Dress - I need your advice ladies!

[Cleofish]

Hello all,

I am calling on you all for your advice please, as I am having a little bit of an inner disagreement with myself. I have always tried to step away from following the crowd and doing what everybody else does (hence I won't be having a stricty trad wedding, walking myself down the aisle, doing my own speech etc), but when it comes to wedding dresses there is this little voice in my head screaming that I should do the traditional long white dress etc, or else I won't feel like a bride.

Now I know my wedding is a little while off (about 29 months to be exact), but I a bit of a neurotic planner, and I am looking at all kinds of options at the moment, but I have seen a hot pink long prom dress with sparkly bits all over it, which I think is utterly gorgeous, and I could sooo see myself wearing it on my wedding day.

My question is do you still think I would "feel" like a bride even if I wore a hot pink dress, or do you think I should stick to white and accessorize with pink & aqua blue (my two colours)? Any opinions welcome, even if you hate the idea and think I will look like Barbie (totally wish I had that figure though!!). Thankyou so much ladies, you're all stars!!

 

[Lindsay22]

I personally wouldn't wear a prom dress... however, I switched dresses two or three times during my planning... I like the idea of wearing something white with different colored accents. You could even do something like Gwen Stefani, her dress was pink on the bottom and faded to white on the top. It's your choice though and it's your wedding and you are the one that not only has to wear your dress, but also look at the pictures for the rest of your life.

 

[nycegrrl]

My dress is red...and I'm wearing a feather in my hair. Non traditional? Yes. Gorgeous? Absolutely! The right dress is a huge part of the day, but remember that feeling gorgeous is really what the "right" dress is all about. If the dress gives you that feeling...go for it!

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

if its done right & it doesnt scream tacky, go for it
since time is on your side, I'd look around more.

GL!

 

[KSchwagg86]

I agree with Lindsay...also, will you look back later on and regret not having a beautiful white dress on your day? If you don't think so-go for it!

 

[spacerangerqueen]

I say go out and try on both traditional dresses and non traditional dresses and see which ones make you feel best. It's not necessarily the color of the dress that makes you a bride. Add a veil and a bouquet and of course the groom lol, and you will be a bride, no matter what you wear. Like a PP said you can always add color to a traditional gown, that's what I am doing. Really it all comes down to what makes you the most comfortable.

 

[tiggersam00]

I say go out and try on both traditional dresses and non traditional dresses and see which ones make you feel best. It's not necessarily the color of the dress that makes you a bride. Add a veil and a bouquet and of course the groom lol, and you will be a bride, no matter what you wear. Like a PP said you can always add color to a traditional gown, that's what I am doing. Really it all comes down to what makes you the most comfortable.

ITA! Good advice Becky

 

[disbridemimi]

I agree with Becky!

 

[Ember]

Truthfully, I wouldn't focus too much on wanting to be "unique" for your wedding. Instead, go for what you like and what makes you happy, regardless of who has done it before you.

Just about every bride I've ever talked to got caught up in ways to make her wedding "different." But the thing is, it's only the details that change. And that's okay. Part of the solemnness in a wedding ceremony is in that fact that the basic general format has been followed for generations.

I'm a pretty non traditional lady myself, I walked myself down the isle, I kept my last name, etc. I also wore a big white dress and loved it! This isn't to say that a pink dress wouldn't be spectacular, I would just make sure your reasons for choosing it are based on your own desires and how it makes you feel rather then just to be different. Go try some dresses on and see what makes you feel happy!

 

[Pirate's Princess]

I think you really need to figure out if you want to colored dress because you WANT to do it or because you like to be defiant. You should do what you want. Make sure you're not avoiding the white dress because you'd like to be different because then you'll regret it. Think about what you really want for your wedding...and maybe discuss it with your DF. It's his wedding day too and maybe he's dreamed about seeing you in a white dress. While not comparable to us, they have some wedding dreams too.

