Do you feel being a parent limits the intellectual side of your personality?

[lil mermaid]

I hope that it does...DH and I are expecting our first baby in June and I am SO sick and tired of being so intellectual all the time....

 

[my3kids]

Originally posted by Chubroach
So does having children limit the intellectual development of people who have children?

It sure did for me. Yep, I used to be smart enough to ignore stuff like this, but after popping out 3 children, here I am....responding. Must have lost about 30 IQ points per kid. Sad really. I get all stupid and now I am compelled to respond to things like this......

 

[Grog]

cough..cough...troll ...cough...cough

 

[goofygirl]

....do we have a bunch of idiots for Presidents and mandataries running this country? God help us if that is the case!

Giving the state of this country, I think I know the answer!

 

[goofygirl]

I personally felt it was no great intellectual loss to give up my dinners out, my nth vacation to the Carribean, my expresso machine, the never ending phone calls on Friday night, "what will we do this weekend???" and all the other superficial things I did before I had kids. I'd had enough with the self involvement by the time I turned 30

Now here's where we differ- you see having trips, dinners and the expresso machine (which by the way, I don't understand why you can't have an espresso machine AND children) as "superficial", but I do not. Those things, especially trips- are very meaningful to me. Trips enhance my life and broaden my horizons, and are actually very deep experiences for me- not superficial at all. I find some parents to be "superficial"- like the ones who want to show off that they are a "proud parent of an honor student" by slapping a sticker on the car. That to me is very "show-offy" and prentenious.

Also being childfree does not mean "not sharing your life with others." Childfree people share their lives with spouses, lovers, friends and family (parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, etc).

 

[ScarlettO]

I knew it couldn't last.....The CB had been "GG -free" for soooo long.........

 

[goofygirl]

One thing that I have found in the past is if someone is very angry about an issue that effects them and responds with emotional or angry responses then there is some truth to the orginal statement.

ITA

Chub, I know exactly what you mean. But I won't say ALL people with kids act that way, but a LOT sure DO act that way, especially women , like you said. And I do have to think, when you look at the big picture, its your academic types who have no or few children, while the poorer, uneducated types have the most children. Coincidence?

I knew it couldn't last.....The CB had been "GG -free" for soooo long.........

Love ya too!

The only reason I have been absent from the DIS is that I have been busy lately, you know, we childfree have to spend our time hating children and worshipping our pets and it takes up a lot of time!

 

[momof3disneyholics]

I just read this the thread for the first time (guess I have been too busy with my kids), , but I wonder if the OP is writing this stuff to get these responses. I mean, is he really serious?!

 

[Dan Murphy]

This is Bruce, right??

 

[snoopy]

Now here's where we differ- you see having trips, dinners and the expresso machine (which by the way, I don't understand why you can't have an espresso machine AND children) as "superficial", but I do not.

Well actually, I still have the expresso machine, but I got bored with it -- those things that seemed very important to me before I had children no longer seemed all that interesting. The expresso machine in particular is a running joke for DH and I. We laugh at how we used to be SO involved with that expresso machine -- every morning carrying on with the coffee just so and then cleaning it was always this huge ordeal. We laugh over it now, and wonder what we could have been thinking having wasted countless hours on the care and maintenance of our expresso machine.

To each his own, though, I don't begrudge anyone the things that make them happy. Whether it be a child or an expresso machine, whatever floats your boat. My life has become infinitely less superficial since I had children -- having children takes you down a notch or two and humbles you. Shaping a child all the sudden becomes a lot more meaningful than a vanilla latte. That was my point. I certainly wasn't suggesting that childfree people are not entitled to prioritize how they see fit.

 

[CRB#33]

Beautiful Snoopy

 

[Mskanga]

Trips enhance my life and broaden my horizons, and are actually very deep experiences for me- not superficial at all. I find some parents to be "superficial"- like the ones who want to show off that they are a "proud parent of an honor student" by slapping a sticker on the car. That to me is very "show-offy" and prentenious.

GG , trips may broaden your horizons but they sure don't broaden your brain and I will tell you why:

I find some parents to be "superficial"- like the ones who want to show off that they are a "proud parent of an honor student" by slapping a sticker on the car. That to me is very "show-offy" and prentenious.

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And I do have to think, when you look at the big picture, its your academic types who have no or few children, while the poorer, uneducated types have the most children

GG;
According to your standards I am poorer and uneducated because I had children ( but I know how to spell pretentious and English IS NOT my first language ). What's your excuse?

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

Originally posted by ScarlettO
I knew it couldn't last.....The CB had been "GG -free" for soooo long.........

Someone who has to defend her choices as being the only reasonable ones...well, I dislike someone who has a lack of respect for others.

 

[2bemarried]

I had to wonder earlier why so many people thought the OP was GC...and even if so..why they disliked her so much....after reading the last two pages....I understand.

 

[jvas]

apprently you think your parents are BORING and not too bright!

Originally posted by Chubroach
My wife and I do not have kids, nor have any interest in having any in the future. Though I do have an observation about people (especially women) who have children:

The kids control and dominate their life and make them boring people!

The people I meet who seem to be interesting intellectual individuals do not have kids. These are the people who care about learning about the world around them, read interesting non fiction books, magazines and newspapers and like to talk about current events. They are involved in the community.

The women who have children like to talk about one thing- THEIR KIDS. It seems like they have any one interest- their kids. Conversation with mothers is boring. "Oh, Johnny has been sick" "Did I tell you that Johnny has had trouble in school?" "Johnny has wants a new pair of tennis shoes" ON AND ON.

So does having children limit the intellectual development of people who have children?

 

[jvas]

And you may be right!....look at the result!

 

[GreenEyes0205]

Originally posted by goofygirl
I find some parents to be "superficial"- like the ones who want to show off that they are a "proud parent of an honor student" by slapping a sticker on the car. That to me is very "show-offy" and prentenious.



I happen to have a bumper sticker on my truck that says that! Does that mean that I am "show-offy"??? No way, I am very PROUD of the hard academic work my children are doing each and every day to make the rest of their lives easier! They enjoy school and sports, but school is #1. I drive proudly with that bumper sticker while my children are sitting in the back seat knowing that their mom loves them & is so very proud of them! In other words, I put in on my truck for THEM, not ME.

When I attend their sports I sit in the stands yelling & cheering for my child & his team. We purchase the team sweatshirts to wear. Does doing this also make me "show-offy"???????

Since you don't have any children, maybe you can show your nieces & nephews (if you have any) the kind of love that tells them that you are SO VERY PROUD of them!!

 

[Stepharoonie!]

Originally posted by momof3disneyholics
I just read this the thread for the first time (guess I have been too busy with my kids), , but I wonder if the OP is writing this stuff to get these responses. I mean, is he really serious?!

No, just a troll looking to cause more problems.

 

[ibouncetoo]

How much longer do you think it's going to take us to learn to just ignore the OP.

 

[Mskanga]

Originally posted by ibouncetoo
How much longer do you think it's going to take us to learn to just ignore the OP.

I don't know because some of us are stupid you know?