LOL! I just talked to DH, guys so don't stress over this stuff! He does not have a menu

When I asked him about it, she said they would do it all vegan, but they offer different things at different times, so we'd have to call back closer to it, and of course he didn't care and wasn't worried about the menu and assumed they'd just take care of it and it would be good.
Honestly, I think you shouldn't worry too much about it. Have some fresh fruit if it's a concern, or plan something extra vegan, but as someone that has to request special dessert items- I could care less what it is!! It really is the thought that counts, and having an option. Vegans get used to having one option when they are out to eat! I'm SUPER excited for this we get to have more than one option, but it is our vow renewal and we're paying for it. I would never expect someone at a wedding to do that for me, let alone give me a menu option. I just wouldn't. Same as with my kids going to birthday parties and such- occasionally people will be like you and go the extra effort, but it's not expected, and if I have to bring their own cupcakes or whatever, I feel that is my job, because I can't expect everyone to cater to our diet. Just my opinion, though!