Does this sound rude to you?--Yeah, it's a long story.

[NMAmy]

Today is dd's formal farewell dance (9th grade--they move up to high school next year.) There was no way I was going to be able to fix a 15 yo girl's hair in any manner that would be satisfactory to her so I made an appt at a beauty salon. Now, I'm not a person who gets a lot done to her hair--a trim every six weeks is sufficient and it's a straight cut so I just go to anyone--wherever I happen to be. This was the first time we'd ever been to this place.

DD has very long (waist-length), straight, thick hair. She wanted an updo and picked one out of a book they had there. It was nothing real fancy--twisting in the front and a bun in the back. The hairdresser decided her hair needed to be curled--I couldn't figure out why, but okay, she's the expert. She'd have to have another hairdresser do the twisting at the front because she "wasn't good at that." She was doing a terrible job at curling dd's hair--her hair holds a curl well but since it's so thick and so long, you have to leave the curling iron in longer than you would with thinner, shorter hair. She wasn't leaving the curling iron in long enough and she got frustrated. She then told dd, "You really need to get your hair cut next year before you go to the prom or else have your hair done somewhere else." WTH?? If it hadn't been 3 hours before the dance, I'd seriously have just pulled dd out of the chair and left.

She turned dd over to the other hairdresser who did a fabulous job but still seemed annoyed with the fact that dd had long hair.

I guess I just don't understand. I paid more because dd's hair was longer and I would have given a bigger tip to someone who had done it cheerfully without complaining. I still tipped but not as much as I would have otherwise.

I was also annoyed because they were very unprofessional--they had a shop full of 15 yo girls and they were giving advice to them like, "You need to find a rich man. Older guys are better. You don't want to date someone your own age." They were also discussing bikini waxes and were telling another one of their friends that came in about people they'd been making fun of at a baseball game the night before due to bad hairstyles and being overweight.

I'll find another place next time we go, but just wondered if all this is normal beauty shop behavior? I'm never in one longer than 15 minutes so maybe I'm just being too picky.

 

[Pop Daddy]

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[ChrisnSteph]

I would have loudly told them off as I walked out the door, seriously. Then I would bad mouth their business to everyone I knew. I probably would have walked out the door the second she made that comment anyway, and I would have done my dd's hair myself. That's just completely rude and unprofessional. No, most beauty shops aren't that way.

 

[princess pooh]

That hairstylist was a cow. A good stylist would never complain about someones hair or tell them not to come back! I hope the experience didn't bother your daughter too much.

 

[MorganLeFey]

my girls are 15 (10th grade) and 13 (8th grade) -- the younger one will graduate from middle school this year. both have long hair.

when the older one celebrated her bat mitzvah we went to a salon and had both girls' hair done in up-do's. when the younger one was bat mitzvah we tried a different salon.

I paid a small fortune for their hair styles in each salon. I was happy with the results.


had I encountered a stylist who "couldn't" do dd's hair...I would have complained to the owner. and since I paid $$ because my girls have long hair, I would expect the stylist not to make negative comments about long hair.


and the chatter in the salon was totally inappropriate. when I go to get my hair or nails done, the omen chat about anything and everything...but if there's a teenager around, the ladies watch what they say.

 

[Amapola]

Completely unprofessional behavior, and an incompetent hairdresser. If she can't/doesnt' want to deal with long hair, she should have said something from the beginning and traded clients with another stylist. Hope you find a great place next time!

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[NMAmy]

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Hey, I put a disclaimer right there in the thread title, PD! I did that just for you, you know!

ChrisnSteph--If it had been my hair, I'd have walked out and left. But I'd rather deal with some rudeness and get dd's hair done rather than a 15 yo girl's freakout 3 hours before a dance. She did love the end result so that was good--I'll just go somewhere else from now on. Good to know it's not normal behavior. I'm nowhere near a prude but jeez--those women were weird.

 

[Pop Daddy]

Hey, I put a disclaimer right there in the thread title, PD! I did that just for you, you know!

C.

I know ya did it for me, but I thought you still wanted it

 

[NMAmy]

I know ya did it for me, but I thought you still wanted it

You're absolutely right, PD. If you hadn't put it in there, I'd have gotten my feelings hurt.

 

[belle_of_the_ball]

wow....i would have told a somebody about that. I have been to places where they complained about the length of my hair (middle back) and what it does (perfectly flat and thin...so it doesnt curl). I stopped going to the places....when i had my froshie formal i wanted curls more than anything. I found a hair stylist who figured out the time and amount of hairspray. I was lucky she understood what was going on! Who ever the girl who was doing your DDs hair was an idiot (or doesnt know advertising) She would have done the best she could have and wouldnt had told you to go some where else! 3hrs before a dance is fine.....im the DD and i would have walked out of there!

