Dog bit my kid.

[cabanafrau]

If this dog were ever to bite again & someone were to sue your IL's, they could lose their shirts. Their homeowner's insurance won't be obligated to pay out because of the previous aggressive incidents.

 

[dngnb8]

She had two puncture holes. I took her to the Dr. and they said they were fine. She was not pulling his tail or even touching him. DH was supervising her, poorly obviously. But he did watch it happened and she was just walking by him with her hand out and saying hi puppy and he bit her. Thank Goodness it was only her hand.

This dog should not be around children.

How old is the dog? Ive seen puppy and dog.
How long have they had the dog?
Where did they get the dog?

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

So Update! I asked if the dog has arrangements and MIl said no but that they won't be at the home all day tomorrow. She then asked me to help her find a place for the dog?

HELP!

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

This dog should not be around children.

How old is the dog? Ive seen puppy and dog.at least 6 years old. DD calls all dogs puppies
How long have they had the dog?5 years
Where did they get the dog?

My BIL gave it to them after the dog bit him when he was hugging my SIL.

 

[HannaBelle]

OP, that is awesome! Sounds like your IL's know there is a problem.

I would call the vet for recommendations (our helps re-home pets), post it on FB, email all of your friends and make sure you tell everyone the dog is NOT child friendly. I would fully disclose all details.

I would not put anything on Craigslist.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

OP, that is awesome! Sounds like your IL's know there is a problem.

I would call the vet for recommendations (our helps re-home pets), post it on FB, email all of your friends and make sure you tell everyone the dog is NOT child friendly. I would fully disclose all details.

I would not put anything on Craigslist.

He has also bitten an adult...

 

[dngnb8]

My BIL gave it to them after the dog bit him when he was hugging my SIL.

Where did BIL get it? Some dogs, just cannot be pets..... Curious, what is the breed

 

[ols386]

So Update! I asked if the dog has arrangements and MIl said no but that they won't be at the home all day tomorrow. She then asked me to help her find a place for the dog?

HELP!

Well, that is good news. Sounds like MIL is actually listening to you and your dh and is trying to find the dog a good home.

Course, it's not really up to you to find it a new home, but it will be nice of you to help them.

I would do as a pp mentioned. Call your vet or your IL's vet and ask if they know of anyone who wants a dog. The other thing is that Veterinary Offices frequently know of Animal Rescue Groups who take-in dogs and find them homes. Or possibly give it to the humane society. I definitely wouldn't give it to an animal pound.

 

[dngnb8]

So Update! I asked if the dog has arrangements and MIl said no but that they won't be at the home all day tomorrow. She then asked me to help her find a place for the dog?

HELP!

I would find a No Kill Shelter and take it there.

 

[manning]

The choice to get rid of the dog is THEIRS! The choice of taking your daughter there is YOURS!

In other words it is not your place to tell them what to do. Just tell them you will not bring your daughter there and why. Leave it at that and there will not be any confrontations and hard feelings.

There is a reason the dog is biting and it is up to the owners to stop it.

When I was a kid we got a 2 yr old dog from my aunt who was named "snapper". It took awhile, but my dad broke him of the habit and hitting was not involved. Turned out to be a good dog.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

So, at what point are you going to stop relying on your in-laws for free childcare and stop taking your daughter there? Ever since your daughter was born, you've been complaining about them, yet you still leave her with them. You know this dog has bitten before, but you left her with them.

Have you learned your lesson yet?

I actually pay for childcare throughout the week. So don't get it twisted. They are still her grandparents and my husbands parents so i can't very well cut them out of her life. The blame is wide spread, yes it is my fault for leaving my daughter with her father over at their house, it's my in laws fault for taking in a dog that bites and it's my brother in laws fault for giving the dog to them after knowing the dog can snap, because he didn't want it around his own children.
Yes, i will be keeping her away from the home until the dog is gone but your tone is so unnecessary right now.

