DO you matter?

[DisneyBamaFan]

You crack me up...

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

And you confuse me.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

And you confuse me.

Why? Because I can do good things for other people without feeling guilty about my life or indebted to the world? Or because I don't choose to list all of those things that I do in an effort to honor myself for all of the things that I have done? Or because I don't think that any of those things change whether or not I "matter"? Or is it something else?

Don't take me too seriously. I certainly don't take myself seriously. I just want to live, love and be loved...

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

Why? Because I can do good things for other people without feeling guilty about my life or indebted to the world? Or because I don't choose to list all of those things that I do in an effort to honor myself for all of the things that I have done? Or because I don't think that any of those things change whether or not I "matter"? Or is it something else?

Don't take me too seriously. I certainly don't take myself seriously. I just want to live, love and be loved...

I agree that I used the wrong word. "Owed" was in poor taste. You should want to help because you WANT to.
I am certainly not saying that you should feel guilty about your life, or feel indebted. I just think that we should want to give back to a world that most certainly needs it.
I don't feel it appropriate to do things that should be out of the goodness of you heart, for honor and glory. I agree that this was a poorly stated thread asking if "You matter..." because everyone matters to someone, but I do agree with the motif. Wanting to do things for the bigger picture is very admirable.

I certainly don't want to be at odds, and I don't think I was coming off as I would have liked...

The greatest thing in life is to love and be loved. That is all we can hope for.

 

[teacups]

Not talking about anyone specific.... Now I must call out that it also isnt so great when people call out how great they are for not calling something out. Are those people trying to get some kind of glory for some imagined honor? No one is above another here, no matter if you list what you do or if you announce that you do good but refuse to list it. This conversation has nearly gotten to the point of ridiculous. I did not see where anyone said they were something fantastic for what they do to help others, and I do believe it has threatened some of the others. Why? I sure dont know. Hey, it's ok that you dont feel any desire to help. I am just sorry for those who feel so guilty about not wanting to help that they have to make a huge production.

Thanks to those who offered up lists or words for me to read (like I asked for) I got some good inspirations from you!!

Seeya. Continue if you must.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Not talking about anyone specific.... Now I must call out that it also isnt so great when people call out how great they are for not calling something out...

See, I never wanted to actually say that, but finally caved and did - but you are correct. Touche'

 

[flying_babyb]

I really do matter, I almost cried today. One of the students in class A never talks to anyone but her teacher and a few kids. today she came up to me and said " I love you miss Jenny cause your a fun teacher". It was so hard not to cry

 

[Wishing on a star]

Ohhhhh good grief......
Somebody call the media and order some kind of humostrous sized award or trophy.....

 

[phorsenuf]

I am so lost. What the heck was this thread ever about (or intended to be)?

 

[Wishing on a star]

Whether or not one feels that they 'matter'.

Whether or not one is born 'indebted'.

IMHO:

In the first case, that is sheer narcissism, self engrandizement, and god-complex.

In the second case, it is just sad.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Ohhhhh good grief......
Somebody call the media and order some kind of humostrous sized award or trophy.....

 

[mamajoan]

sometimes it is nice to know that you make a positive difference is someone elses life.... and sometimes it is nice to be acknowledged... and in that acknowledgement sometimes it feels good to share it...

flying babyb.. I get it.. and I am happy that you rec'v that ackowledgement. I hope it helps you to continue to move forward with your career.

 

[DisnyMama]

I've been job searching for 2 years (one of those here in So. CA. since moving back last Aug.) with no luck. I don't have a degree but was a customer service manager for 11 years and worked payroll for the 5 prior to that and a few other long term jobs since I was 18 (I'm 45 now). Anyway, my true desire is to work in a position that does make a difference in peoples lives.

Just over a year ago, the only job that has called me for an interview was when I lived in Texas and it was for the Red Cross in their dispatch dept. I was so, so excited about this job and wanted it more than you will ever know. The interview went very well and I thought I would hear back but never did. To me that is the one that got away even though I am a believer that things happen for a reason. Unfortunately at this point I can't afford to be picky about where I work but someday I do hope this economy will turn around and I will have a chance again.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I've been job searching for 2 years (one of those here in So. CA. since moving back last Aug.) with no luck. I don't have a degree but was a customer service manager for 11 years and worked payroll for the 5 prior to that and a few other long term jobs since I was 18 (I'm 45 now). Anyway, my true desire is to work in a position that does make a difference in peoples lives.

Just over a year ago, the only job that has called me for an interview was when I lived in Texas and it was for the Red Cross in their dispatch dept. I was so, so excited about this job and wanted it more than you will ever know. The interview went very well and I thought I would hear back but never did. To me that is the one that got away even though I am a believer that things happen for a reason. Unfortunately at this point I can't afford to be picky about where I work but someday I do hope this economy will turn around and I will have a chance again.

Have you considered looking in a hospital?

I was surprised to see a patient of mine working the information desk at my hospital one day. He said he applied because he felt he had something to give to people who needed someone who understood how they might be feeling, even if it was "just" at the desk. I thought it was brilliant, and you could see he did a wonderful job in the role!

Good luck in your search.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I'm not really sure why this thread took such a strange turn.

The OP was looking for answers to how people feel they make a difference, presumably because he or she wanted to do the same. (Unless I'm missing something.)

Why criticize as self-serving, or bragging, people who answered the question?

It's unfortunate. Because I bet there were really great replies that didn't come through because posters were hesitant to post because they didn't want to seem like they were bragging.

If those people are out there, I hope you post anyway.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

At this point in time, I would say no. My focus is on my family right now.

Without going into all 7 pages...and stopping here.. I think that *THIS* does matter. Making your family a better structure in turn, makes them better people, who, in turn will be better people to others in an outside atmosphere.

I don't do as much as I used to as far as volunteering and such, but I've had co-workers from the past tell me how words or actions have gotten them through rough times. That's good enough for me