Do you think this is rude? added more info post #34

[npmommie]

If you call someone and leave a message thanking them for a gift wish them happy holidays and give us a call when you have time..... is it rude if they never call you back?
Or would that not bother you do you just let it roll off your back?
It's family if that makes a difference

 

[ols386]

I don't know if I think it's exactly rude, but if it's family, and if it's someone that I'm pretty close to, and they NEVER called back, it would probably hurt my feelings a bit.

So, it's been what, less than a week since you left them the message? If it's less than a week's time, maybe they've been busy and just haven't had a real chance to call you back yet. I wouldn't give up on them yet.

 

[LuvBug1977]

Chances are that they probably checked your message when they were busy and forgot to call you back, even though they intended to... I have done that a few times.

 

[anniemae]

I don't know, I really hate talking on the phone so I would not be inclined to call back. I see it the same as if I send someone a thank you note or Christmas card in the mail, I would not expect a response or acknowlegment of it. I would not let it bother me, people are so busy these days sometimes you mean to call someone and before you know it it's 10:00 and too late to call.

If you left it breezy and open-ended they may have not felt the need to call back. If you specifically asked a question or point blank asked them to call, then they should have called you back.

 

[tlbwriter]

I don't know, I really hate talking on the phone so I would not be inclined to call back. I see it the same as if I send someone a thank you note or Christmas card in the mail, I would not expect a response or acknowlegment of it. I would not let it bother me, people are so busy these days sometimes you mean to call someone and before you know it it's 10:00 and too late to call.

If you left it breezy and open-ended they may have not felt the need to call back. If you specifically asked a question or point blank asked them to call, then they should have called you back.

I agree with all of this.

 

[Manhattan Princess]

I give a lot more leeway for call back times over the holidays. Too much going on. Why not wait a week and call back just to check in?

 

[clh2]

I don't know, I really hate talking on the phone so I would not be inclined to call back. I see it the same as if I send someone a thank you note or Christmas card in the mail, I would not expect a response or acknowlegment of it. I would not let it bother me, people are so busy these days sometimes you mean to call someone and before you know it it's 10:00 and too late to call.

If you left it breezy and open-ended they may have not felt the need to call back. If you specifically asked a question or point blank asked them to call, then they should have called you back.

I also hate returning phone calls - especially to chit-chat, with no real purpose. (Trust me - I have a sister that can go on for HOURS.) If the OP called to leave a thank you message - that got accomplished. If the OP wants to chat - she should call back at a different time when the person is home.

And...now for one of the dirty secrets in our home...IRRITATES me beyond the beyond. If DD (now 16) picks up a message...she won't take the time to jot down a quick note...EVER...Luckily most of her phone stuff is on her cell phone. I've given up trying to fix this...

Back to OP's situation - maybe the person who the message is for simply did not get the message. OR - just thinking off the cuff - if someone starts to leave a LONG, drawn out message - I don't listen to all of it. I've assumed that the important stuff was first. (Sounds rude - I know - but I do have the sister who can talk for HOURS without really saying anything of importance.)

 

[DeluxePrincess]

It wouldn't bother me. They probably figured you called to offer thanks and you basically did that on the phone message. If you just left a message for them to call you and they never called back, that would be rude.

 

[Tink888]

I would've perceived the call as a thank-you call, like a thank-you note, with calling back being optional.

I wouldn't think it was rude or let it bother me if they didn't call back.

 

[Pakey]

I would not find it rude and I would not be bothered.

 

[Magpie]

I never tell other people to call me back in a message like that. I always say I'll try again soon - and then I do. I had to call my dad three times to wish him a Merry Christmas this year! I didn't leave my thankyou's on their machine - I saved them until I could speak to them directly.

If I care enough about someone to call them once, then I care enough to call them again.

In fact, it kind of feels like instead of sending a thank you note, you sent them a postcard saying "Thanks for the gift. Write me a letter when you've got the time!"

 

[wangmichelle]

If you call someone and leave a message thanking them for a gift wish them happy holidays and give us a call when you have time..... is it rude if they never call you back?
Or would that not bother you do you just let it roll off your back?
It's family if that makes a difference

buddy ,I know now you must be very angry, but not this time your friend he is too busy, that he didn't time to reply you, perhaps until he mangwan, he will give you a reply yet, if he really is also ok still do this to you, that this kind of behavior really ashamed, make a person very disdain

 

[quasar4legs]

It wouldn't bother me but my sister and I go back and forth with messages and phone calls on a regular basis.
If you want to catch up with them I would ring again in the next week or so.

 

[laurie31]

I would have taken the "give us a call when you have time" bit as just a ending to the message. Sort of like "talk to you later" or "see you soon."

I would not have interpreted it as a call I needed to return.

 

[Cat0727]

I would have taken the "give us a call when you have time" bit as just a ending to the message. Sort of like "talk to you later" or "see you soon."

I would not have interpreted it as a call I needed to return.

Agree.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I would've perceived the call as a thank-you call, like a thank-you note, with calling back being optional.

I wouldn't think it was rude or let it bother me if they didn't call back.

I would have taken the "give us a call when you have time" bit as just a ending to the message. Sort of like "talk to you later" or "see you soon."

I would not have interpreted it as a call I needed to return.

I agree with both of the above and cannot imagine being offended by the lack of a return call. The only time I feel someone needs to call me back is if I ask for specific information ("I need to know what time to pick you up at the airport" or state that I really need to talk to them about something that I cannot leave on a message and can they please call as soon as possible. I would only do either of those if time is truly of the essence--otherwise I would just keep trying to reach them myself until I got through. If I want to speak to someone I do not think it is that person's job to make it happen.

 

[bicker]

Some folks might say that the thank you should have been written (not me!) I wouldn't read into it either way. Some folks aren't phone people.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Yes.


Happened to us and I am not pleased with the brush off. We did finally send an e-mail asking how they liked their gifts and was thanked and apologized to for missing our call 10 days ago. Alrighty then.

 

[lsyorke]

Yes.


Happened to us and I am not pleased with the brush off. We did finally send an e-mail asking how they liked their gifts and was thanked and apologized to for missing our call 10 days ago. Alrighty then.

The OP was the gift receiver who left a thank you message, not the giver.
I would not be bothered by no return call..you don't have to thank someone for a thank you!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If you call someone and leave a message thanking them for a gift wish them happy holidays and give us a call when you have time..... is it rude if they never call you back?
Or would that not bother you do you just let it roll off your back?
It's family if that makes a difference

I would say no however it is going to depend on the person. Is the person that is irritated normally a demanding person? Then of course they are going to be offended.

If you know this then send them a thank you note and be done with it.