DSIS...Wedding....Mexico....ARGH!!!

[HisEllyNelly]

I had this same problem in 2001. WE were taking our first trip anywhere as a family other than camping locally. We had planned and planned our trip to WDW and couldnt wait. Then my dearest friend decided after the trip was planned,depostits paid for, vacation time at work reserved, and kids very excited....she and her now DH were going to get married on Sanibel Island...one month after our trip. I hated to do it but had to tell her I couldnt be there. There was no way I could do it.I couldnt even take more time out of work....never mind the cost of getting back to FL. I felt terrible but....they understood.

 

[Felicia]

I guess I am the exception here - Took my family to Mexico in July and loved it. Loved it so much that we are going back next July! Is it hot? Of course, but that is what the ocean if for - to cool off. We stayed in the Riviera Maya, in an all-inclusive. Be drank only bottled water (which the hotel provided plenty of) and none of us became sick.

I wouldn't NOT go because of 1) it being July in Mexico, 2) worried about getting sick (you will probably get sick from worrying, not the water ) and 3) hurricane season (you take a chance - people live in Florida even though a hurricane can happen there).

Anyway, just had to get my 2 cents in for Mexico!

 

[sk!mom]

I think destination weddings are wonderful. If I hadn't been so young when I married, it is definitely what DH and I would have chosen. But DH and I would have been happy if we were the only two there.

Having said that, I would skip it if I were you. You don't sound as if you want to go. I can't imagine them being angry. The negative side of a destination wedding is that many friends and family will be unable to attend. If you plan this type of wedding you have to accept that negative.

 

[Kallison]

I think if you do go, don't take your DD and do it for a few days only. Definitely she gets a way CHEAPER gift! I don't think your DH should have to forego his vacation though, that just doesn't seem fair. Your Dsis should be understanding, she is the one making attending difficult.

 

[katerkat]

Gosh, my SIL was considering a destination wedding in Mexico, and I was encouraging it!! We have to fly to get to her wedding no matter what, so I would have loved to make a nice trip out of it. (Heck, weddings are the only reason the Air Force will let DH leave the county!)

 

[shortbun]

1. as a travel agent, I worked with many groups going to
destination weddings. The bride and groom usually don't hear
many of the gripes from people about the expense nor realize
what a hardship it is for some of the people who feel they really
need to be there. If there is some way you can discuss your
problem-your dh doesn't fly, the cost and your concern about
Mexico with a small child - do it now. It's a year away and it's
possible to come up with a compromise of some type. A vow
renewal at home or a reception where the rest of the family could attend? It seems like your sister has turned her wedding into
an adult event. Her friends don't sound child friendly but I'd be
careful what I said about them to her. She obviously wants them
there.

2. I've taken my son to Mexico/Akumal twice and I've gone myself
countless times. Never has any of us gotten sick. It IS hot and
one has to drink bottled water; I even use the bottled to brush
my teeth as a precaution. i do this in Europe, the Caribbean,
Cincinnati, et al. Some folks have sensitive "systems" and a
change in chemical treatments does effect them. Most people
get sick on vacation from too much heat, too much alcohol and
too much rich food with grease that they are not accustomed to
or food that has not been kept properly cooled on a buffet.
Most of these resorts have buffets so keep an eye on how they
present the food and if things are questionable, be careful as
you would anywhere.
This hotel, not near any other-the Moon Palace perhaps?, probably has a great water treatment system and will give you
nothing to worry about.

3. I'm not sure where you live but July is a great month to get
a good price. You'd have to wait for specials and risk not getting
the perfect package but if several people do it, stay at the
same place-cars can be rented at Cancun airport and it's
pretty much impossible to get lost-there is only one road south,
all hotels run off that road. Get some directions from the hotel
before you go-don't ask at the car rental in the airport.
July WILL be hot but the ocean breezes and ceiling fans usually
keep things bearable. Children love the beach and these resorts
are amazing so you will have fun. The resorts are so big, it's
easy to dump people you don't want to hang with. They have
several pools and children's programs.

Two posters right? Different issues too I think. Good luck to
all. I wish I was going with you. It's been too long since I
went to Mexico for a good rest!

 

[Kristi1357]

I am always up for a good excuse to go on a trip - anywhere!

That said, it sounds like you have many really good reasons not to go on this particular trip. And I probably would decline myself given the circumstances. You've been given alot of good advice here already.

I am just wondering why your sister didn't ask family how they felt about a destination wedding first? DH & I got married at WDW. Before definate plans were made, we asked our parents and siblings if they could come. We told them up front that we could not afford to pay their way, but would be thrilled if they would be there. If one of them said no, we probably would have done something closer to home instead. Aunts, uncles and even friends came to FL for our wedding - but then again, it's hard to turn down a trip to the Mouse House, isn't it?

Good luck talking to your sister about this!