Doesn't it make you nuts?

[LaraK]

Don't want points, don't want points!

Wench

 

[TurboKitty]

You can have him....I'd end up socking him one if he talked to me like that.

Yay, I am the weiner!

Actually, I am pretty sure he doesn't talk to his wife like that, and she's always on him about not talking that in front of their children.

 

[disneymom3]

It never really did. I did feel badly for my kids, though. Seems wicked unfair.

It's a good lesson to learn, though. You do the right thing even when others don't. And just because he does it, that doesn't make it okay.

Yeah, it has never really bothered me either. Of course, that is probably because my kids have been exposed to their cousins practically their whole lives who don't seem to have any rules. So, in restaurants, my children stay in their chairs and are not allowed (gasp) to play video games at the table. They also don't hit other people, they share with others at least a majority of the time, they do not talk back adn they do not run away from us in public places and laugh when we tell them to come back. (Well, since they don't run away, they can't laugh, but you get the gist.)

Our kids can now repeat the speech we give before every family gathering "Even if someone else is breaking the rules it does not make it okay for you to do so." OR "Mommy and Daddy expect restaurant behavior whether other people are showing it or not."

However, I would not have told my DS not to tell the other kid not to bang on the glass. AND I will enforce my rules in my house.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Wench

Thank you...

 

[sumrmist]

I've watched him once, and was amazed by his aggressive attitude. I don't fault him for it, I mean these people WANT to be on his show, so they know what they're in for.





Me and Lara are going to hang out one of these days. I dunno what we'll do, but I think crabs are gonna be involved.

Don't want points, don't want points!

You can have him....I'd end up socking him one if he talked to me like that.

me too.....or he would be very itchy from the bleach !!

Wench

trench !

 

[Tigger&Belle]

trench !

biting my lip!

 

[sumrmist]

biting my lip!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

You're the naughty one who started it!

 

[sumrmist]

no no it wasnt me LOL honest

 

[Tigger&Belle]

no no it wasnt me LOL honest

 

[lulu71]

Yes, stuff like that does drive me nuts. The one that really gets me is kids climbing UP the slide at the playground. I stress over and over to my kids that that is not allowed and then here comes some little brat that grins as he scoots right up. And I am one of those that raise my voice to tell my kids something just to make a point to the other parents. Of course they are usually oblivious and don't care that little Jonny is about to get his teeth kicked in by the world's largest toddler coming down at high rates of speed.

Thank you! This was exactly the scenario I was thinking of when I read the OP. I probably look like a helicopter parent at the playground because I'm constantly tailing my 2 year old, but it's all about teaching her not to cut and play nice!

In situations with a bad kid, I usually go over to their parent and have a little conversation with them. I'm always very nice and it always seems to work. I take the whole "help me out here" approach.

 

[dogluva]

Thank you! This was exactly the scenario I was thinking of when I read the OP. I probably look like a helicopter parent at the playground because I'm constantly tailing my 2 year old, but it's all about teaching her not to cut and play nice!

In situations with a bad kid, I usually go over to their parent and have a little conversation with them. I'm always very nice and it always seems to work. I take the whole "help me out here" approach.

Welll I have been a mother for almost twenty years and I am constantly running into those mothers who think their child does no wrong (not you, just an example) and need to report to me everyting my eight year old ADHD son is doing. He is not usually bothering anyone else but they just feel the need to watch him like a hawk. He actually gets along very well with other kids just does some creative things like find sticks and make a damm instead of going down the slides at a playground. Well, a child might get poked in the eye! (hello, keep your kid away from him then). I watch him as well (stand over him at times) and don't think I need anyone else to make sure he or any other child is safe. If he is having fun, not bothering your child, and is not breaking any laws why do you feel the need to watch him? Not all kids play the same.

Sometimes your rules are not my rules. I let my kids go barefoot on a hot day one year at a sand pit -no glass, not sharp objects or dog poop. THey were going to go home and bath later I didn't see the big deal. Well it was like I was letting them eat glass. Fine keep your own kids shoes on but there is no rule that says my kids have to and DSS does not need to be called. And my kids play outside and sometimes I am inside, they ride their bikes around the loop of my neighborhood and for five minutes I cannot see them, they are allowed even to get popsycles out of my freezer without asking. Oh, and I have left my teenagers alone until midnight. See, your rules are fine, but sometimes they are not mine. They do follow rules at other people's houses (from what I am told and if they didn't I would have no problem with the parent telling them off). But in public sometimes when I am right there you run across those mothers that feel that they need to watch and report other peoples children's behavior.

P.S. I am not talking to anyone in particular-just responding to some of the responses on this topic.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

You just say loudly that the other mom hears you, "I don't care that the OTHER kids aren't following the rules. It's WRONG! We behave ourselves and don't act like hoodlums!"

And if the other mother decided to get snooty, I'd take her down!!!

(In realizing that this is the CB, I know there's bound to be someone to say that "taking her down" wouldn't be a good example to set for my children whom I'm trying to force rules upon, so I'll put up the necessary disclaimer that it was a joke.)

This is exactly what I do, Shore.