Do you and your spouse...

[dmadman43]

I travel too much for business for that to be considered. My DW thinks some of my business trips are vacations (Singapore, London, Sydney, Tokyo). DW does take the odd trip to Vegas with "the girls". But we've never agreed to take "separate vacations"

 

[WDWLVR]

We always vacation together. This is our time together and I cherish it. As for business trips - when we go they are usually very short and all business so no need for the other to go along. The exception is next year he's planning on going to the clean show which will be in Orlando. We'll plan a Disney trip around that and the two days he's actually at the show I'll do Disney on my own.

I love planning our trips and he is great for giving input into what we should do.

I can't imagine going on vacation without him. He's my best friend!

 

[Beast fan]

Yes, we go on separate vacations.... but not often.
At least once per year (in the summer), DW takes the DS's and visits her family in KY for about a week. Don't worry, that "HONEYDO" list is usually quite extensive when she leaves.

Every two years, I go on a week-long "mountain-bike" trip through Michigan (called the Michigander). I never go on this trip planning to see anyone I know, but I always end up meeting people from my previous trip. Lately, some mutual friends from Church have gone on this trip, so it is quite fun. I tell people I have as much fun as I am legally and morally allowed to have, and still be allowed in the house when I return. I like this vacation and won't ever give it up. Riding a bike for 6-days (at 5-15 mph), I get my mind cleared of all the junk that's been bothering me (at home and work).

Taking separate vacations are okay, as long as they're for the right reason(s).

That's my 2 cents.
Dave

 

[Disney Doll]

We go toegther. I did go overnight with my DSIl to see DNiece get soem kind of award at college, but that was more because I didn't want DSIL to drive the 6 hours up and back by herself.

I will be going on a business trip in August without DH (my first!).
Dh has a business trip at the end of August that he will be going on without me.

My preference is to vacation with DH.

 

[southernclass]

My finace and I are not required to do this yet but in the future I will have to end up taking several business trips a year maybe with two or three males. We have agreed when this comes up I will look for another job.

We do not go out to bars together or seperate and we really don't hang out with friends unless we are together. We don't force this on each other we just love being together and we have certain beliefs on how to keep our relationship strong.

 

[HollyJoy]

No seperate vacations... not really. I've gone on mini vacations (weekends) with friends, but I bring the kids! LOL DH does have to go out of town sometimes on business, but that's not really a vacation for him.

 

[antnee]

I dont think I can consider it a vacation without having my family and loved ones around. My GF has 2 kids I cant imagine going to WDW without them. My friends take seperate vacations from their wives and children all the time. What fun is that. I can see a business trip or maybe an overnight golf outing but not a vacation.

 

[helenabear]

I am one of the odd ones who vacations constantly without my husband. We enjoy the breaks from each other and that way we can do what we want & when we want w/o the other being miserable. We do not share the same loves in locations for vacations and so I won't force him to go to a place I he doesn't wnat to be at. Same for me. Actually this summer we are both going to LA but three weeks apart

Not sure why this would cause trouble in a marriage at all though I go with my family or friends and he does as well so it's not like I am pretending to be single or something Not attacking but I can see why vacation apart can be great for a relationship

 

[Jolie C]

My spouse and I have spent a lot of time apart during our marriage, whether for business or vacations. It works fine for us. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by helenabear

Not sure why this would cause trouble in a marriage at all though I go with my family or friends and he does as well so it's not like I am pretending to be single or something Not attacking but I can see why vacation apart can be great for a relationship

You got me -- I didn't understand this either?

 

[helenabear]

Originally posted by Jolie C
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

I came back to edit to add something else to my post and I saw this... I agree with that one!!!

I did want to also mention that for a while my husband had no vacation at all and I have had weeks and weeks and weeks on end of vaction (this year 25 days total I get to take off). I get bored at home so I go places when he can't. I also do call him several times a day usually to check in and say hi. I'd miss him if I couldn't talk to him But I'll tell you when I come home, I am so relaxed and so happy and that part of it is great for us

 

[Jeafl]

There's no one I would rather travel with than my husband and kids. However, my cousin was getting married in California last November, and since I didn't want to pull the kids out of school, and we had nobody to watch them here (all relatives were going to CA), I went with my sister and parents without DH. I have to say that I had a total blast. We went to DL and CA Adventure and it was really nice to do what I wanted to do for a change. The wedding was great because I didn't have to worry about the kids behaving or being bored. It was all about ME ME ME for a change and I'm not ashamed to say that I liked it!!

