorly in school so we won't be able to take them on our fall trip). My DH says go. I fell terrible though as we always vacation together. One time I tried taking my girls for a night out to a locale resort and guess who showed up at our door! That being said, I think that it would really upset him if I went to DVC. How do you handle it? (Oh, I really think that some time apart would do us well. I told him that absence will make the heart grow fonder afterall, so I should go!)

 

[Marisa'sMom]

I totally understand where you're coming from. I went on a 3 day Wonder cruise with my DD and best friend and her DS, we left the husbands at home. It was very hard! At first I kept telling myself, "It's a girls and kids thing" But most of the time I wished he was there! I knew he was at home working and in the cold weather while we were enjoying warm weather and lots of Disney fun.

So, I guess I'm not much of a help. The best advice I have for you is to figure out if you will be able to have a good time and not think about him the whole time you're there.

Good Luck!

 

[4greatboys]

Just tell him what you are thinking. If he says no problem go have a good time, then hit the road. If he says he would like to go or acts like he wants to go and you would feel to guily to have fun then just go when he can.

 

[lacool]

I feel your pain. I have my first DVC trip planned while DH is in Kuwait. I'm hoping he'll be home in time to join us, but if not I know he will be missed. Funny, I did WDW with the kids twice without him, and it didn't bother either of us, but that was before he caught Disney Fever on our last two trips. I feel badly telling him about all my plans (Cinderella's Table, Illuminations Cruise, Alice's Tea Party), but it seems to be my focus while he is away.

I think Deena is right, your DH will let you know how he feels about missing this trip if you ask. Remember, you have your DVC until 2042. You will squeeze in a few more trips, even if he can't join you on this one!

 

[wdwnut]

hi: we're doing a "ladies only" trip in november. this was dh's idea. dh and ds did 3 weeks in new mexico this past summer while i had to stay home and work so this is payback.

 

[mrsdon]

My Dh is not as crazy about WDW as I am. I am a CM so I get in for free. He doesn't mind if I go with my friends.
I usually save my Disney checks for about 2 months for spending $$. I miss him terrlbbly, but he doesnt get as much vacation time as I do,

 

[MdmMim]

My DH goes to WDW only once in awhile, due to his work schedule. He tells me to go and have a good time. He says, "Someone should go and have fun!" So, I do!! (I always buy him a present and sometimes send him flowers, if I'm down for an extended trip.)

 

[nanajoyx2]

I'm going on a solo trip in June. My DH doesn't mind at all - we were just there for 11 days in March and will be back with our kids and grandkids in October. I don't know how I will like going solo, but it's something I've always wanted to do.

 

[Simba's Mom]

nanajoyX2, I think you'll love going solo! I've gone solo 5 times, because DH isn't the Disney Fanatic I am, so he's satisfied with once every year or two. Every time I love it more and more, especially now that I've joined DVC. It's like having your own little apartment. Every morning I'd sit on my balcony with my coffee, and when I was ready to get up and go, I would. No waiting for anyone else, or anyone else waiting for me to hurry up!

 

[kgkmom]

My DH also is not crazy about WDW. Once every 10 years is fine for him!

So, I take my DD down for a 'girls trip only' once a year. The first time we went without him, she was more upset that I was! She felt guilty leaving Dad all alone. I had to remind her that Dad is not a Disney fan, that by us being gone, he had the whole house (and the TV) to himself, and that he's happy seeing her be happy! We're out of his hair and he can really relax. He says it's well worth the money for him.

The next time, she was totally on board with the whole idea.

 

[nanajoyx2]

Simba's Mom

I know you love going solo to WDW. That is why I'm trying this myself. We are also DVC members (home resort VWL-I know not your favorite), and have never had any problems with CM's or otherwise. My only requirement for going solo was getting my studio at VWL since I am only familiar with this DVC resort. I know all Disney property is safe, but since I know how close the bus stop is to the Villas and how close the Villas are to the Lodge, I felt this was the only place for me to stay by myself. If someone else was going to be with me, I would certainly stay at any of the DVC properties. I was lucky to get my ressie since I only made it 10 weeks before my arrival date.

