Do you think this was Wrong??

[poohandwendy]

If she would have been honest I don't think I would have been this upset. The fact that she lied is what has made me mad. It really has nothing to do with the purse. I am sad that she did this to our friendship. My girls have gotten over it. They keep saying they can't believe I posted this. I guess I needed to vent. I'll get over it.

Maybe she lied you, maybe not. I don't know. But, if it is about being 'truthful', then in the OP you admit to lying too (for her birthday lunch?):

The thing that makes me so mad is she lied. I brought the purse back and cancelled our lunch date with a lie. (I was taking her out for her birthday)

She wasn't upfront for whatever reason, neither were you. I think I would not allow something like this to get in the way of a friendship.

 

[LoraJ]

I'm still waiting to hear if you had paid for the purse, or if you had just taken it to show your daughter if she would like it.

 

[flaps]

Do you think this was Wrong??

I flipped a coin.

Heads = Right
Tails = Wrong

Results were inconclusive.

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

I'm still waiting to hear if you had paid for the purse, or if you had just taken it to show your daughter if she would like it.

We did pay her. She did give the money back.

 

[disneylizzy]

Yes, I agree "don't sweat the small stuff"....BUT I don't think this is ABOUT the purse...it could have been a jacket, scarf, book..heck anything..that is immaterial....I think it is about respecting a friend and being true to a friend and friends listening to friends in good times and bad...real and true friends don't call up each other and give them some gobbly goop about needing the item BACK...if she was a true friend she would NOT have risk the friendship and just simply told HER sister, "I offered the purse to "tinkerbelle" and she bought it for her daughter so the purse is NO longer available!" END OF SUBJECT!! OUR OP: did not end the relationship, the purse lady ended it with that phone call she choose to make!!!

ITA! I would never behave that way to a friend and my true friends would never do that to me. She showed her true colors and she would be on my "hey, how are you, let's do lunch sometime, air kiss, goodbye" list.

 

[LoraJ]

We did pay her. She did give the money back.

bleh!
I wouldn't have given it back. It was your property at that point.

 

[momof2inPA]

If the OP were a real friend, she would have told the other lady that the purse wasn't too young and it looked great on her, even if it is an ugly bag. That might be part of the problem. The friend may have wanted to keep the bag, but was too embarrassed to admit to it after the OP said it was too "young" for her. I bet the sister liked the bag and told the friend to keep it. Either way, grown women shouldn't be fighting over an ugly purse.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Either way, grown women shouldn't be fighting over an ugly purse.

Finally...someone said that it's an ugly purse. I didn't want to be the first to say it. Only my opinion, however--no offense to anyone who owns it.

 

[N.Bailey]

If the OP were a real friend, she would have told the other lady that the purse wasn't too young and it looked great on her, even if it is an ugly bag. That might be part of the problem. The friend may have wanted to keep the bag, but was too embarrassed to admit to it after the OP said it was too "young" for her. I bet the sister liked the bag and told the friend to keep it. Either way, grown women shouldn't be fighting over an ugly purse.

Did the OP tell the friend that the purse was too young, or did she simply tells us her true thoughts in this thread? Way to base your opinion on something you don't know is factual.

I don't think it's an ugly purse either. Actually, I thought it was kinda cute and my 14 year old daughter loved it. According to past auctions on eBay, it doesn't look like we're alone in our opinion either. I guess there is no accounting for taste.

 

[N.Bailey]

Finally...someone said that it's an ugly purse. I didn't want to be the first to say it. Only my opinion, however--no offense to anyone who owns it.

Actually she said the same thing in an earlier post. You musta missed it at that time.

 

[Chilehead Too]

Ahh, the purse is ugly anyways. Don't sweat it. However, if I were your friend, I would have just given the purse to your daughter. What's 48.00 amongst friends really.

 

[rie'smom]

It seems that if you or anyone has to ask,"Is this wrong...,etc.", then you probably feel in your heart that it is.
If you ask me,(which you didn't,lol),Coach, Louis Vuitton,Dooney and Bourke,are all ugly. Everytime,I see one of them, I picture the designers like this: , , ,

 

[mum4jenn]

If you ask me,(which you didn't,lol),Coach, Louis Vuitton,Dooney and Bourke,are all ugly. Everytime,I see one of them, I picture the designers like this: , , ,

I AGREE with this!! I have NEVER considered ANY of those bags cute. Even if I haqd millions to spend on them I still would not buy one unless they actually came out with something I liked. I don't buy anything "just for the name".

