Do you think men and women can be "just friends"? Update: Page 7

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Good for you, you are definitely very strong, wise, and brave. I hope if something like that happened to me I would be able to do what you did. Stay strong and stay away from him, you deserve so much better.

 

[AnaheimGirl]

You are very wise to get out of this relationship now. Some of what you mentioned qualifies as mental abuse IMO. (laughing at you when you told him your feelings; yelling at you often, and over miniscule things, like they way you answered the phone; not inviting you out and acting like it's your fault for hurting the other woman's feelings.)

I know you care about him and this breakup is hard for you, but you definitely did the right thing. You deserve much more. Take care of you for a while. Treat yourself to a massage, a weekend away with girlfriends, whatever relaxes you. Hang in there, it will get better.

 

[horseshowmom]

Congratulations on doing what was best for you. Most of us have dated people that we looked back on later and thought "what was I thinking". Things can now start to get better for you. Good luck and best wishes!

 

[rt2dz]

Good for you. I know it hurts & it will for a long time, but it was the only right decision. When you do meet "the one" you will be so thankful that you didn't spend more time with the wrong one. Just feel free to enjoy the good memories of this last relationship.

 

[iggbees]

i can't ever imagine breaking up with my boyfriend, i know how painful that would be. i'm sorry it had to happen this way for you. i agree with everyone who says nobody deserves someone who treats them badly. it sounds like he was doing just that. good luck. you'll find someone who treats you well and someone who deserves to be with you.

 

[chell]

Good for you! Sorry he had been treating you like that but like you said, you do NOT deserve to be treated that way and should not live the rest of your life like that. The only thing he would have done if you had kept him around was bring you down. I know it hurts right now but be strong and keep your chin up!

 

[Caradana]

I'd let this guy go. There are too many princes in this world to waste one's time with toads. You're young - he's young - he's screwing up - don't let him take you down with him. Move on and go out on some fun dates with hotties. That's something I'm SO GLAD I did in my early 20s.

 

[LightBurnsBlue]

I'm happy with my decision. The breakup has gone better than I expected. I was worried the old BF would be calling me non-stop and begging for me to take him back, but it hasn't been like that (Thank God.) I was worried about him being depressed and spending all his time at home, but he went to visit his family last weekend and is expecting his best friend from home to vist him this weekend. I am happy for him that his reaction has been so good (I don't despise my old BF. I just couldn't picture spending my life with him...but I do wish him happiness).

This past weekend was the most fun I've had in quite a while--my two best friends and I went to a fun bar and were treated like princesses by the staff...free drinks, free food, etc. I danced the night away (my first time at a bar with dancing because the old BF did not like dancing) and had a great time! I did not appreciate a 35 year old guy trying to kiss me, but all and all I enjoyed my first weekend as a single.

For the most part, I am very hopeful about the future. It is going to be a bit of a struggle until I graduate in May because I stupidly abandoned the friends I met my freshman year in college when I met my BF...and now I don't really have any friends where I live. But...I get to see my best friends on the weekends and I will be moving back to my hometown in May. So for now, I'm going to concentrate on eating right and working out so I can look great for the summer. I am very nervous about the possibility of dating someone down the road (I've only been on two first dates in my life) but I'm not going to spend too much time worried about that right now.

 

[chell]

Sounds to me like you have really got it together.

 

[kelleigh1]

Congrats to you for being able to see that he wasn't the one you should be spending forever with. It's tough, but you know it's the right decision.

When I met my husband, I just knew he was the right one for me. And what I saw in him was all the things that I liked/loved in my ex's. There was something good in each of them and my husband had all those good things in one package. That's what dating is...finding what you like in a person and then finding the person who has all those things that you like.