Do You Visit Relative's Gravesites?

[tvguy]

Actually, my wife and I visit a lot of cemeteries because they are very interesting places. Lots of history, and once in a while, lies. There is a cemetery next to where I used to work and I used to walk through on my lunch hour. One person somehow got a Veterans Headstone saying he was a Vietnam Veteran. What caught my attention as someone born in the same year and month as this person was, he (and I) would have been 15 when U.S. Troops left Vietnam. Too young to have served in Vietnam.
But in researching our family history, we have learned that things like Obituaries can be largely works of fiction. My Grandfather's obituary, which appears on the front page of the Oakland Tribune, listed information that research shows is now true about him.

 

[easyas123]

No - not really, my paternal grandparents & my grandmother parents are buried at sea. I have been back to the area though. My maternal grandparents died while vacationing out of the country and so there is a gravesite but nothing in it.
My own parents will be buried at sea w/ the others. We don't really do burials/cemetery's in our family...but I will say I do find a old cemetery to be a beautiful spot to take in and explore. We were lucky enough to visit the Central Cemetery in Vienna in November of last year, so interesting! We spent 4 hours walking around and didn't see it all.

https://www.wien.info/en/sightseeing/sights/from-a-to-z/central-cemetery-342500

 

[MamaMermaid]

I visit my dad regularly — every 2 months or so, especially on holidays or his birthday. Or even if I’m around that part of town.

I visit my maternal grandparents whenever I visit WV which is usually 1x a year.

 

[disneyseniors]

Nope.

My parents are somewhere in the basement, still in the plastic bags and cardboard boxes they came in from the crematorium. I guess I need to figure out what to do with them before my kids have to deal with them.

My Dad was an avid fisherman, so when he passed, we put his ashes in his favorite tackle box and buried him in his favorite place on our property.
People should do whatever makes them feel better about a loved one passing. No one way is the Right way

 

[easyas123]

People should do whatever makes them feel better about a loved one passing. No one way is the Right way

Well said!
I'm finding it very interesting to read about the different ways people approach this.

 

[georgina]

Extremely rarely. Four generations of family on my dad's side are buried in a cemetery in Ohio, which I wandered through when my DD was looking at a college nearby in 2012. My parents are in another cemetery in Cleveland which I haven't been to since my mom was buried there in 2017. We did visit DH's mom's grave last time we were in Wisconsin, since covid cancelled her memorial service. But generally, no, and DH and i have no plans to have a cemetery plot or marker anywhere. Probably do some kind of green burial.

No one I know really likes to visit graves, personally I don't see the point. I can remember someone without traveling to where their bones are. However, I live close to a large cemetery and walk through it at least 3 times a week. Best place to see lightning bugs around here on a summer evening.

 

[RangerPooh]

No. My family is not from where I live. As a kid we would visit my aunts (dads sister) grave on her birthday and death anniversary.

I did visit an ancestors grave when touring Boston this spring.

 

[kanerf]

No, none are nearby.

 

[amcnj]

Yes, occasionally. Some need periodic tlc due to a tenacious, spreading, almost vine-like grass that overwhelms the stones, which have to be flat, flush to the ground types in that particular area. That whole section has that type of grass, maybe a zoysia variety?

 

[Neapolitan Ice Cream]

Depends.

My grandfather and grandmother both share a plot in a local site, which we tend to regularly, clean and leave flowers etc. My uncle is in a far away place. Another uncle was scattered on Glastonbury Tor, so can't really pin down a site there! I think we still have the ashes of other relatives? It's a varied past.