I was really impressed with the acting from the lady who plays Anna. I hated having to see her act that way (hurt and scared) but I thought her acting was incredible!!
Anna is the sweetest character and I wanted her and Bates to be happy...so I hope that they don't drag the out "bates not knowing" thing to the point where they start having problems with each other (fighting, distant etc) due to him not knowing what she's going through.
I hope they just get it out quickly, whether Anna tells him herself or whether another character tells Bates for her, because ultimately it will be better if they can face it together and she should have his support and not have to go thru it alone..
As for poor Tom I don't know who he could talk to, whoever he tells may just blame him..

Even nowadays male rape victims don't get the support they need so I can't imagine him trying to tell someone and get honest empathy and support in 1922.

I know the characters can't be happy all the time or there wouldn't be any plot in the show..but, I hate when sad things happen to sweet characters