Do you ever get caught up in the "what if's"?

[Serena]

Rehashing the past trying to figure out things you can't do anything about now.
And the future. It's scary.

I try to stay in the present and not think. Some days I do better than others.

 

[chell]

All the time!

 

[ShuisFan584]

Of course I do that all the time, even though I'm always told I shouldn't!

 

[dandave]

No, no, no. My mind tries to do that sometimes, but then I just have to stop it. I know that absolutely any little thing changed at any point in my past would likely alter my present.
I miscarried my first child, and I hated *everything* at the time. Now, I realize that my son , Daniel, could not have possibly ever been born had I not miscarried my first child. I still regret and mourn my miscarriage, but I honestly wouldn't change a thing.
My miscarriage taught me the value of my children that I do have, and it taught me to never take anything for granted.
I am thankful for everything I have, and I thank God just for allowing me to be with those I love. I try not to question when or why I'm in a bind, but I never stop looking for solutions to help myself out of that bind.

 

[tiggersmom2]

I have always asked myself "what if". Well, I got sick of asking what if , and I just decided to "Do it". When June 1st gets here (when applications are available) I'm applying to Dental School. No more "what ifs" I'll either get in or I won't, and no more wondering!

 

[Grog]

I do it every now and then, but I don't let it get me down. What I do is think of what I wouldn't have if I had taken a different path. For example, I "what if" every now and then about former girlfriends, but then I think to myself that if I had done something different and ended up with one of them, I wouldn't be with my SO, who I love very much.

 

[Serena]

 

[helenabear]

The moment I do it, I realize that anything I could change could possibly make me a totally different person than I am (for better or worse). So no, I don't really do that because I am happy to be where I am at

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>I'm not a 'what if' kinda gal. I pretty much don't worry about what I can't change.

The only 'what if' I ever considered was what if I hadn't got married - well, I wouldn't have my two rascals, and I can't imagine life without them, so it becomes a moot point.

 

[KimRaye]

Originally posted by helenabear
The moment I do it, I realize that anything I could change could possibly make me a totally different person than I am (for better or worse). So no, I don't really do that because I am happy to be where I am at

Originally posted by Mary Jo
<font color=navy>I'm not a 'what if' kinda gal. I pretty much don't worry about what I can't change.

The only 'what if' I ever considered was what if I hadn't got married - well, I wouldn't have my two rascals, and I can't imagine life without them, so it becomes a moot point.

I agree.

And, when I used to "what if" about my high school sweetheart, I have to face the fact that he's dead now and, I'd probably be a childless widow.

I try to find the positives in any "what if" situation, so I can turn it around.

 

[shortbun]

I can honestly say I don't "what if."
Sometimes I project to the future. I work hard to stay
in the present as much as possible.

 

[Kitty 34]

I really try not to "what if" too much especially after I lost my first DH to an accident.

I would say I live more for "what's going to happen next" which btw my physical therapist says isn't good either.....I should JUST live in the present so Laurie you're doing fine if you can just focus on the present!

 

[Keli]

I find that whenever my future looks shakey or scary that I tend to want to engage in 'what ifs'. Then I just have to make myself not do that because it is not productive. I cannot change the past and therefore I should not spend time regretting past decisions. I've learned lessons from every decision so I remind myself that I'm smarter today than I've ever been and my future is sure to be brighter no matter how scary it looks right now.

 

[princessariel]

I don't "what if" the past. BUT my biggest what if is....What if this lottery ticket I just bought is th BIG winner? LOL

 

[C.Ann]

Yes - I do.. But when I catch myself, I try to stop it dead in it's tracks..

Our lives are not videos that we can rewind - nor can we fast forward them - so for the most part, we're better off just trying to live "in the moment"..

Easier said than done sometimes though!

 

[wishuponastarforever]

I used to drive my children crazy with this one.

I figure we only know what has happened, we don't know what we've been spared. So guess I have a different spin on the what if.

No matter what has happened in my life, I believe it has happened to protect me and my family from something worse.

It's been tough to put that into play on occassion but it really helps me to get through.

I'm the wierd one out there looking forward to Friday the 13th.
With everyone else expecting bad luck, I'm looking for all the left over good luck.