Do you think this is rude? added more info post #34

[npmommie]

Agreed.

And it never fails that when someone posts something about their wacky family and the masses don't agree with the OP about how horrible the family is, or even *gasp* points out the wrongdoing of the OP, the OP chimes in with "new" or "additional" info or backstory to try and justify the anguish.

OP...let it go.

I was just going to post that I was not going to let it bother me since the majority said let it go, but the only reason I provided back story was to answer some questions,
someone said do they offend easily, so I gave the story, someone else mentioned it not being right to leave a thank you message, so I gave backstory as to why I did that.
that is all.
no big deal.

I should never provide backstory, I should know better, I have been around here long enough. LOL

 

[scrapquitler]

I don't see any reason for the OP to be offended that the BIL didn't call her back to thank her for the thank you. (In my family we always imitate the wiggles skit "Thank you for thanking me for thanking you for thanking me).

If I call someone and don't get to talk to them, I don't say "Please call me back". Rather I say, "Since I didn't get to speak directly to you, I will call again tomorrow" if I really want to speak directly to them. If I don't need to speak directly to them, then the conversation is over and done as soon as I finish leaving the message.

 

[tlbwriter]

Would it bother you if the same thing happened with someone else? It's probably your history with these people that makes it so annoying.

(Also? The next time your husband says "we" need to call them? Say "Go ahead, honey. Give them my love." )

 

[beaucoup]

Unless the end of the message specifically said you wanted to talk to us about something and to call back, I would have taken it as a thank you call and the rest as chit chat. I wouldn't have made it a point to call you back.

 

[Liberty Belle]

buddy ,I know now you must be very angry, but not this time your friend he is too busy, that he didn't time to reply you, perhaps until he mangwan, he will give you a reply yet, if he really is also ok still do this to you, that this kind of behavior really ashamed, make a person very disdain

I get the gist, but mangwan? What is that supposed to be? Just curious - it's been bugging me.

 

[Magpie]

here is some back story.
I left the message saying thank you because these two are the type to get offended if they do not get a thank you quick enough.
it is my dh's brother and his wife.

they offend easily over all sorts of things.
So I have started over the years to just call to say thank you, I have on occasion had the kids write a thank you, most times we call and if a message is left, the kids leave the message, this time I left the message cuz the kids were not in the room, they were outside playing and it was the day after christmas and my dh was adamant that we call and thank them immediately before they got offended.
see a pattern here?
( the gift I was thanking for was for the kids)


strange family dynamics.

so I think I got a little miffed because yesterday we were coming home and we see them walking their dog, they live in our neighborhood, so we stopped said hello, chit chatted for a few minutes, and I say to my BIL, btw did you get our message, and he says yes. I can't type how he said it, but it was like " yes I got it so?"
but they didn't seem upset with us over anything, we talked for a few minutes and went on our way, but I got to thinking, sheesh, we call to say thank you........ say merry christmas, its the holiday and you don't even call back to say merry christmas either?

that was why I was thinking how rude.
its the holidays, its his brother, and he doesn't even return a call wishing merry christmas.

my dh is the youngest of 6 brothers, he says he is used to how they are.
but after being married to him and in this family for almost 24 years, they never cease to amaze me with some of the stuff they do.

I think you're over-thinking things. Just live in the moment, enjoy your life, continue leaving prompt thank you messages because it makes YOUR husband happy, and let all the rest go.

It's none of your concern whether they are offended or not. If they are, they will let you know. If they don't let you know, then you don't have to worry about it.

 

[Pakey]

I think because you are already defensive in regardsto your relationship with them, you may be reading things into a gesture, comment, etc that isn't really there.

 

[snowywhite89]

If you live in the same neighborhood why did you and the kids not walk over to their home to thank them for the gift?

 

[npmommie]

If you live in the same neighborhood why did you and the kids not walk over to their home to thank them for the gift?

lol probably the same reason they sent the gift thru the mail instead of dropping it off

they would so not appreciate a drop in either, they have said out loud they do not like anyone just dropping by.

they live in the same neighborhood, they are about 1 mile up the road

 

[Wishing on a star]

(Also? The next time your husband says "we" need to call them? Say "Go ahead, honey. Give them my love." )

Ding Ding Ding!!! We have a winner!