DVC and graduation

[ain0004]

Our Middle daughter is set to graduate high school. And of course as a present she wants to go to Disney world.. she asked today. If she could skip the graduation ceremony and go to Disney a day or two earlier. Keep in mind she is not include in anything. She has no friends from her school. She does not participate in any sport…. She literally has to days counted out that she don’t have to walk in the building again. She said she would rather be at the happiest place on earth than be miserable.
Has anyone let their child do this?

 

[crisi]

I don't see why you wouldn't. Unless its important to you to see her walk across the stage.

I will say that I had a horrific high school experience and left high school early, I did return to walk and it was OK. I did it more for my parents than anything. My youngest also had a horrific high school experience and didn't attend their Senior year either (we both started college classes early) - and did walk. It wasn't THAT important for either of us individually, but it made parents and grandparents happy. Plus, there was something final about the ritual - because we both hadn't been in the building in months.

But it sounds like your daughter has some high school related trauma. Let her get out out walking (and honestly, get her out of high school early if you can - it might be late to enroll in a community college, but if you can do something - online school if it worked during Covid? you might, high school can be traumatic for those that don't fit in).

I think its particularly tough for the Covid kids. If they were isolated before Covid, Covid didn't help - and it illustrated what a farce the "going to high school" part of getting an education actually can be.

May she find her people in her next stage.

 

[ain0004]

I don't see why you wouldn't. Unless its important to you to see her walk across the stage.

I will say that I had a horrific high school experience and left high school early, I did return to walk and it was OK. I did it more for my parents than anything. My youngest also had a horrific high school experience and didn't attend their Senior year either (we both started college classes early) - and did walk. It wasn't THAT important for either of us individually, but it made parents and grandparents happy. Plus, there was something final about the ritual - because we both hadn't been in the building in months.

But it sounds like your daughter has some high school related trauma. Let her get out out walking (and honestly, get her out of high school early if you can - it might be late to enroll in a community college, but if you can do something - online school if it worked during Covid? you might, high school can be traumatic for those that don't fit in).

I think its particularly tough for the Covid kids. If they were isolated before Covid, Covid didn't help - and it illustrated what a farce the "going to high school" part of getting an education actually can be.

May she find her people in her next stage.

Lots of empty promises made by school for her final year. Including. Not having to go a full day. And now mandated to.
She won’t even eat lunch with the kids. She helps at recess instead with younger kids.
We are sort of stuck staying at the school, unless we would do GED. Which I do not believe is the best for her.
Graduation is important but why bother if she is so unhappy

 

[Sandisw]

Honestly it sounds like it’s something that can be missed and she would enjoy it better to be at WDW.

I might even find out if they can issue the graduation folder they give out at the ceremony before hand to you so you can take it with you and snap picture with it lol m the trip! They always gave it empty to my kids who got their actual diploma mailed a week later.

I say go for if!

 

[crisi]

Lots of empty promises made by school for her final year. Including. Not having to go a full day. And now mandated to.
She won’t even eat lunch with the kids. She helps at recess instead with younger kids.
We are sort of stuck staying at the school, unless we would do GED. Which I do not believe is the best for her.
Graduation is important but why bother if she is so unhappy

I get it. I wish I would have pulled my youngest about at the end of their Sophomore year and homeschooled her - but homeschooling a college bound high schooler is hard. The bullying was really bad. Mine spent lunch in some understanding teachers classroom.

 

[TCRAIG]

I wanted to skip my HS graduation (and I liked school) but the school told us we had to attend. I did skip my university one - no regrets. I wouldn’t give 2 seconds thought to it - let her skip and have a great trip!

 

[disneydreamer1980]

My sister skipped her graduation years ago for a family trip to Australia and she doesn’t regret it. They mailed her diploma. When you’re a senior high school graduation seems so important but how many of us even think about it years later? If she’d have better memories on the trip I’d for sure do that.

 

[SleeplessInTO]

I went to my high school convocation and my university convocation for my parents. I had zero interest in attending. The events did not exceed my rock bottom expectations. My professional certification convocation actually managed to go below my rock bottom expectations. I’m so happy I do not have to attend any more of my own.

So the question is, are you okay with her skipping it? Sounds like she’s not into it.

 

[starry_solo]

Never walked for high school, university. It’s not a big deal.

did walk for AA because relatives (other than parents) came. Also walked for graduate school because I was one of the speakers

 

[ain0004]

I went to my high school convocation and my university convocation for my parents. I had zero interest in attending. The events did not exceed my rock bottom expectations. My professional certification convocation actually managed to go below my rock bottom expectations. I’m so happy I do not have to attend any more of my own.

So the question is, are you okay with her skipping it? Sounds like she’s not into it.

Conflicting feelings… jury is still out. I also know. The more I say she should go. Is the more she will make it her life mission not to go.