 

[herdtoDisney]

This dog has bitten at least three children, and it's own previous owner. It sounds like a very unhappy dog, and the humane thing to do is to euthanize it. It doesn't sound like it has a chance at a successful rehoming.

 

[ols386]

I actually pay for childcare throughout the week. So don't get it twisted. They are still her grandparents and my husbands parents so i can't very well cut them out of her life. The blame is wide spread, yes it is my fault for leaving my daughter with her father over at their house, it's my in laws fault for taking in a dog that bites and it's my brother in laws fault for giving the dog to them after knowing the dog can snap, because he didn't want it around his own children.

Sorry, but the bottom line is that you are the mother and you've been taking your child there knowing that they have a dog who has a history of biting. And if your husband knew the dog had bitten before, then he is just as much to blame as you. It's your's and your dh's job to keep your daughter protected, especially at that young of an age.

 

[RitaE]

It just seems like a no-brainer. This isn't the first time you've posted about how you don't feel your MIL takes proper care of your daughter.

There's no reason to cut them out of her life but you certainly don't need to leave your daughter with "care takers" who you distrust.

Does your husband not agree? You say he was there when it happened? So next time he can make sure they dog is put in a crate when he brings her over to visit, right?

Otherwise, just don't leave her alone with your in-laws, because you don't trust them.

 

[Coconut36]

The choice to get rid of the dog is THEIRS! The choice of taking your daughter there is YOURS!

In other words it is not your place to tell them what to do. Just tell them you will not bring your daughter there and why. Leave it at that and there will not be any confrontations and hard feelings.

There is a reason the dog is biting and it is up to the owners to stop it.

When I was a kid we got a 2 yr old dog from my aunt who was named "snapper". It took awhile, but my dad broke him of the habit and hitting was not involved. Turned out to be a good dog.

I have to agree. I do not believe it is appropriate regardless of the actions of the dog to tell them what to do. It is however up to you to protect your DD and that means telling them she will not be in their home and why. It's that simple. That means you need to find alternative care if they are keeping the dog to keep your child safe from it.

No kills are unlikely to take a biter and pounds/Humane Society might take them but they are not adoptable based on 3 previous bites.

I might have missed it as there are a lot of posts but can you explain "bite"? Was the skin broken? Was it a snap or an attack? What were the conditions of it happening? What about supervision of the child and dog when they were together? I have the most mellow dog on the planet..seriously people comment on how mellow he is but I still closely supervise the interactions between him and my 4 and 7 year old as that is what must be done with pets and children.

All that said..the decision is still theirs to make. If they make the choice of dog over grandchild it is sad but it is theirs to make.

You need to keep her away. There is no getting around it. To fail to do so is failing to protect your child.

Yes you can cut them out of your life (as far as not allowing your child into their home) if they are unwilling to address the safety risk to their grandchild. If they left knives or guns or pills around the house would you just say "eh..oh well..they are my husbands parents and my child's grandparents" and let your child go there anyway? I would hope not and I fail to see how the dog..that has a previous history of biting is any different. It is a known safety risk to your child..that means you as the parent act appropriately and keep the child out of their home..it really is quite simple and you don't have to cut of all contact as you can welcome them (without the dog) to visit her and you guys in your own home.

 

[Bren's Mom]

Ultimately the only thing you can really control is whether or not the dog even has access to your dd again. I personally would not allow my child to return there under any circumstances until the dog was gone. Just hearing the dog bark in the crate might be enough to make her anxious, and that's totally not fair to your dd. Letting grandma come to YOUR house to watch her, totally fine, but not going there.

I did want to address her current fear of dogs, though, and tell you that she can eventually overcome it. It doesn't have to traumatize her for life. My ds was 3 when he was bitten by a family member's chihuahua. We knew the dogs were not friendly, and they were put away inside and in a locked room inside the house while we were there for an outdoor picnic. But a teen family member happened to be taking them for a walk when we were leaving the party. He had them on a retractable leash and pushed the button as he was walking toward us, thinking he'd be able to retract it and get closer to us to say goodbye. But the dogs surged forward and one got to my ds before we could blink and bit him right on his bare knee. Ouch.

