Does your boss treat you with disrespect?

[boomhauer]

I was just curious how mnay else have dealt with what I've been dealing with the last few months.

I've worked at my company for 8 years. I love it. I love my job, I love the people, and I love the company. There are over 100 people in my department in over 10 different branches, and on a daily basis, my workload and stats are the best in the company. So, I've been treated very well.

However, in my particular office about 3 months, there was a bit of a shakeup, and we have a new manager in my department. Since she's arrived, my life at work has sucked. She talks down to me, is rude, lashes out at me in front of other people and embarasses me.

I'll admit, at times at work, I talk to the people I work with. We're all close and have worked together for a while. However, our new manager is very military like. No talking, no radio at work, no funny business at all. Maybe she's right, but I've always believed (as have my previous bosses) that as long as you work hard and get your work done, there's nothing wrong with a bit of "down time" to let off some steam.

So, what I do? Do I suck it up, try and talk to her as an employee, try to talk to her as a person, or just say screw it, and give up 8 great years?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

While it may be unlikable to not have all the extras--not much you can do about that.

But as far as her being rude and lashing out at you and embarrassing you in front of your peers--that is a HUGE issue and I would definitely speak up. Depending on your work situation--that is completely unacceptable especially if the lashing out has anything to do with your performance. And there is the possibility that she may be creating a hostile work environment for you.

I would definitely review your company policy on the matter and bring it to her attention. If that doesn't work, I would see if you can elevate the matter (to her superior or to HR).

Not an HR expert--but in my old company this would never happen as there is a SOP regarding how you are to approach an employee and a matter of the employees privacy that cannot be violated and if something like this occurred--it would definitely be an issue that would have to be counseled and/or reprimanded in some way.

 

[NMAmy]

I wore my boss down with efficiency. She's never treated me with disrespect but she is a serious micro-manager. After a couple of months of her emailing me to remind me to do things and I'd email back telling her to check her mailbox--the task had already been completed, she finally stopped. Now we get along great.

I hope it gets better for you. If I were you, I'd hang in there for awhile longer. I don't think I'd give up 8 years over one boss. Is there a way you can transfer departments?

 

[kirbsam]

i would read your tag, and live it. no disrepect intended. i really like what your tag says, and it seems applicable here.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

My boss has never treated me with disrespect. Yes we butt heads sometimes, and yes I probably have treated him with disrespect a few times, but for the most part he is a great guy (who drives me nuts whenever he gets in a tizzy, lol).

 

[Disney Doll]

My immediate supervisor has never treated me disrespectfully. The upper management folks are a different story...not necessarily by their behavior, because that is always professional, but by their presumption that because I am a staff nurse, that I am stupid.

In your case, since you have been there a fair # of years without issue, I woud speak to HR and ask them what the rules are for the way management handles employes, I would ask them if it is acceptable for a manager to berate an employee in front of other co-workers. Look up the definition of "hostile work environment" and see if what you are dealing with fits it.

Be prepared for retribution though. All your ducks are always going to have to be in a row from here on in, because your manager is going to be looking for any little thing to nail you on once you go to HR.

Is it possible to transfer to another area that is under a different manager and stay in the same company so you do not lose your years of service?

 

[FergieTCat]

Absolutely! And that's why I'm looking for a new job when I get back from vacation.

My boss has made it clear that I am not, and will never be, her equal. Which is fine, but she has also made it clear that my position in this department is "slave". She has four "assistants", but I'm always the one who gets the bulk of the work and the assignments that no one else has time for (I'm not being paranoid ... I rarely leave on time because I have to finish assignments, while everyone else seems to have plenty of downtime. One person routinely comes in late and leaves early, but that is apparently not an issue. I have been told that the work will not be distributed more evenly.) I'm not sure what her problem is, nor do I have the inclination to find out. We've discussed my "issues" before, and nothing has changed.

I hope I can find a new job quickly.

 

[Stitchfans]

I was just curious how mnay else have dealt with what I've been dealing with the last few months.

I've worked at my company for 8 years. I love it. I love my job, I love the people, and I love the company. There are over 100 people in my department in over 10 different branches, and on a daily basis, my workload and stats are the best in the company. So, I've been treated very well.

However, in my particular office about 3 months, there was a bit of a shakeup, and we have a new manager in my department. Since she's arrived, my life at work has sucked. She talks down to me, is rude, lashes out at me in front of other people and embarasses me.

I'll admit, at times at work, I talk to the people I work with. We're all close and have worked together for a while. However, our new manager is very military like. No talking, no radio at work, no funny business at all. Maybe she's right, but I've always believed (as have my previous bosses) that as long as you work hard and get your work done, there's nothing wrong with a bit of "down time" to let off some steam.

So, what I do? Do I suck it up, try and talk to her as an employee, try to talk to her as a person, or just say screw it, and give up 8 great years?

you just described EXACTLY what I was experiencing and I just threw away 7 years. MAKES ME SO

 

[EthansMom]

DH had this problem in his last position. He left after two years.

DH's new company treats him great and values his contribution.

 

[azgal81]

I don't think I would stay at a position where my boss doesn't respect me and makes me feel like nothing. Does she do this to other people or just you?? It just doesn't seem fair to me for you to have to go through that.

I work in a very relaxed environment we are able to do pretty much whatever as long as we get our work done.

My bosses all respect me I say bosses because I have quite a few, they keep on giving me new positions to tackle. They tell me I don't work for them I work with them and we are a team. I think it's great they have never talked down to me or made me feel like I wasn't equal with them.

Have you talked to your new manager and asked her why she feels the need to talk down to you? Is there something you aren't doing right that you should be doing. I would talk to her and explain your concerns and if that doesn't work find a new job.