Do you think this was Wrong??

[Cindyluwho]

The purse is real. Each purse is 48.00. It retailed for 198.00. The purse is called Patchwork Demi?? That is the name my daughter said it was. It is not a wallet. Much bigger. More the size for a young girl. She bought them both at Marshall Fields. They are real. That I did not question.

I know the purse. They had it marked at 50% off at The Bon (Macy's) a few months ago. It would make sense that they'd be down to $48 by now. Clearance plus an add'l 40% off.
I personally wouldn't have given her back the bag, once my child wanted it I would have considered it sold. What a great gal that she thinks it's OK to take something back from a child.

 

[Disney-Kim]

If she tries to sell a fake Coach on ebay it will get pulled.

I just wanted to say that there are tons of fakes on Ebay and yes Ebay does pull auctions...but there are still people who lie, fake reciepts, guarantee authenticity or your money back...although its fake, etc.

you can buy LV receipts, tags, bags, and boxes on Ebay. Sellers are very creative in getting around the "fake" thing.
just my input.

 

[AprilShowers]

My response to this "friend" would be: "sorry! DD just LOVES her new purse, she's got all her stuff in it and carries it to school every day! There's no way I can ask her for it back now."

And in my opinion, if you do decide to cool things with her, you're not loosing a friend over a purse, you are loosing a friend because she valued a purse over your friendship in the first place.

 

[CajunDixie]

If you find it on Ebay, I'd at least place a bid then mention to your neighbor how excited you are to find one on Ebay for your daughter.

 

[kristen821]

It depends on if you paid for it yet or not. If you paid for it she was really wrong. If you haven't paid for it yet it wasn't a nice thing to do, but wasn't completely wrong. I wouldn't lose a friendship over it though!

 

[inaminute]

If you find it on Ebay, I'd at least place a bid then mention to your neighbor how excited you are to find one on Ebay for your daughter.

Ask her why she isn't carrying it every time you see her for the rest of your life!

If you have the money make sure you are the highest bidder and then buy it off ebay.

You people are evil! But fun!

 

[gypsydoodlebug]

Did your DD carry it? Then it would be used and harder to sell.

This reeks of conspiracy -- I think I would be mad, too -- not over her taking it back, but because she lied about it just to make a buck.

 

[N.Bailey]

And in my opinion, if you do decide to cool things with her, you're not loosing a friend over a purse, you are loosing a friend because she valued a purse over your friendship in the first place.

 

[pearlieq]

I say, for goodness sake, don't lose a friendship over a small matter as a purse. Friendships are hard to come by. You can always buy a purse. I say to put this matter behind you and keep the friendship. Remember, "don't sweat the small stuff."

That's great advice, but this doesn't really seem like "friendship".

"Don't sweat the small stuff" and "Friendship is more important than money" apply when your friend stiffs you for the tip when you have lunch together. What this lady did was much worse. How can someone be your "friend" when they treat you like that. Frankly, I wouldn't really want to roll over for more.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I know the purse. They had it marked at 50% off at The Bon (Macy's) a few months ago. It would make sense that they'd be down to $48 by now. Clearance plus an add'l 40% off.
I personally wouldn't have given her back the bag, once my child wanted it I would have considered it sold. What a great gal that she thinks it's OK to take something back from a child.

EXACTLY!!!!
If were just a misunderstanding, or if it were myself, then I could let it slide. No parent is happy when somebody treats their child like that.

To those who say, "it's just a purse", well at that point where the OP had to go take the purse back from her DD, it became much more than that.

And don't even get me started about the dishes. That was downright theft.

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

EXACTLY!!!!
If were just a misunderstanding, or if it were myself, then I could let it slide. No parent is happy when somebody treats their child like that.

To those who say, "it's just a purse", well at that point where the OP had to go take the purse back from her DD, it became much more than that.

And don't even get me started about the dishes. That was downright theft.

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I feel so bad because I can't believe she would do this. She has not called me to go on our nightly walk. I guess she gets the idea that I am mad. I would never do this to someone. Money is not worth a friend. I probably will at one point talk to her. We do live across the street from each other but I need time to cool off. Thanks everyone.

