Do you approve of kids coed sleepovers (inspired by all the sleepover threads)

[txSleepingBeauty]

y'all are kidding right? why would you not let your kids hang out with their friends if it's well supervised and they sleep in different rooms. I agree if i the kids are like 16 and no parents around (that's a party not a sleepover). But If my kid was 10 and wanted a birthday sleepover with coed friends- you bet she could have one.

why are you guys so against this?

 

[mudnuri]

My guess is that most of you that are so adamently against this- also think that by making condoms available in highschools increases the chance that they'll have sex too huh?

Brandy

 

[Tasha+Scott]

What other parents do is their business, but I do not personally approve of coed sleepovers. So, nope, I wouldn't let my kids have one or attend one. You don't have to agree with me, but that is just the way I feel about it. Everyone has a different parenting style and that will be mine.

 

[caitycaity]

If my sister ever allows my nephew to do that, we will be having words.

i'm glad i'm not your sister. i can't imagine a relative calling me up to berate my parenting choices!

 

[luvmydogs]

My guess is that most of you that are so adamently against this- also think that by making condoms available in highschools increases the chance that they'll have sex too huh?

Brandy

I will only speak for myself, but no, I don't believe that at all.

I think that for me, my disagreement with coed sleepovers comes from a combination of the way I was parented, past personal experience and maybe just parental gut instinct. At this point, I don't ever see myself allowing ds at a coed sleepover, and although I'll "never say never", I'd feel pretty safe bettin' the farm on this one.

That said, all parents are not the same and have many different parenting styles and outlooks, and what works for me and my child may not work for you and yours (the collective you and yours--not directed to anyone in particular). I would never condemn another parent who differs from my opinion on this issue--I know we're all just trying our best to make appropriate decisions with respect to raising happy, safe, well-adjusted children.

 

[luv2nascar]

my 9 1/2 yr old dd has coed sleepovers and I'm the most conservative person you probably know. BUT let me qualify this answer. It is at my BIL/SILs house once in a blue moon. My 10 1/2 yr old nephew (her cousin is a step son to my BIL so no blood relationship). She has gone over there to spend the night. They watch movies/popcorn etc. But he sleeps in his bed in his room and she slept in the spare bedroom. Depending on the situation it could be alright.

 

[jajuan]

I answered no...and in my mind, I was thinking HE** no. But...as I read the posts, I realized that I had done it. I have 4 children. The older are school age and we used to have back to school parties. We had kids of opposite sex spend the night (The older are boy and girl). They usually slept in the living room or playroom where they watched movies or played games all night. There was always adult supervision and when I think about it, I would do it again.

 

[Crankyshank]

I really don't understand the big deal. I've had co-ed sleepovers weekly since I was 11- more often during summer. Actually you could call it a menage a trois - i camped out with my 2 best male friends. Our parents didn't bat an eye. We lived in the same neighborhood. We would watch scary movies and try to scare each other silly by telling ghost stories and walking to the graveyard around the block at midnight. We would giggle and laugh and gossip and just pass out.
Even after I was sexually active we still had sleepovers and nothing happened.
Trust me, if kids are going to have sex with each other, most likely they're not going to do it at a sleepover with parents present. They're not stupid.

 

[Kallison]

I work with 7th graders and I would have to say NO WAY!! OMIGOSH, I hear what goes on at parties, sleepover absolutely not.