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Actually she said the same thing in an earlier post. You musta missed it at that time.

I missed it.

I don't own an expensive purse, but I do like a lot of them. Just not this one and with the inexpensive clearance price, they either bought way too many or a lot of other people didn't like the look of them, either.

But of course I'm sure there are plenty of things that I like that other people think is ugly.

 

[damo]

If the OP were a real friend, she would have told the other lady that the purse wasn't too young and it looked great on her, even if it is an ugly bag. That might be part of the problem. The friend may have wanted to keep the bag, but was too embarrassed to admit to it after the OP said it was too "young" for her. I bet the sister liked the bag and told the friend to keep it. Either way, grown women shouldn't be fighting over an ugly purse.

If I asked my friend if something looked silly on me, I would want them to be honest.

 

[N.Bailey]

It seems that if you or anyone has to ask,"Is this wrong...,etc.", then you probably feel in your heart that it is.
If you ask me,(which you didn't,lol),Coach, Louis Vuitton,Dooney and Bourke,are all ugly. Everytime,I see one of them, I picture the designers like this: , , ,

I've yet to meet a Louis Vuitton bag that I've liked. Coach, Dooney and Bourke have a few that I like though. I actually like the Demi Coach bags more than I liked the Demi patchwork one, but I still think the patchwork one was cute. It's a little young for me, but my daughter would LOVE to have this one:

http://cgi.ebay.com/Coach-Punch-Sig...882668720QQcategoryZ63852QQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

and we'd both take this one:

http://cgi.ebay.com/NEW-COACH-7542-...881165328QQcategoryZ63852QQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

I think the fact that she lied is what bothered me the most. The purse I thought was cute. I'm forty and she is a little older. I personally thought my 19 year old would like it more. I did tell her the purse looked more for a younger person but she should keep it if she wanted it. It didn't matter at the time one way or the other. She is the one that said I could have it. I asked her over and over if she was sure. I did nothing wrong. I could never take something away from someone. Never. I would have to take the loss. My friendship with someone would be so much more important. I'll cool off in a couple of days. Right now I am just mad. She is also the same person that lost our other friend's slider for her necklace and laughs it off. She claims it was junk. I guess I'm starting to see her for who she is. She also has a friend with a weight problem.Everyday I have to hear how fat she is and how much she eats. This goes on every time I talk to her. Her son makes fun of the women and so does her husband. I tell her that people that are heavy don't choose this. It is an addiction like smoking and drinking. (LIKE HER HUSBAND) Anyways, I have to move on from this. Thanks for everyones feedback.

 

[jtnsami]

Yes, I agree "don't sweat the small stuff"....BUT I don't think this is ABOUT the purse...it could have been a jacket, scarf, book..heck anything..that is immaterial....I think it is about respecting a friend and being true to a friend and friends listening to friends in good times and bad...real and true friends don't call up each other and give them some gobbly goop about needing the item BACK...if she was a true friend she would NOT have risk the friendship and just simply told HER sister, "I offered the purse to "tinkerbelle" and she bought it for her daughter so the purse is NO longer available!" END OF SUBJECT!! OUR OP: did not end the relationship, the purse lady ended it with that phone call she choose to make!!!

I have to totally agree with this one...It's a matter of principal.

 

[poohandwendy]

I think the fact that she lied is what bothered me the most.

If that is the bottom line on this, you admit that you lied to her too (regarding the birthday lunch). Why is it ok for you to do so, but not her?

 

[Wishing on a star]

To the OP:

your so-called 'friend' is the one who chose to be an indian giver, and to treat you and your daughter disrepectfully. Along with others that you have mentioned.

It doesn't matter WHY she took the purse back. Whether to try to profit on Ebay, or whether it was to keep the purse for herself, etc.

I think that those who are trying to make a big deal out of a little white-lie that you were kind of pressured into by this situation must be awfully proud of how 'perfect' they think they are? Funny how some of those who would hold this supposed little white lie against you are probably the same ones who think you should have lied, and that you should NOT have told the truth, when your neighbor was discussing whether you both liked the purse or not, or whether it was 'to young looking'!!!