 

[luvflorida]

She then told dd, "You really need to get your hair cut next year before you go to the prom or else have your hair done somewhere else."

Wow, I would have been stunned by this comment. If it was my daughter in that chair and the hairdresser made that comment to her, she would have been upset. What a thoughtless comment to make to a 15 year old girl.

I would have tried to say something to lessen the impact on my daughter, and then I'd NEVER go back to that place again. And yes, all the other talk that was going on was totally inappropriate in a place of business.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Yes she was rude.

Since your dd has long hair it is best to get a consultation so you know the stylist can do it.
Then when you find that person hang onto them!

Funny thing...DD was in a wedding in Detroit and needed an updo. Well the shop was FULL of wedding parties. I am talking 30 people or more!
Alot of Italians with LONG HAIR.

Now the updo they did was all the same, but I had never in my life seen a stylist do quick work on hair.
Hair spray, curling irons, and bobby pins were flying.

It was truly a site to see. It was like a "fast food salon".

 

[momof2inPA]

Since you don't often go to salons, I'll let you in on a little secret. Good hair stylists are as tough to find as good dentists. Some stylists will do an acceptable job on your hair but are not acceptable for other reasons-- they don't make good conversation, they don't work the hours that you are free, they smell like ashtrays, they talk about their personal lives in ways that make you feel uncomfortable, etc. When you find someone who cuts, colors, and styles your hair the way you like and isn't repulsive in other ways, you should hold onto her (or him) and tip well.

 

[fivefordisney]

Wow...that is NOT a fun way to begin the evening! I really believe you did what was right by not causing a scene while your daughter was there. I would, if I were you, go back and talk to the owner and confront the stylist. You don't need to be mean about it. In fact, if you stay calm and rational, they can't blow off your concerns so easily. It's much easier to blame a "crazy" person!

Now, if they don't look like they are taking you seriously, then pull CRAZY out!

Sorry about your experience...glad DD got her "do" anyway!

 

[RobinMarie]

Since you don't often go to salons, I'll let you in on a little secret. Good hair stylists are as tough to find as good dentists. Some stylists will do an acceptable job on your hair but are not acceptable for other reasons-- they don't make good conversation, they don't work the hours that you are free, they smell like ashtrays, they talk about their personal lives in ways that make you feel uncomfortable, etc. When you find someone who cuts, colors, and styles your hair the way you like and isn't repulsive in other ways, you should hold onto her (or him) and tip well.

You are soooooo on the money!

 

[LK03]

After the hair was done I would have asked both stylists, "guess your mother didn't teach you any manners." Your absolutely right, they have no right to complain when there are extra fees in place for people with longer hair and what I don't understand is they are expecting a tip. It's common knowledge, don't annoy me or make me mad because your tip will suffer. I just don't understand some people. My mom sure would be dissapointed in me if I treated a customer that way.

 

[miss missy]

Heck never go back. Nothing was good there. bye bye to them!

 

[IwasatWDWforamonth]

Warning
this is way off topic but you made me think of this.

Ok my mom took me to the foot dr to fix my toenail, Im 15 at the time and he started rambling about all the legal stuff TO ME not my mom it was seriously over my head, But I made a mistake by saying so basically yoursayngif igt aids or something I cant sue you,, He then YELLED get jill the patient is threatning to sue, he had two nurses the office staff all come in and suround me, my mom said cant you just do the surgery, he then said that it was up to me , And I said its why my mom brought me I certainly didnt want it.
as he was doing it I was in pain, but everytime id cry he would say I was scaring the young girl in the next room which had to be at least 12..
My mom never said a word she just put up with him.
There sure are mean people out there, its nonef that hairdressers business how long your daughters hair is.that was totally rude.

Guys I apologize for the words on this post while trying to fix typos I made it worse, everytime I tried to fix somehing I lost part of the word,

 

[Stacerita]

Those hairdressers were out of line. I worked my way though college in a hair salon and if we treated anyone that way, or talked about things we should not have, we would have been fired.

In high school I had a ton of very long very thick hair. I always had to pay more for updos, and styles. I knew I had to pay more. But if I was told what your DD was told I would definately have told the stylist where she could put her curling iron. That was uncalled for and rude of her to say.

As another poster stated, a consultation would have helped a lot of the situation I think. But regardless, the hairdresser was unprofessional.

 

[MickeysMommy]

Completely RUDE. So sorry, Amy. Hope the had a great time at the dance. You are going to have to send me pics