Do you ever wonder when you die.....

[December99]

Well John...advice from a person that had to go through 8 rooms that had A LOT of junk when my mom passed - START NOW BUDDY START NOW!!!!!! Trust me on this one.....start throwing junk away now!!!!! I couldn't believe the crap my mom had....stuff from when my grandpa died 25 years ago!!!!!! And stuff still of my grandma's (cancelled checks and such) from 15 years ago!

 

[safetymom]

I used to be afraid of dying. Then my husband passed away leaving me with 3 young kids to raise. I realized that life does go on. My kids have healed from the death of their father.

The thing that helped is all the memories that we have of him. We keep him alive in our hearts. There probably isn't a day that goes by that we don't remember him in a story.

The same thing with my parents that passed away. Sure I would love for them to be her but I do have all those wonderful memories.

The best thing my late husband did for me was he told me to grieve for a year or two and then get on with life. By living my life I am honoring him.

That is why going to WDW is so important to my family. It is the source of many wonderful family memories. Those stories will live on long after I am gone.

 

[nativetxn]

I was with my father in law when he died. He just went deeper and deeper into sleep. He wasn't in pain but he was just so ill and he had really lost his will to live. His favorite child died suddenly 4 months before him. I watched him decide not to live anymore, I watched his health decline, I went to Houston and took care of him for those last months. I'm so glad that I had the opportunity to <i>show</i> him how much I loved him before he died. He was one of the few people in my life who loved me unconditionally from our first meeting. He was a gentle man and a gentleman. He was caring and emotionally generous and I miss him everyday.

I don't know what people will say about me when I die. I'm not so concerned about that, I would hope no one would stand up and say, "WHEW, I thought she'd <i>never</i> leave!"

I do hope that somewhere in the world there will be a few people who can say that I made a difference in their lives. Even if it is just that I helped them smile when they felt sad. I won't be in any history books. I will leave no legacy that will be noticed by the entire world.

I just hope that no one will be able to say that I caused them pain by word or deed. I think that's the most I could hope for.

Well....that and my husband had better not be getting married two weeks after I'm gone. I will definitely be haunting him if he does

Okay, things are getting altogether <i>too</i> serious around here, today.

 

[Margie J]

Trust me on this one.....start throwing junk away now!!!!! I couldn't believe the crap my mom had....stuff from when my grandpa died 25 years ago!!!!!! And stuff still of my grandma's (cancelled checks and such) from 15 years ago!

OMG, I'm going through this now. In my Mom's house there are so many things that need to be tossed. Real junk, like empty boxes, bottles, pieces of styrofoam and cardboard .. She also kept old cancelled checks for accounts closed years ago, stuff from my Dad's funeral, my old vacation itineraries (I always left her the address & phone of where I'd be plus air info), not to mention the really old stuff like my GM's old bills and personal papers dating back to the 1920's ! I found things I thought I got rid of myself years ago.

I have already thrown out bags of stuff and it hasn't made a dent yet. The house didn't look trashed but things were packed in closets, drawers and the basement.

It's ironic that it was my Mom that cleaned the junk out of my Dad's house after they got married. He was a packrat and he had been taking care of his ailing Mom and things got out of hand.

 

[nkjzmom]

I just lost my Grandma on May 18. She was one of the people closest to me in my life. I miss the fact that I can't hug her or touch her soft cheek....but that's not why I'm posting.

My sister and I went through tons of old photo albums, our own albums, and those of our aunt and mom and she put together a slide show for the dinner after the funeral. The ladies at our church pulled together a huge dinner for our family and we ate, visited, and watched this memorial to our Grandma. It started when she was just a teenager and went all the way to just a few weeks before she passed. There were well over 100 pictures. No words were necessary...just some laughter as people remembered the circumstances of some pics, while others had their own memories sparked by them, and others just sat quietly with tears running down their cheeks.

It was a wonderful way to end an otherwise sad day. Love you Grandma!!!

 

[jamsmom]

If I die anytime soon, I am sure people will say "Loser with men, but always wanting to find Mr. Right"

 

[epcotfan]

I am not freaked out about my own death because I don't have kids or a significant other. I've lived enough at 31. HOWEVER I am totally upset about close relatives. I can't bear the thought of them dying. I've lived a long enough life-I just hope my death isn't violent or in an accident. The only concern I would have if I had the forsight to know I was dying is to pay off all my bills so my relatives wouldn't get stuck with the debts.

 

[Dan Murphy]

They'll say, he was a tall old guy who liked to take pictures of a Mouse, and thought that was cool.

 

[Poohbear123]

Strange......I have been thinking about the same thing too. I can always find others that think or believe in the same thing I am thinking about here on these Boards. I guess, so I don't have to post about it.

 

[Goofyposter]

No...I don't wonder...I'm confident what will be said....at least by those whom I hold the closest in my heart and soul.

To me....my immediate family and friends...and my maker are the only 'people' whose opinions concern me. Will be honest and acceptable to me.

So long as I conduct myself in a manner consistent with my morals and my beliefs....comments made cannot help but to be truthful.....and acceptable to me...should I be in a position to be affected by any such comments.

 

[Serena]

LOL, ahhh, they'd better be nice or I'll come back and haunt them.