Do people make you feel terrible for fun?

[imabrat]

Don't let them tear you down. Sometimes people don't want to have thick skin. There's a lot of things that people say that can bring me down, but I don't let them. For every thing someone says to bring me down, I know that I've got someone else out there that will say something to put me up.

You just need to figure out who that person is.

People can't bother you unless you let them bother you. Get out of your norm routine, hang out with people you thought were "weirdos". Chances are, they're your perfect match.

 

[DollfieDreams]

you try, you fail. you try, you fail.
it's what life is all about.
that's how you find yourself and the people that you want to have in your life.

but moping around feeling sorry for yourself and looking for consolation on the internet isnt going to make the situation any better. you know you have friends here, but it just doesn't cut it like a friend in the "real world" can. i know what it's like to be at the end of the totem pole, i know what it's like to feel that you have no friends, just people that want to talk to you when they feel like it, and not just because.

i found my best friends that ive had for just about 6 years now by just being interested in the same thing. all you need to do is like something and im sure there are others like you out there.

try again.
because being lonely isnt any easier than failing.

 

[Fatphil32]

you try, you fail. you try, you fail.
.

Not true. You don't fail until you give up. Every thing's a hit or miss, but nothing's a fail. You come out of everything with at least one positive, unless you just flat out quit.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

Girls are like that, especially in early high school. But they DO mature.
I'm sorry you're going through all of this. But it'll get better.

 

[JarethDrakul]

Yeah, right.
That's exactly what I'm doing.
So, counting, I have exactly..
NONE.

I had the same thing happen to me and didn't have many friends but I know who I can trust at the moment. You'll find the right people. If people can't accept you for who you are then I don't see why you'd want to be friend with them, thats my motto (well not relaly a motto more an opinion haha).

 

[ginnygirl102]

Girls just make fun of people to make themselves feel good. If you walk away now they will be satisfied and i don't think anyone wants that. they are probably either jealous of you about something or they have something else going on at home that makes them mean to others.

Don't let them do this. You shouldn't have to leave school because of these girls. Have you tried talking to school authorities?

 

[ginnygirl102]

Don't let them tear you down. Sometimes people don't want to have thick skin. There's a lot of things that people say that can bring me down, but I don't let them. For every thing someone says to bring me down, I know that I've got someone else out there that will say something to put me up.

You just need to figure out who that person is.

Yeah totally! I mean people at my school used to put me down because they considered me a "Goth" but since I didn't let it bother me they just stopped. Now I can like black in PEACE.

 

[ears4all!]

Well granted as though I'm a guy, I probably don't know as much as these others. But people you need are always right in front of you, or behind you. Just know that you always have people to talk to.

 

[Disney~Magic]

That is awful Cassidy
I never really fully grasped why people get pleasure out of tormenting other people.
The hard thing is whether to leave a school you are used to and do have real true friends and run away from the problem or face it.
I know it is hard to face up to cruel people, because they can really be evil with words and actions
My advice to you is to not run away. Find comfort in your real friends and when the other cruel people start bothering you just brush it off and pretend it isn't bothering you at all. I know this will be hard, especially at first, but the reason I say try this is because the more you make it look like it is not affecting you at all the less they will continue and then they will eventual stop.
Hope this helps and I hope the situation gets better soon.

 

[disneychick2721]

Cass, as im sure you know girls are horrible, cruel and mean at that age.
And you have the choice to ignore it, or let it brake you.
You need to ignore it. Honestly the way I see it, in say 5-10 years from now, when your out in the world, anything everyones ever said or done to you isnt going to matter. Other peoples opinions dont matter as long as your happy with yourself.
Really, the only thing you can do is laugh it off.
and what somebody said before, try to join outside social activities to make friends.

 

[OneTreeHill]

Aw, Cassidy.
I'm so sorry.
PM me sometime, if you need to or want to talk.

But, yes. Girls are like that. I'm so sorry that some girls feel the need to do that.

 

[CutieEm]

Aww, Cass, I'm so sorry.

I haven't ever been bullied, but this year has been tough for me. This year someone spread a rumor that I was lesbian around the school, and it was terrible. But if you just ignore it, it goes away. It was hard, but in the end, it got better.

 

[PosessedEeyore]

Simple question, not much.
My dad gave me the choice to leave the school I currently go to because these four girls have been 'picking' on me for the past year.
I'm not talking about some girls who talk behind your back.
It's way worse. Like, just in two hours, I lost six friends.
That's how terrible it is.


