DS 18 is not getting a graduation party. UPDATE; somewhere on Page 10

[LukenDC]

They have moved out of the house of course, leaving no forwarding address. Because we are so mean spirited we wouldn't even let them take the tent that they have been forced to live in. I charged them for it. I did give them a discount because the mosquito netting had huge holes in it. I also let them take the old citronella torches, you know the ones I was going to through in the trash for mosquito protection. It saved me a trip to the dump. We have been on the outs since I switched from Charmin to generic toilet paper. The worst part is yet to come. When they fly to Hawaii with us, ( I suspect they will be speaking to us by then) they will be sitting in coach class. DH and I will be in first. That really is abusive. I am not sure they give you a full can of soda in coach. They may have to wait until the flight attendant makes another round! 18 days in Hawaii is going to be tough for them. One of our accommodations has no air conditioning. They will really be roughing for 5 of those nights on Kauai. .

Cruel, powerful women fascinate me!

 

[momof2inPA]

There is a certain amount of fatigue that comes with getting your forth, less ambitious son out of high school.

Dawn, this is your lazy statement. If you didn't want to celebrate the accomplishments of four kids, you should have had three.

 

[momof2inPA]

Let's be honest. On the DIS certain posters illicit certain responses. Dawn is one of those posters. If she had posted the same thread under an alias the responses would probably have been much different.

Some posters see political and personal posts as entirely separate issues and reply as such. Dawn earned all the crappy responses she received on this thread. To be honest, if an unknown had posted the same thread, I bet the responses would have been worse.

 

[Lanshark]

Some posters see political and personal posts as entirely separate issues and reply as such. Dawn earned all the crappy responses she received on this thread. To be honest, if an unknown had posted the same thread, I bet the responses would have been worse.

I'm not condemning or defending Dawn. Personally, I very seldom agree with her stance, especially on political issues. Some of the responses about being lazy are such personal shots that you know it's because of a history between Dawn and someone else. It is what it is.

 

[momof2inPA]

I'm not condemning or defending Dawn. Personally, I very seldom agree with her stance, especially on political issues. Some of the responses about being lazy are such personal shots that you know it's because of a history between Dawn and someone else. It is what it is.

I SAID she was being lazy. I felt that was her true reason for not having a party from post 1, and she confirmed it later on- fatigue at getting a fourth child through school, blah, blah, blah. It's not because of some personal history, far from it. I've defended Dawn on other threads when everyone was pretty much against her.

 

[Skywalker]

Exactly. The story only changed when it was pointed out how mean spirited she seemed. Had she just said that they don't normally throw parties and that none of her other kids had parties and they were taking him out to dinner then there would have been no issue and no need to even post. The OP was worded in such a way that the kid wasn't getting a party because she thought he didn't deserve one.

That about sums it up.

 

[DawnCt1]

Dawn, this is your lazy statement. If you didn't want to celebrate the accomplishments of four kids, you should have had three.

There are multiple definitions of "fatigue"; I suggest that you look them up. With reguard to your "three instead of four"; again, another nasty jibe that seems to define you lately. That's too bad.

 

[DawnCt1]

Cruel, powerful women fascinate me!

Thanks. Someone didn't pick up their shoes. I am stuffing the air conditioning vents in their rooms with dirty socks and turning up the heat.

 

[NewJersey]

I'm fascinated this thread is still kickin'! Can we please let it go?

 

[DawnCt1]

I'm fascinated this thread is still kickin'! Can we please let it go?

Sounds good to me!

 

[Disney Doll]

I guess I feel as though you let him get out by the skin of his teeth...

There is such a thing as personal repsonsibility and a high school aged child is not too young to learn it.

Sorry, I agree with Dawn on this one. Your choices have consequences, and now he will see the result of his choices.

Tough, but necessary lesson to learn.

 

[NewJersey]

Sounds good to me!

Wait..Dawn...you and I in agreement on something?? This is a good day.

 

[Disney Doll]

wow, just wow

It's your choice, but don't be surprised if you end up in a really craptastic old folks home one day.

Newsflash...you can kiss your kid's butt from now until the day you die, and it doesn't guarantee you a spot in a good nursing home.

I have seen many times in my 23 years as a nurse, mainly dealing with the geriatric population, that having kids does not guarantee that you will be well-cared-for in your old age.

As a matter-of-fact, coddling them tends to make them think that you owe them, and you get a put into a "craptastic" nursing home so they can have more for their inheritance when you "croak". And many of them pray for the day.

Generally, it's all about the money, honey, not their childhood, not their upbringing and certainly not their high school graduation party.

 

[DawnCt1]

Off Topic and I have noticed this before. There are little adds above the posts or below the posts that key into words in the body of the message. I just saw an advertisement for.....of all things.....MOSQUITO NETTING!!

 

[Disney Doll]

I haven't read this whole thread and I'm sorry if this is OT, but why does everything need a party?

I NEVER had a sweet sixteen or graduation party for high school or college. My mom didn't even COME to my HS graduation because she said that she was going to wait for the "important one" i.e. college.

I didn't even go to my college graduation (so I guess she didn't need to go ). I'm in grad school and I don't think I'll go to that either, its just another excuse for the university to suck one more dime out of me. However, I will go out to eat with my family as a small celebration.

In my family you weren't anything special just because you graduated. You were supposed to do it. A party was like giving you a medal for wiping your *ss

Sorry for being so blunt, but that's just how I was raised

Were you raised by my parents?

 

[eeyore45]

Another "opinion"

My ds 18 graduated and we debated on the open house (like others have posted a burger, chip fest where people come, talk, leave go to the next open house) we debated on a "party". My son also pretty much "skated" by, knowing he wasnt working to his potential didnt enter into it, what "he" wanted did... we had cake, and he had his gf and a few others over for cake. I gave him 2 presents, that totalled $100.. His gf and her best friend were shocked - they couldnt believe the cake and PRESENTS!! lol

They are from Russia, and both are pretty much straight A students, working, studying...

so it is about expectations, and family traditions....

 

[eclectics]

Sounds good to me!

Good one! It's too bad you have all boys Dawn, won't you miss us all "helping" you plan the wedding parties!?

 

[DawnCt1]

Good one! It's too bad you have all boys Dawn, won't you miss us all "helping" you plan the wedding parties!?

I'll do the rehearsal dinners. Peanut Butter and jelly sound okay??

 

[crz4mm2]

I'll do the rehearsal dinners. Peanut Butter and jelly sound okay??

Sounds like a plan to me. Wanna help plan DS's rehearsal dinner?