do your kids ask you who are you talking to on the phone?

[Mskanga]

My oldest one does and it drives me insane. I am the mother not her, and if I believe she needs to know who I am talking to I will let her know. From now on maybe I should make her sit by me when her friends call, what do you think?

 

[onecoolmama]

Yes, my DS does this too. It only bothers me because if I am in the middle of talking and I ignore him, he starts shouting "Who are you talking too?"

We are working on waiting until I am off the phine, but he is still little.

 

[Mskanga]

Mine is not little, she's 11.

 

[grinningghost]

Not anymore, but when she was little she did. Now she doesn't seem to care at all who I'm talking to. If it isn't one of her friends, it doesn't carry much weight.

 

[onecoolmama]

I remember asking my mom though. Yeah, mine is 3. But, TBH now that I think about it, all of my brothers asked too.

I dont think they are doing it to be disrespectful, at least that wasnt why I did it. I was one of those people (and I guess all of us were like that) that never wanted to be out of the loop.

But if you dont like it..can you tell her. My mom use to run away from up while she was on the phone

 

[got2lovedisney]

My daughter 16 does that and I'll just tell her, if it was for you I would've handed you the phone. That doesn't bug me too much cuz she doesn't do it too often.

What really irks me is when SHE gets a call and I hand her the phone. She'll ask me who it is...who cares!! She's going to answer the phone and talk to whoever it is anyways. Why bother asking? Just get the phone so I can get back to websurfing, tv watching, dog petting [insert lazy activity of your choice].

 

[CamColt]

Oh yes! DS7, has recenetly started this everytime Im on the phone. At least if the caller calls in he tries to read the caller ID, LOL!
Also if I run into someone I know and say hi or stop to talk, I get the very loud "Who Is That???".

 

[Beth76]

my 3yo son does this all the time. Then he wants to talk to whoever it is. I usually lock myself in a room to get away from him. I'm trying really hard to teach him that he's being rude, but he just doesn't get it. I feel really bad for the people I'm talking to.

 

[Beth76]

sorry double post

 

[Shugardrawers]

My DSis's kids do that all the time. I hate hearing them in the background "Momma, who are you talking to?" over and over and over and over again. Then, when they find out it's me they demand to talk to me. That's not so bad but they never have much of significance to say and I'm not a big phone chatter. I guess I should be glad because some day they won't be interested in telling me about their boyfriends/girlfriends and the bugs they saw today.

 

[Piglet]

Oh Yes. My DD (7yo) has to know everything. She spends her summers at work with me and is constantly asking "Who was that??" My boss thinks its funny.

She gets it honestly - my great grandmother used to watch all her neighbors out the kitchen window and would call around if she didn't know where my grandmother (her daughter who lived beside her) was. We call my DD "Little Grandma Cutchall"

Melinda

 

[CEDmom]

DD does and I always tell her it's the GYN she then will ask if she can say hi .

 

[browneyes]

No, they can gather who I'm talking to from what I say or gauge by my body expression. I don't get many calls.

 

[aimee11621]

How about when you get in the car and they want to know where are we going? "on an errand i say" that old cliche "are we there yet?"

That drives my DH bonkers.

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

DH travels a lot, so anytime the phone rings when he is not at home (and sometimes when he is!), DD1 (5 1/2) always asks to talk to Daddy. Then when I say, "It's not Daddy, it's (insert any name here), she wants to talk to that person! I hope she outgrows that phase soon.

 

[Keli]

LOL, Ashli used to do that to me and it would drive me crazy. I got to where I would mouth the name to her once but if she didn't catch it the first time she had better just listen to my end of the conversation until she figured it out or ask me when I hung up.

 

[KimRaye]

Hoo-boy, after reading that 'shut up' thread, I'd rather post here!

My DD pushed me to the last day of summer, twice today, while I was on the phone, with her constant, repeated, who's that, who are you talking to, chant, over and over. I was upset the first call (but not DD's 1st time doing this), and I explained to her (yet again) how extremely rude this was to keep repeating the same question over & over again to someone who's on the phone. I explained that I didn't call HER to talk, and didn't need a 3-way conversation. Then, she did it again on the 2nd call! I snapped my fingers loudly at her, made the mouth motion to 'zip her lips', and when I was done, I did the BAD MOMMY thing and told her to shut-up. Will she do it again? Probably. Just not as frequently since she starts school in the morning.

And, as I remember, DS did the same thing as well.

 

[AStarOnMars]

I'm 22 and still ask my Mom She does the same thing to me ... we whisper it though.

My bf and I will mute the TV to figure out who she's talking to ... it drives my Mom insane (but she always laughs) ... it is a fun game for me ... I can always tell who she is talking to by the tone of her voice.

 

[Goobergal99]

Personally, I dont really see what the big deal is, However my mother and I had a more liberal relationship then the gilmore girls when I was growing up so usually she would whisper all of the drama of the phone calls to me inbetween being put on hold. LOL parents really need to stop trying to play the "I'm the parent card" all of the time. My mom and I are close as can be and I really believe it has everything to do with how open and honest she has always been with me.

I have had this debate so many times in college as well, alot of the older students who are parents seem to think that being a friend to your child is against the rules of parental authority. I disagree, I think parents who treat their children the same as adults have much more independent and mature children and teenagers, then those who treat them like second class citizens.

I mean give me a break, what's the problem with your child asking you who is on the phone? unless it's your secret lover (and your married to their father) I really don't see the point in being secretive about it. My DD is only five and I never hesistate to tell her who I'm talking to on the phone.

 

[epcotfan]

I really don't see what the big deal is with telling your child who is on the phone.