Does Anyone Else Have a Good Marriage?

[mrsltg]

Lately there seem to be a lot of "bad marriage" threads. I can understand that things happen, and life doesn't always turn out the way you planned. HOWEVER, it's beginning to make me feel (coupled with a few real life acquaintances) like there is an unreasonable amount of bad marriages.

My DH and I have been married about 6.5 years. Still newlyweds by some standards, married forever by other standards. We've had our share of ups and downs but when the day is done there is no one I'd rather be saying goodnight to. Does anyone else feel this way? Or are we all doomed...

ETA - We're all in love ! After 6 pages of reading about everyone and how happy they are I feel much better! Congratulations to all of us! It's good to be happy!

 

[Bob Slydell]

My DH and I have been married about 6.5 years. Still newlyweds by some standards, married forever by other standards. We've had our share of ups and downs but when the day is done there is no one I'd rather be saying goodnight to. Does anyone else feel this way? Or are we all doomed...

Nope, you're not alone, my DW and I are the same way (married 9 years this October).

Now, if she'll only agree to be "available" 5-7 times a week...

 

[bicker]

I don't believe in bad marriages -- only bad spouses. With sufficient commitment, any disparity can be overcome, so bad marriages are just, to me, a failure of commitment (but one side, the other, or both).

My wife and I have been married over 12 years. She's planning something special for the 15th anniversary of the day we met. Does that answer your question?

 

[bananiem]

I agree that it doesn seem that way sometimes. But I assure you there are lots of us with good, happy marriages too. It's just that if things are going fine, you don't tend to complain or ask for advice so you don't hear about he happy ones.
It's like when I was pregnant. I was worried about not feeling ill. My doctor told me the majority of women don't get morning sickness. But you only hear from the ones that do, so everybody assumes they're supposed to get it.
(Dh and I will be married 17 years in June.)

 

[kaylajr]

Lately there seem to be a lot of "bad marriage" threads. I can understand that things happen, and life doesn't always turn out the way you planned. HOWEVER, it's beginning to make me feel (coupled with a few real life acquaintances) like there is an unreasonable amount of bad marriages.

My DH and I have been married about 6.5 years. Still newlyweds by some standards, married forever by other standards. We've had our share of ups and downs but when the day is done there is no one I'd rather be saying goodnight to. Does anyone else feel this way? Or are we all doomed...

This June will be 14 years for DH and I and while we also have our ups and downs
I consider ours to be a "good and happy Marriage"

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

19 years and going strong!

 

[cardaway]

IMO the interenet has made it clear how many bad marriages there are out there.

And IMO (just my opinion) anybody that complains about their spouse to strangers on the internet is in a bad marriage.

 

[mrsltg]

Nope, you're not alone, my DW and I are the same way (married 9 years this October).

Now, if she'll only agree to be "attentive" 5-7 times a week...

5-7 times a week???? My dh is almost 40 - I think it would kill him !

I do feel better, though, after reading these replies!

 

[Nevergrow'nup]

We have been together for over 25 years and have been never happier. We have had many friends have their marriages self-implode but we try to learn from their mistakes and never take one another for granted!

 

[popeyeohoh]

18years here. Happy now. You will only hear from the unhappy ones. All marriages have bad times. That's how you learn to appreciate the good times. I realized that giving unconditionally makes your spouse reciprocate in like. That was a hard lesson for me.

 

[thelionqueen]

I've known my husband for over 12 years, been married 5. I could not imagine even a single day without him.

We are very happily married, and when people see us together, they think we're newlyweds. I come from a family of long marriages, and look forward to growing old with my husband.

 

[ead79]

I’m still a newlywed by most standards (I’ve been married just over 2 years--known each other almost 8 years), and we have a wonderful marriage. Of course we have our problems, but we work together to get through them. I feel so unbelievably blessed to have my husband. God really picked the perfect match for me.

 

[Magickndm]

Another very happily married here.

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

Married 17 years and going strong. I love the quote....

"Marriage is not only finding the right partner, it's being the right partner."

 

[Trish Bessette]

I am blessed with a wonderful marriage! It will be 14 years this October, however we have been living together for 20 years! He is my best friend who I love more and more everyday.

We both respect each other and to me, that is the key to a successful and happy marriage!

 

[dis ms.]

I've been married seven years and I think we have a great marriage. I rarely post about my marriage because we're boring. We're way to middle of the road for "Trading Spouses" and I never have anything juicy to tell--although DH did forget to through away the newspaper after he finished reading it yesterday!

 

[Laura]

Happily married here!

I hope all the people who post on the DIS because they are in a bad marriage get the kind of relationship they deserve!

 

[TXTink]

Yep! DH and I have been married 23 years. He is still my best friend and favorite person to be around.

 

[jx3smom]

We've been together 21 years and married 15 of them. We've had some rocky spot but are very happy. Actually, I think that we're happier now than ever.

 

[mickeyboat]

14 years in June for us, too. Congrats to us, kaylajr!

Our marriage is happy, and has been filled with lots of ups and downs.

Some friends of ours are divorcing after 14 years, and DH and I were discussing it yesterday. We couldn't imagine, short of infidelity or some other major issue, why you couldn't work through your problems. I guess that's a testament to our feelings about marriage in general.

Denae