 

[Buckalew11]

I think I'd be asking myself if that is the kind of friend that I wanted.

 

[momof2inPA]

I wouldn't fight with a friend over an ugly purse. You could probably find a cute purse on ebay that your daughter would like if you looked hard enough.

 

[momrek06]

I say, for goodness sake, don't lose a friendship over a small matter as a purse. Friendships are hard to come by. You can always buy a purse. I say to put this matter behind you and keep the friendship. Remember, "don't sweat the small stuff."

Yes, I agree "don't sweat the small stuff"....BUT I don't think this is ABOUT the purse...it could have been a jacket, scarf, book..heck anything..that is immaterial....I think it is about respecting a friend and being true to a friend and friends listening to friends in good times and bad...real and true friends don't call up each other and give them some gobbly goop about needing the item BACK...if she was a true friend she would NOT have risk the friendship and just simply told HER sister, "I offered the purse to "tinkerbelle" and she bought it for her daughter so the purse is NO longer available!" END OF SUBJECT!! OUR OP: did not end the relationship, the purse lady ended it with that phone call she choose to make!!!

 

[momof2inPA]

Yes, I agree "don't sweat the small stuff"....BUT I don't think this is ABOUT the purse...:

I think it's about a "Coach" purse. If it were some Walmart purse, the OP probably would give it back and not care.

 

[N.Bailey]

I think it's about a "Coach" purse. If it were some Walmart purse, the OP probably would give it back and not care.

I don't agree with you at all. It had nothing to do with it being a purse other than the fact that she'd already given it to her daughter and then had to tell her daughter she couldn't keep it.

The friend chose money over the friendship. IMO, I think she did the OP a favor by showing her ugly spots.

Take your child to the store and buy something that they want, then take it from them and see how it makes you and your child feel. It certainly doesn't have to be a Coach bag. Make it something that's appealing to your child, then take it away without replacing it. Sure the OP could buy her daughter another bag, but if she can't find one at THAT price, she may not be able to replace it. That's all beside the point however, as this friend will probably make roughly 40 bucks (assuming she doesn't have to pay the SIL anything besides eBay and Paypal fees and that's a stretch from someone who stole dishes already). So, she put less than a $40 price tag on that friendship. Way to make your friend feel super special, huh?

 

[momrek06]

I don't agree with you at all. It had nothing to do with it being a purse other than the fact that she'd already given it to her daughter and then had to tell her daughter she couldn't keep it.

The friend chose money over the friendship. IMO, I think she did the OP a favor by showing her ugly spots.

Take your child to the store and buy something that they want, then take it from them and see how it makes you and your child feel. It certainly doesn't have to be a Coach bag. Make it something that's appealing to your child, then take it away without replacing it. Sure the OP could buy her daughter another bag, but if she can't find one at THAT price, she may not be able to replace it. That's all beside the point however, as this friend will probably make roughly 40 bucks (assuming she doesn't have to pay the SIL anything besides eBay and Paypal fees and that's a stretch from someone who stole dishes already). So, she put less than a $40 price tag on that friendship. Way to make your friend feel super special, huh?

THANK YOU, NANCE!!!

No way is this about COACH, PRADA, Wal-Mart, SEARS, JC PENNEY or KATE SPADE!!!

It is about RELATIONSHIPS and FRIENDSHIPS and RESPECT!!!

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

If she would have been honest I don't think I would have been this upset. The fact that she lied is what has made me mad. It really has nothing to do with the purse. I am sad that she did this to our friendship. My girls have gotten over it. They keep saying they can't believe I posted this. I guess I needed to vent. I'll get over it.

 

[fanofdisney]

Funny you say that. I had my daughter look on ebay to see if she sees anything. I will check tonight. This way she has more time to put it on.

Yes, keep looking for it. Then tell her she should've just told you the truth and you probably wouldn't have been so mad, and it's just wrong to do that.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I'm confused--has the purse been listed on eBay? If not, how do you know for sure that she is lying?

I would be irritated over the whole thing, whether she is lying or not since you made a deal with her and then she changed her mind after you have the purse to your DD. However, I would not let my irritation ruin the friendship unless I knew for a fact that she was lying.