DS last night w/his best friend.......very tough on us

[FINFAN]

DS best friend and my dear friend are moving to AZ in a few days. Due to all they have to take care of etc., toniight was the last time the boys could play together. She and I knew it would be too hard if we were hanging out too, so gave the boys their time. This is so hard.....much harder than I thought as we have had many neighbors and playmates move...
I just can't seem to stop the tears and I am trying to hide them from DS....For once I wish I were moving to AZ over Florida....


Pam

 

[Serena]

That's so hard.

 

[mommytotwo]

Have the boys write to each other every month or more. They can also send each other pictures and drawings. Maybe both families can meet at Disneyland or WDW every year or so for a get together.

 

[browneyes]

 

[mamajoan]

It is very hard to be the one left behind at the old homestead.

I agree have the boys write one another. Post cards are great and most kids love getting mail.


Big Hugs for all of you!

 

[Pooh93]

{{HUGS}} to all.

 

[tlgoblue]

The same thing happened to us 3 years ago. It was very painful, as you said, worse than I thought it would be. It was exascerbated by the fact that we moved 3 weeks later ourselves, and DS had nobody. Just last night, DD said he was in her room crying over how much he misses them. I didn't stop crying for months, and I still cry every holloween. We did get to nisit with them for a wonderful 4 hours last year. we will make a 6 hour drive from Phoenix when we visit my mom, to LA (where they now live). We have also vacationed with them in Vegas, and when they come to Michigan, we make sure we get back there to see them. It helps. DH travels quite a bit to LA, so we may get to tag along this summer. That would be the best!

Just look for opportunities. Exchange Email, letters, phone calls. DS and Garret each got vidio phones that work through thier computers. I think that garret has settled in his surroundings much better than DS, and is sort of moving on, which is hard on DS. He has some sort of bizzar allegience to garret, and just won't have anyone else as his BEST FREIND. Make sure you keep you DS involved with other kids, so he can move through this.


Tracy

 

[disykat]

My DS's best friend moved in 3rd grade. It was very tough on both boys. They are now in 5th and still talk on the phone and e-mail. AND - guess who's going all the way across the country for their vacation this year so the boys can have a reunion? We never thought we'd make it to North Carolina from Washington state, but dh's sister's family is stationed in Virginia Beach right now so we couldn't pass up the opportunity to get the boys back together.

I'm so excited for them to see each other, but worried too. It won't be the same and I'm afraid that they'll be disappointed.

 

[FINFAN]

Thanks everyone for the thoughtful posts and ideas. I guess it was inevitable, as people move from here all the time. DS did get some sleep, but was up early today making a drawing to send, and watched some of the video I took of then playing last night.I also have the feeling our friends will move on and DS will stay locked in. If the situation were reversed DS would have to focus on his new friends out there to settle in, move on. I think since I know thatand DS does not is why I am concerned. I think he pictures us visiting AZ all the time, over the school holidays. Maybe if we were to win the lotto A little girl in DS class moved to NJ a week ago, so even in class he could not get away from the feeling of losing his friend as the stress was "in the air" .... I also know it will be up to us to make the visits for the most part. Thy have never liked IL much, and really, Iother than to see friends I doubt I'd come back here much either...def not during the cold grey months, which is pretty much 70% of the time.
Well, there is not much we can do but move on, but as mamajoan said...I guess it is pretty hard to be the one left on the old homestead. We are ALWAYS the ones left. Isure do hope to do something about that one day soon!
Pam

 

[nativetxn]

I wish <i>I</i> was moving to Arizona.

I know how painful this time is for you, I've been through the same thing. I just cried and cried.

It will get easier but this is a huge loss and it will take time.

{{{HUGS}}}

 

[dvcfamily41801]

Hopefully your son will feel better, and you too!! Like others suggested, sending letters and postcards will be great for them!!