 

[Swmhc]

I have to agree with Samantha. I had in my mind what I thought our wedding would look like...being middle-aged and a second wedding for both of us. I was thinking semi-formal with a tea length nice dress/gown and him in khaki's and a nice shirt. When I showed DH a couple of dress ideas, his face fell and he said "That will look kinda strange with a tux, won't it ?" He already had in his mind a tux and a princess gown. Well, I couldn't pull of the princess look, but I did end up with an ivory wedding gown and he got his tux.

So definately make sure you are on the same page. You have plenty of time to find a dress and many brides change their minds many times during the planning process. In the end though, I wouldn't worry about "tradition" so much as making your wedding what you and your DF want it to be.

Good luck !

 

[lurkyloo]

I swore I would never wear a white dress (for one thing, I'm too dang pale!), but all the colored dresses I tried on made me look like I was going to the prom or a quinceanera. So I did the white dress thing but wore a huge aqua necklace to keep my face from disappearing in all that white. I felt kind like I'd "given in" to something I didn't want to do, but it ended up looking good so I didn't care.

I say pick the dress that you feel best in, no matter what the color!

 

[Cleofish]

Thanks everyone for all your opinion, I really appreciate them! I had mentioned it to DF and he just said it was up to me, he wasn't bothered what colour I had, so I think perhaps I need to go trying on some more!! Thanks guys, you're the best!

 

[tiffster]

well i think you should wear whatever makes you feel gorgeous and comfortable. however, i didnt ask anyone for their opinion on my dress, i loved it and i dont care what anyone else thinks. so, if youre asking ppl on a discussion board then youre too worried what other ppl think. go for the pink dress, it obviously what you want, just dont worry bout it. youll be the most beutiful woman on you wed day, and everyone else will think so too. hope it all works out.

 

[lpizzuro123]

I agree with all and think you should wear what you feel great in. I was SO close to ordering a gown with red trim but when it came down to it I really wanted the traditional. I still look back at that dress and think about how much I liked it but in the end I decided to go with tradition.

My suggestion (along with other here) would be to try on both and see what makes you feel right. Maybe go for the white dress and add a bright pink sash. I also wanted to do red shoes but stuck with the white ones - but I did dye my crini pink. It added just what I wanted.

Linda

 

[smoof]

I wanted a colored dress. I ended up with a white dress. I cannot express how much I regret the white dress. It isn't me. It doesn't sound like you. Get a gorgeous dress of your choosing. White doesn't make it a wedding dress.

 

[CinderelliT]

I totally wanted a blue dress, but I ended up with an ivory one instead. I totally love it, and never would have picked it out if I hadn't tried them all on.

I am a pageant girl, and all of the blue dresses make me look like I was just doing another pageant or formal event. They weren't over the top for me.
The ivory was sooooo pretty and flattering when I put it on. Soooo...

Go try on a bunch, and pick the one that makes you the happiest!

 

[amberg@eastlink.ca]

since youre still a ways off, keep trying girl!!!

i was on cafe mom about 2 months ago and there was a bride who married at sunset on a beach in the carribean and she wore i cant remember if it was pink or orange prom dress and her maid wore the other. it looked stunning. but then it also depends on your surroundings!

 

[Rawr]

I strongly strongly recommend that you try the dress on and take a few pictures of yourself in the dress to see if this is something that you will really like for a wedding. If you can, try to bring a faux bouquet (and even a veil if you please ) so that you look more bridal for your practice shots. If you look at the pictures and absolutely love how it looks, then I would go for it, but if the pictures look tacky, then you have just saved yourself a lot of time and embarrassment! Hope this helps and good luck on your dress hunt!

 

[DisneyFairy19]

Although you have so much time until your wedding, I would go and start trying on white dresses along with colored dresses and have someone take pics.. Print the pics out and you can decide from there what looks better on you... Although once you have THE dress on you will know that its the right dress

GL