Does your childs grade school....

[mom of princessx2]

Ask that you invite everyone in the class, or at least all the same sex, to a birthday party??? Ours does and I have mixed feelings.

 

[Kae]

At the pre school the kids went to if you sent the invites to be passed out at school the whole class had to be invited.
Kae

 

[PolyndianPrincessJes]

If you want to send out invitation via Thursday folders (a folder with all work, info for the week) or any other school outlet (cubbies, mailboxes, in class, etc.), then you must send them to all students in the class. If you distribute them personally, you are free to invite anyone.

 

[NikitaZee]

No - our school's policy is that parents or kids cannot hand out invitations at school at all. Any birthday invitations must be mailed to the children's homes.

 

[happygirl]

Our school district does

 

[jodifla]

At the pre school the kids went to if you sent the invites to be passed out at school the whole class had to be invited.
Kae

My son's elementary and preschools did this as well.

It's only right. Imagine the ugliness that could go on if it were any other way.

 

[luvmy3]

IN our school it depends on the teacher. We have had a few that said invies for all or none, some that allowed just a few and this year ds's teacher said either all, one sex or none at all. I mail them, its just easier that way.

 

[NHdisneylover]

No - our school's policy is that parents or kids cannot hand out invitations at school at all. Any birthday invitations must be mailed to the children's homes.

I like this policy

In the districts we have lived in it has always been IF the invites are handed out at school they must be for everybody. If they are not handed out at school, I cannot see how the scholl has any right to interfere.

 

[mom of princessx2]

Ours does ask this but this weekend a girl in her class (and she also lives in our sub-division) is having a b-party that my dd5 didn't get invited to. Now my dd know "you don't get invited to everything" but she said the girl told her on the bus she could come. I said no because we didn't get an invitation. So at 5 she doesn't quite understand why she can't go if the girl told her she could. BTW I do know they sent out invitations to others.

I am actually felling a bit more sad for her than I thought I would

 

[pjb0216]

Our school does too. If you send it to school you can invite all boys or girls or the whole class, but not individual kids. If not you have to mail them. I think they are trying to avoid hurt feelings.

 

[princesshannahsmom]

They do this at DD’s school, and its VERY frustrating. This year, she wanted to have a Twilight theme slumber party for her 10th birthday. I was completely okay with that, BUT, our house is only 1500 sq. ft. and we could not possibly invite ALL of the kids in her class, especially the boys. We do not get the address or phone number lists for all of the classmates, so that wasn’t even an option. I circumvented the issue though. I made business cards, with a little note on the back that said please call me for some “exciting” news! I got calls from the parents of the first 4 girls the very first night and the last girl’s dad called a few days later. So it worked out for me!

 

[Dancemom03]

I'd be happy if we could send any invites in thru school. Heck, after the hassle of figuring out who DD9's classmates were and how to contact them the last three years, I'd even consider inviting the entire school.

They have a very strict privacy policy even though we live in a small town. No invites of any kind at our school, no parent contact list, no last names on the valentines/Christmas card lists teachers send home, and no sharing phone numbers or emails unless the kids do it on their own individually. Early elementary kids are only so reliable. Honestly some don't even know their addresses/phones in kindergarten/first grade and even if they do, they may write it so poorly that you can't tell what it is.

Years ago, when DD20 and DS32 went to DD9's current school, it was mandated that if you were handing out in school you invited the entire class. I never minded that b/c I knew not everyone would show anyway so it all worked out in the end. DD9's birthday is three days after Christmas and, between the timing plus the difficulty sending invites, it's gotten so that I dread planning the party well before it's even time to start thinking about it. She's still talking about what/where she'd like her party this year. We usually end up doing in it in late Jan/early Feb because it conflicts with the holidays. I'm just hoping she'll remember to get everybody's phone number for the invites...

 

[FinallyBoughtDVC]

Only if the invites go out through the backpack express...in order for invitations to go home in backpacks, they have to be all the same sex of the class or the whole class.

Otherwise, it's a free country and we can do as we please.

 

[mom of princessx2]

They do this at DD’s school, and its VERY frustrating. This year, she wanted to have a Twilight theme slumber party for her 10th birthday. I was completely okay with that, BUT, our house is only 1500 sq. ft. and we could not possibly invite ALL of the kids in her class, especially the boys. We do not get the address or phone number lists for all of the classmates, so that wasn’t even an option. I circumvented the issue though. I made business cards, with a little note on the back that said please call me for some “exciting” news! I got calls from the parents of the first 4 girls the very first night and the last girl’s dad called a few days later. So it worked out for me!

That is where my mixed feelings come in play. I think once kids are in 4th or 5th grade they have their group of friends established or they want to do fun things like have slumber parties. But when they are younger, it is harder to explain especially if they are all taking about it on the bus.

 

[mom of princessx2]

I'd be happy if we could send any invites in thru school. Heck, after the hassle of figuring out who DD9's classmates were and how to contact them the last three years, I'd even consider inviting the entire school.

 

[SaraJayne]

Ask that you invite everyone in the class, or at least all the same sex, to a birthday party??? Ours does and I have mixed feelings.

Nope. The school has no say in who I invite to my child's party.

 

[ncmickeyluvr]

Our school does have a policy that the whole class must be invited in order for the invites to go out via Thursday folder or agenda.

I, however, am a rebel and completely disregard this. I have always sent invites to school with my children to only the ones they invite.

I always have my children give the invites to the teacher and ask her to distribute them....no teacher has ever had a problem with it...they must be rebels too

This year I even had to contact the teacher on the day of a Friday sleepover because dd was sick....teacher was nice enough to track down all of the kids and tell them about the rescheduling!

I do tell my kids to be discreet and not to talk about their party with the whole class. It's just a fact of life...not every child is going to be friends with everyone.

 

[DizBelle]

My son's elementary and preschools did this as well.

It's only right. Imagine the ugliness that could go on if it were any other way.

So, the bully that terrorizes my child has to be invited or no one gets invited and my child gets no birthday party? That's ridiculous.

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

K - 5, yes they did and I thought it was a great idea!!!!

Our teachers even offered to provide the contact info (given that the parents agreed to the info being given out) - that is going above and beyond, IMHO!!!!

No one is telling you who you can or can not invite to your party!!!!!

They are only setting limits on how invitations will be handed out in the school - well within reason, IMHO. They don't have to alllow them to be handed out at all. I can see why they would not want to have to deal with the hurt feelings in the middle of school time - it isn't their deal and they have enough going on!!!!

 

[mom of princessx2]

So, the bully that terrorizes my child has to be invited or no one gets invited and my child gets no birthday party? That's ridiculous.

Do you really think that that child is going to show up at the party anyhow??