DH and I have been either dating or married for the past 20 years, so it was actually kind of nice to have a short break. I think it just made the marriage better.

 

[aprincessmom]

When I was married we took our vacations together but we never really did anything together during them. I'm a beach person, he was a golfer. I'd golf once or twice but he'd never come to the beach with me or DD.

Also my family (parents, sister, uncle and aunt) likes to vacation as a group at least once a year...he was dead set against it so I missed most family vacations while we were married. Now we go on them and DD and I have a ball.

Sometimes I wish we had vacationed separately...would have made for some more enjoyable vacations

 

[Blondie]

We've always vacationed together. No exceptions.

 

[coliebird]

Yes, we do, but we also take them together. As a matter of fact, my husband was in Dover, Delaware this weekend for the Nascar race. I personally can't stand Nascar so I say go and have a good time, see you when you come home. My husband is not into Disney so I go with my cousin every year. Now that we have our daughter, he will go to Disney every couple of years with us, but for most of the trips it will be me, my daughter and my cousin. I have no problem with it. We will, however, take family vacations also.

 

[Jcricket Fan]

DH and & usually take vacations together but twice now mom & I have taken vacations to WDW! It was a ladys only trip for she and I. Mom did the paying and I did the planning...we had 2 wonderful trips. My dad previously never had any interest in going to Disney but now that my mom has gone (her first trip was 2 years ago at the age of 60!) we can't talk about anything else so dad has become very interested in going so our ladys only trip probably won't be for a while again.

It looks like DH will be going to bike week in Lanconia NH and I won't be going ( I was invited but just don't care to go) it will be a 4 day trip for him something he's always wanted to do and I think its fine.

We wouldn't want to always vacation apart but for a trip like this or the special trips mom & I took we have no problems with that.

What ever the couple is comfortable with that's all that should matter.
Happy traveling to all!

Colleen

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by helenabear
I also do call him several times a day usually to check in and say hi. I'd miss him if I couldn't talk to him

Thank-you!!! My mom thinks it is "unhealthy" that I talk to my DH everyday. And when I havent talk to him..and I realsie it..I try to call. When I call her and her husband answers and I ask to talk to her..he'll sya things like "Oh I have no idea where she is." That would drive me nuts!

I am glad it works for them...but I dont think I am unhealthy doing what works for me.

 

[Tea Please]

We have been taking seperate vacations for almost 20 years and our marriage is solid as a rock. We do travel together as well, but it has been an important part of our life together to have some "alone" time. When the children were younger, I needed it for my sanity and as they got older I was just accustomed to traveling either alone or with friends so it continued. Now I look forward to at least 2 solo trips per year. We are fortunate to be able to afford both our solo and family trips.

I wouldn't trade my alone time for the world. My DH does most of his solo traveling for business but its still a getaway.

For all the moms out there that have guilt, I say go for it your husband and kids will benefit from it more than you do.

 

[huey duey & luey]

We have each taken 1 vacation without eachother (With my friend! ). My friend works for the NFL and my dh and my dad went to the superbowl a few years ago. I also went Florida with the same friend, they were to something at the wide world of sports with a quaterback challenge so my friend invited me along. . All I had to pay for was my airfare. Both trips were for a long weekend.
Tara

 

[DD2Disney]

The last two times I went home to visit family (Utah), DH has stayed here. Its cheaper for just DS and I to go. If I had to wait til we ALL could go I would only get to see my mom once every two years or so. But as far as a FUN vacation (lol not that seeing mom isnt fun). I think I would be too bummed out without DH there.

He is planning a weekend away to TX with his father and brother too. I think that is important as well. But if it was like a whole week or something I might be a little upset about him leaving us home.