Do You Have Relatives That "Walk In?"

[Chattyaholic]

Do you have any relatives who just "walk in" at your house, without waiting for you to answer the door?

My parents do this and so do our grown children, but THAT is fine!! I don't mind THEM doing it at all!

I will "walk in" at my parents' home, but never my children's, unless I hear them yell "come on in" or something like that.

My DH's Dad will just ring the bell and "walk in" and it annoys me, BUT...he IS my DH's Dad so I bite my tongue and overlook it...most days...but THIS morning he did it and I had to rush out of the room quick because I was still in my nightgown (it was just after 9:00). DH was in his office and hollered, "Dad just pulled in" so I knew he was going to just "walk in."

DH's step-mother did it once and I really had to bite my tongue! I was upstairs getting ready for work and never heard the doorbell so she just walked in and was using my phone when I came downstairs! She was upset with me that I "didn't answer the door" and said "didn't you hear me?!" I said, no, I was upstairs getting ready for work with the stairway door closed and my music on!! I wouldn't DREAM of just "walking in" at HER house!!

And DH's sister/brother-in-law will just "walk in" hollering "yoo hoo", drives me INSANE but I hate to "say something" to them and offend them. But wouldn't you think they'd stop doing it, since WE don't just "walk in" at THEIR house?!
We ring the doorbell and WAIT. If they don't answer, we LEAVE!!

Do YOU have relatives that just "walk in" at YOUR house?
If you do, have you ever said anything to them that it bothers you or do you just put up with it?

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

No, my relatives hardly ever visit me. I just walk into my parent's house and sometimes my sister's house, but I always knock at my brother's house.

 

[CookieGVB]

Doesn't your door have a lock on it? Sounds like it's time to start using it.

I walk into my mother's house, but that's because she's expecting us on that day. If she's not expecting us, the door is locked, and I ring the bell, even though I have a key. I only use the key when she's not home.

 

[TheDisneyTraveler06]

If my parents are expecting us, I'll ring the doorbell, and just walk in before they answer it. That's fine with them.

But, I don't have people walk in my house without knocking.

 

[Chattyaholic]

I've thought about locking the door, but then I don't want my parents or our children to feel unwelcome. I don't know what to do, really. Just keep "putting up with it" I guess...I've "put up with it" for almost 31 years, what's a few more?

 

[Magickndm]

My mom does, drives my husband nuts. My dad doesn't. In fact, he knocks and knocks and knocks, he thinks he's pretty funny. When we go over there, we do a courtesy knock, then go in.
When my brother comes over by himself, he'll knock, but my 3 year old niece just barrells in, which is totally fine.

 

[yearbook50]

My fiance and I just walk into his parents house. But they know the day we are going to visit so they are expecting us there sometime. Plus with their two dogs...they know when we pulli n the drive way.

Maybe just get a big dog who will bark everytime someone pulls in the driveway.

 

[SC Minnie]

Why is it OK for your parents and not your husband's????

Anyway, I will walk in at my Mom's after I ring the bell but her regular door is physically open and she can see us throught he glass 'screen' door. I wait for my Dad to come to the door at his house. MIL is in an assisted living and FIL passed away.

No one ever comes into our house without us answering the door. But we do keep the front door locked even when we are home.

 

[NMAmy]

My mother does which is fine with us--I do the same to her. ;-) I ring the bell and walk on in. Sometimes I'll call her from the front yard telling her I'm on my way in the front door.

My sister and my niece and her family will all walk on in--but they live 1.5 hours away and I know when they're coming & leave the front door unlocked for this very purpose.

DH's family all live in England so they don't really drop by without us knowing about it.

 

[minniecarousel]

uh...lock the door & give keys to those you want to have them. I live in a very safe neighborhood but would never dream of leaving the front door unlocked! My kids have keys to our house, as do both of my sisters. They all just use their keys to let themselves in. Seems simple enough to me.

(Is not-locking-the-door another of those regional things, like not having fences?)

 

[DisneyPhD]

My brother and his kids do, along with my in laws (while knocking and yelling out hello.) Mostly so no one has to get up and answer the door since they come over so much. Same goes at their house. However my other brother's would knock because they don't come over as much.

SIL and BIL walk in too, while knocking and calling out. I guess I do the same for my best friends house, but she is normally expecting us.

It did really bug me the other day when my DD's best friend's older brother was standing there looking in my refrigerator when I walked in the kitchen. Helloooooooo! He is 6 years old. I basically told him you don't go in other people's fridges with out asking and shut the door. He also walked right in our house and started dumping out toys with out saying hi to anyone when they came to pick up his sister. Normal development, no "issues" just only cares for DD because of her toys.

 

[Chattyaholic]

Why is it OK for your parents and not your husband's????

That's why I said "he IS DH's Dad so I bite my tongue and put up with it." I know it shouldn't bother me since he IS DH's Dad, but for some reason it still does. And it bothers me even MORE that his step-mother does it. WE don't do it at THEIR home, we ring the bell and WAIT!!

 

[caitycaity]

uh...lock the door & give keys to those you want to have them. I live in a very safe neighborhood but would never dream of leaving the front door unlocked! My kids have keys to our house, as do both of my sisters. They all just use their keys to let themselves in. Seems simple enough to me.

(Is not-locking-the-door another of those regional things, like not having fences?)

we do the same thing. our door is pretty much always locked and my parents have a key (though they live far away!).

 

[malificentsman]

My parents walked into our home once, too bad we were doing the naughty in the middle of the living room at the time. They now call before they come over.

 

[va32h]

My doors are always locked, and no one has keys but those of us who are living in the house!

 

[Bob Slydell]

My MIL does that, but fortunately, she usually calls us on her cell phone partway over to our house. We don't keep our front door open, but we do keep our back door open, with the garage door closed most of the time. MIL has a remote for our garage door, so if we hear the garage door going up, we know she's on the way in.

 

[binny]

FIL did that ONCE and walked in on something he should never have seen odd... he starting ringing the bell after that






We dont live near any family now but my friends and I all do this if we know the SO's arent around. We knock and walk in. But thats only if we know for sure there are no menfolk around LOL. We dont want to see anything we shouldnt LOL

The rules are, you can do this but A) dont expect the other person to be dressed/have makup done/or a bra on unless you have previous plans B) dont expect the house to be clean C) if its early, YOU make the coffee!

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

I keep my doors locked, so this isn't an issue. However, I would NOT like it if anyone just came walking in and I would tell them (I don't care if their feelings are hurt or not, it's MY house!)

I do walk in at my mom's house, but she told me too. If she didn't tell me to, I wouldn't.

I also hate when people just show up without calling. I have told many people they need to call first and they all said they don't mind.

My house, my rules!

 

[salmoneous]

I've thought about locking the door, but then I don't want my parents or our children to feel unwelcome. I don't know what to do, really. Just keep "putting up with it" I guess...I've "put up with it" for almost 31 years, what's a few more?

Have you considered - and I know this is going to sound crazy - asking them?

 

[NeverlandClub23]

None of our relatives do but my boyfriend's relatives and neighbors do it all of the time. The other weekend I was at his house and no one else was there but us. I came downstairs and two of his neighbors were sitting in the kitchen and their kids were playing in the back yard! I was startled and ran back upstairs and asked my boyfriend if they do this all of the time. He rolled his eyes and said that all of their neighbors do this at each other's houses and that they do this in the "South" (he lives in NC). I'm sorry, I know a lot of people that live in the South that don't have neighbors and relatives come on in their house whenever they want! I just think it's so rude. I never just walk into any house that I don't have a key to. If they wanted me to come in whenever I want (or without knocking) they would have given me a key!