 

[Maistre Gracey]

My wife would string me up if I did a WDW trip without her.
That being said, perhaps an 'all girls trip' (plus me of course) would be worth it....

 

[nanajoyx2]

There is no way my husband could go without me. In Sept. 1995, he and his friend were invited to exhibit their invention at the Inventors Expo at Epcot. The invitation included a great package deal at AllStars. Even though it was only a 2-day expo, we arrived 2 days before it started and left late the day after it ended. My 23 year old daughter also tagged along. The two days the guys were at Epcot, she and I had a ball for ourselves.

 

[Cruelladeville]

Do you all go alone, as in a single person going alone, or are you alone--no DH--but with others? I have often thought of going down alone since I have the whole summer off, but I'm not sure what I would do if I were alone--bringing a book to read during my meals in restaurants among the millions of extended families there?? It sounds like there are others out there who might like to try going solo, so tell us what it's like

 

[RAMWDWFAN]

Cruelladeville,

My DH hates anything Disney so of course I bought DVC and either go by myself (most times) or take my DS (who is almost 17 and will only go once a year). I always carry a book so I can pull it out while waiting in line or in a restaurant. As was stated earlier, going solo means you can do what you want, when you want. It also allows me to concentrate on my writing: there are too many distractions at home.

Rhonda

 

[fkj2]

Am sending you a PM or email if you have one listed.

 

[Terry S]

I just returned about 2 weeks ago now from a trip to WDW without my husband or kids, I went with a good friend of mine. I wasn't having as much guilt about leaving my husband as I was about leaving my 5 and 6 year old. My son was really giving me a hard time.

I will tell you, I had one of the most magical trips I have ever had in my life. I would also love to go by myself, i had to entertain my friend this time because it was her first time to WDW since she was 10. I didn't mind that at all, but I also would love to go alone and be really selfish and do just what I wanted to do! As long as he is okay with it, I would say go and feel bad for about the first 5 minutes and then get over it!

 

[RAMWDWFAN]

fkj2,

My email address is ramarks@sgi.net.

Rhonda

 

[nanajoyx2]

This next trip I am going all by myself. Last July/Aug I thought about going solo because my DH said we were just there in March and we were going again in Dec. so he wasn't interested. But instead of going solo I invited my best friend to join me. She lives in California and had never been to WDW. We had the best time celebrating the fact that we had known each other 50 years. I invited her again this year but since she is building a new home she passed on the trip this year. But I know she will join me again, probably next year. During my upcoming trip in June I plan on doing all the little things, like member update meetings, that I wouldn't normally do with other people. I am a big ride fan, but I don't care what I ride this time. I love to people watch and I intend to sit on Main St. in MK and have a good time relaxing and people watching. I have a niece who lives not too far from Disney, so if I get lonely or bored (never), I can call her for company some night for dinner. She will probably insist on picking me up at the airport. I don't write trip reports, but I will let you know my experiences with a solo trip when I return home.

 

[disrailfan]

You may all find this very bizarre but I (father) am actually embarking on a trip the first week of June with my two DD's (12 and 15). My DW is working for a major optomitrist in the Indianapolis Area and they are opening her new store right here at home in Noblesville. Needless to say it opens the first week of May and her GM says that she needs to be there and that we should cancel our trip. Now we don't plan trips 2 months in advance, since joining DVC we now plan sometimes 2 and three years in advance.

Anyway my DW told me that I should go and take the girls and Bond. See the girls don't live with us as they were from my first marriage. I try to spend as much time with them as possible but I think that this will bring my DD's and I closer.

I almost said the heck with it and stayed home, but my Wife insisted.

I guess you have to look at it this way. Would it bother you if they went without you? I would gladly allow my wife to go alone with my kids or even without me especially if it were because I had to work.

Just some thoughts......