Does your partner know your current (correct) weight?

[JOCAmom]

I have nothing to hide from the man, but the answer is still no, because I don't even know my current correct weight. I have feelings about women/young girls, self esteem and scales, so I have never owned one. The only time I know how much I weigh is when a doctor tells me.

We don't have a scale in my house either. We have never even owned one. Right now, we have a 15 year old daughter and we discuss a general healthy weight but I don't want her to focus on the exact number. We do discuss how various food seem to have an affect on her complexion or her moods. Her actual weight is not something I want to focus on at her age.

 

[FireDancer]

Frank, I'm waiting for you to share your weight, since you aren't ashamed of it.

136 according to my physical or 139 according to the scale at the gym. Depending on the time of year and if I am spending more time in the gym or on the road running and biking I am between 134 and 140.

In reality I think how you look in the mirror is more important then the number on the scale and to know your complete health picture it isn't just weight but cholesterol, blood pressure, resting heart rate, body fat %, and glucose level that you really should know. The one thing I don't know that I would love to is my VO2 Max.

 

[castmember19]

I'm not like ashamed or anything and technically I'm not lying but I always tell DBF that I fluctuate between 100-110 lbs. Which is true. What he doesn't know is that I've been teetering on the edge of 109 lbs for awhile now.

 

[frijolefrito]

My dh knows my weight now and he knew my weight before wls he loved me when I was 363 and now at 190ish.. I dont care who knows what I weigh obviously

Honestly I know how tough it must have been to get down to that! Hats off! My wife tells me her weight as a way to keep herself in check. she went from 220 to 160. She's yoyo-ing between 160 and 170. Her weight DIRECTLY effects her self esteem. I think she's actually starting to deal with the self esteem part and not caring as much about the weight loss. I've never found my wife unattractive at any point in my 9yr marriage. This is after 4 kids.

I just hate how the whole house suffers her moods if she gains some weight on the scale.

 

[arminnie]

In fact, when I was in the hospital before surgery and the anesthesiologist came in the room and asked me how much I weighed, I made my husband step out of the room when I told the doctor.

I came out of some fairly major abdominal surgery a couple of months ago. The first thing my SO said was "Wow I can't believe you weigh that much." I am a size 6 - but I do weigh over 140 lbs.

 

[Tinkermommy]

Yes, I know his and he knows mine.

 

[miaxu]

No idea he's never asked, but I would tell him if he did.

Denise in MI

Wow,you are so lucky and my lover often said that:" you shoud eat little ,be careful your weitht.

 

[Nancyg56]

My last OB visit with my first DD I was so upset. I had gained over 55 lbs and just went past 200. DH knew I was upset said "don't worry honey you still have your shoes on"

Denise in MI

You gotta love that man!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My DH has no idea, at least he did not until DD and I were talking about it. He thought that I weighed less than I did. He does know better than to ask and has learned that his idea of being supportive and helpful is not the same as mine.

 

[indimom]

He's knows as much as I know. I don't weigh myself because that stinking number undermines my weight control efforts. If it's good number, my mind tells me I can have that extra cookie. I earned it. If it's a bad number, my mind says "I might as well eat the cookie, I am never going to be thin." It was a lose-lose. I finally trained myself to put that number aside and I'm much happier for it. I go by the size and fit of my clothes.
But I don't hide the number from him.

 

[mrsdon]

I am at the heaviest I have ever been.
My DH knows what I weigh
I know what he weighs.
We are married and dont keep secrets from each other.

 

[njmom47]

I am the same size as when I first met dh (in 1994). I don't talk weight as in numbers but I weigh more than he does and that's kinda weird. But his family told me he always brought home "chunky brunettes" soooo...yeah, that's me. No scale in my house; if my clothes start to get snug, I watch what I eat for a couple of weeks.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

He probably doesn't becquse it never comes up in conversation.
I don't weigh myself much anymore.

 

[MichelleVW]

Sure, I don't think it's a big deal. I gained about 15 pounds after I retired from the military and I hated it, so I got a scale, watched what I ate and lost it (it took about a year). Now I weigh myself every morning to make sure that the weight doesn't come back on and it keeps me from putting cookies in my mouth when I'm not hungry.

You can gain 5 pounds or more before you realize it in the fit of your clothes, so I'm keeping with the scale.

 

[mumom95]

I've been doing Weight Watchers since November and I've lost almost 45 pounds. My DH knows approximately what I weigh because the morning I got on the scale (I weigh myself everyday) and my weight was finally below what my drivers license said I did a "woot woot, I'm finally belowe my drivers license weight" and I'm pretty sure I saw him sneaking a peak at my drivers license later that day If he were to ask I would tell him, but since he's never asked I haven't offered it up.

I do know what he weighs because he's also been losing weight and I asked him.

 

[PixieDustandEeyore]

Mine knows mine , I tell him all the time. If I'm gaining weight he motivates me and provides me the support to lose it. If I lose weight or maintain he encourages me to keep on that path. I do the same for him

Weight loss (especially when you're both big like us and trying to get down to a healthy weight) is sooo tricky. The support of a spouse for me at least has been critical to success, or getting through the rough spots.

 

[ols386]

Dh has never asked my weight, and I don't volunteer it.

 

[SaraJayne]

I've been doing Weight Watchers since November and I've lost almost 45 pounds. My DH knows approximately what I weigh because the morning I got on the scale (I weigh myself everyday) and my weight was finally below what my drivers license said I did a "woot woot, I'm finally belowe my drivers license weight" and I'm pretty sure I saw him sneaking a peak at my drivers license later that day If he were to ask I would tell him, but since he's never asked I haven't offered it up.

I do know what he weighs because he's also been losing weight and I asked him.

Good for you! Congrats on the weightloss!

 

[miralys]

We follow a form of "don't ask, don't tell" when it comes to weight in our house!

But seriously, I just go by the fit of my clothes. Always hopping on the scale tends to trigger bad behavior on my part, so I don't do it.

 

[lillygator]

of course he knows...we all got on the scale at Publix on Sunday = what is the big deal?

 

[BCV513]

of course he knows...we all got on the scale at Publix on Sunday = what is the big deal?

For some reason, I'm picturing all of you hopping on the produce scale.

I know what my fiance weighs. He's gained ten pounds since we met (it's a hazard of being with me). I've told him what I weigh, but he insists I'm lying and that I actually weigh much less. When I told him I was going on a diet he said "I think you're perfect the way you are, but I'll love you and support you no matter what."