Anyway, no, we didn't sue, we didn't report it, we cleaned up his knee and comforted ds and also the family member who was walking the dogs, and the family member who owned the dogs...everyone was crying...but it was truly an accident. Yes, the dogs are mean. But they took every precaution and sometimes things just happen. Now it's 3 years or so later. We have taken great care to be aware of and sympathetic to ds's anxiety over dogs. We've also taken care to expose him to truly friendly dogs, in small doses, and only as much as he was able to tolerate, until now he's at the point where he isn't instantly afraid. He understands not all dogs are bad. In fact, last Friday he went to a friend's house for a playdate (without me) knowing they had a brand new puppy, and he played with the pup and was fine with the pup being jumpy and mouthy like pups are.

I hope in time your dd is fine and no longer fearful.

 

[Scornelius]

A dog that has bit 3 children who were pulling ears, tails etc is not a bad history. It is a bad history of children behavior to the dog.

Completely, 100% disagree. If a dog is going to be around families it should be trained to leave a 'bad' situation, not lash out. Plenty of dogs put up with being manhandled by children. This dog has bitten at least 4 times in all age groups. It needs to be put down, end of story.

This dog has bitten at least three children, and it's own previous owner. It sounds like a very unhappy dog, and the humane thing to do is to euthanize it. It doesn't sound like it has a chance at a successful rehoming.

Bingo.

OP, I'm sorry you had to go through this. but I would NOT help your MIL find a new home. This is a dog that bites when it's angry. Who wants a pet like that? Unless it's going to start a new life as an attack dog (which i think is a heinous idea) it's time for Rover to chase the great ham truck in the sky.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

This dog has bitten at least three children, and it's own previous owner. It sounds like a very unhappy dog, and the humane thing to do is to euthanize it. It doesn't sound like it has a chance at a successful rehoming.

Wow....

Maybe it just doesn't like to be bothered.

It could absolutely live out a happy life somewhere. Maybe a home where it is just taken care of. It doesn't have to be cuddled and stuff...clean food, water, shelter and a place to run.

 

[EMom]

I actually pay for childcare throughout the week. So don't get it twisted. They are still her grandparents and my husbands parents so i can't very well cut them out of her life. The blame is wide spread, yes it is my fault for leaving my daughter with her father over at their house, it's my in laws fault for taking in a dog that bites and it's my brother in laws fault for giving the dog to them after knowing the dog can snap, because he didn't want it around his own children.
Yes, i will be keeping her away from the home until the dog is gone but your tone is so unnecessary right now.

So now it's going to be pawned off on yet another home where it will probably bite someone again? Get ready to add another layer of blame, but never one layer of responsibility or common sense where that dog is concerned.

Seriously, when is someone (the latest owners) going to wake up and face the reality that the dog is a biter and take on the hard task of dealing with it once and for all? I am an animal lover, but it's time for the current owners to stop passing this problem dog on to someone else and washing their hands of it. Your BIL did that already and 3 children were bitten because he passed that biting dog off to your in-laws.

How high does the count have to go before someone acts responsibly?

 

[YarnBombed]

I did want to address her current fear of dogs, though, and tell you that she can eventually overcome it. It doesn't have to traumatize her for life.

You're right. DS was the same way..he was really freaked out by dogs, esp big dogs at first. We are fortunate that our library has an arrangement with not one but THREE different therapy dogs (all from different agencies) that come in on Saturdays for family story time. Through them, DS has become more comfortable with medium-largish dogs. One of the therapy dogs is a large Saluki that's nearly as tall as he is and he LOVES that dog to death.

So maybe, OP, check out and see if there is a library near by that has therapy dogs come in or see if you can visit a therapy dog to help your DD overcome her fear of dogs. A therapy dog will be gentle and quiet and she can work her way up to getting comfortable around dogs again.