Do they do it for their own pleasure?

they do it for their onw pleasure. deffinatly.
they have nothing better to do than be mean and pick on others.
and if you really dont like them, ignore them. show them that you dont care what they think of them.
and i promise you. you will have friends SOON.

 

[Sparx]

nah. i don't get picked on.

all through kindergarten to highschool i did though.

don't let it bother you too much. your real friends will be your real friends. forget the rest.


great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.

 

[Aimbier31]

you know what one day your going to be happy and have true friends and they're going to wish that they were u. like my cousin told me about high school all the people who are popular in high school you dont hear about them ever again for the rest of your life

 

[tinkerbelle22]

I'm so sorry Cassidy Girls can be so cruel sometimes!

I had a friend who I was inseparable with since kindergarten. We were the definition of bffs. The thing is, I've always known that she's really insecure, and in the beginning of high school she started going WAY out of her way to get people to like her. And eventually she realized that since she knew me better than anyone, she could do really really mean things to me to push my buttons. She took advantage of me, and tried to steal my friends. I was nothing but nice to her for many years, and suddenly she just turned on me. Even though we don't really talk anymore, she still does small things to make me feel bad, and while sure, in the beginning I was driven to tears, now I realize it's just not worth it to worry about her and what she's doing. I know my new friends and I would never make anyone upset for our own pleasure, and that's all that matters. You're a good person, and it's important to remember that and not worry about all the bad people

 

[minniemouse440044]

okay okay, this has happened to me a plentiful amount of times. last year it was 4 girls. it was SIX! they were so mean. they would get people to call names at me when i walked in the hallway, throw stuff at me, not invite me to places, and so on. but when i started making new friends they would tell me friends stuff about me that wasnt true. make them believe i was a weirdo. its not fun. not at all. but you have to stick to your guns and just ignore them. sure they called me everything from ugly to fat, but ignored them. best reason tehy called me those names cause they were probaly jealous! i dont know of what, but they probaly were. they were the kinds of girls who would do anything to get guys to do stuff with them. well call them sluts and theyll defend themselves about it. they call us names and they think its perfectly fine. they were mean and selfish. once i started making clothes and stuff, they came all up on me acting as if we were best friends, asking me to make them cute stuff. i said no. they got mad and was like "we've never done anything to you rachel! we are nice!" so on and so on! i got so angry. so i just ignored them. i cut them from my mind. delted them from facebook/ myspace/ there phone numbers got blocked/deleted. i dont talk to them anymore. thank god they went to an all girls school. that helped. now i am in 9th grade, i have tons of great friends! who like me for who i am! and i dont have to bother making new friends.


plus cassidy trust me. i know how it is. i moved to tennessee in the 2nd grade, i went to public school till 5th grade. then i entered a school where everyone was friends since kindergarten. i was thinking how am i suppose to amke friends with people who have been friends since kindergarten?! it was hard. life is hard, its going to be a rough journey through life, but you just have to make it the best as you can.

girls are mean. but be the bigger person.

 

[Disney Dork]

Cassidy, I understand exactly what you're going through.

When I was in middle school, a day didn't pass that I wasn't torn down and picked on for one reason or another. Whether it be because of how I looked, walked, didn't have a boyfriend or wasn't a social butterfly like other girls my age (I've always been fairly quiet around others. I only get really social around those I've known for a while and therefore KNOW I can trust), I was ripped apart.

Every. single. day.

I've never had very many friends, and still don't. I have maybe two GOOD friends and that's it, but that's also all I need. I know I can trust them and talk about things that are going on without them thinking I'm a complete idiot...unlike a lot of other people I've met throughout my life.

Girls are mean-it's a fact of life. Many will tear people to shreds just to make themselves feel better, look good, and help them think that they have some kind of 'power' over others. You just have to shut them out and ignore what they say. Pay attention only to those who DO care-and, trust me, they're out there somewhere. You may have already met them and just don't know yet.

Join a club or get involved in something outside of school. Go sit at a different table at lunch and get to know new, different people. I'm sure you'll find plenty of friends in no time at all.

 

[Babyjustrun]

Girls suck.
That's all I can say.

You're in grade seven right?
Middle school girls are the worst. They're evil, they're kniving and mean.
I hated middle school, it was the worst years of my life, and my friends were terrible.
Hopefully these girls will grow up.

 

[StitchfansJr]

Yeah, right.
That's exactly what I'm doing.
So, counting, I have exactly..
NONE.

I don't have any true friends at school, either. I have a few so-called "friends" but they're not true friends.