Do I stay or go?

[AlwaysEeyore]

DD is going to her first birthday party. She is 5 and it is a pool party for one of the girls she went to pre-school with. I asked the mother of the Birthday girl if she wants me stay and she said it was up to me.

Would you stay?

 

[blessedby3]

I would go for sure. I never leave my kids at anyone elses house where they would be swimming in a party situation. We even have our own pool and my DD swims great. I just cant guarentee that other mothers will watch my child as closely as I would.

 

[daisyduck123]

Yes I would stay.
5yo is a little young to leave at a pool party.

Help her out in any way she can:
adjusting kids' goggles
blowing up swimmies, tubes, & rafts
helping them get water shoes on/off
wiping up puddles when they track water into the house

maybe you can get a few pool games going

she'll probably be glad you're there to help.

 

[girlsx4]

I would go! I went to my DD's first bday parties with them. Swimming makes me really nervous so I would definitely go!

 

[dwaddict]

I would go! Just me but I don't drop my kids off and leave! Especially at a pool party! We have a pool and when parents ask to stay I am always glad to have that extra set of eyes, and extra hands too!!!

 

[jamesmommy]

DD is going to her first birthday party. She is 5 and it is a pool party for one of the girls she went to pre-school with. I asked the mother of the Birthday girl if she wants me stay and she said it was up to me.

Would you stay?

Yes, if there is water involved, be it pool, beach, or lake, my son will not be there unless accompanied by myself or my husband. It is just too easy for the people watching the children to be distracted.

 

[lonegirl]

GO!
If I was hosting a pool party for 5 year olds (gasp) I would want as many adults as possible watching the kids in the water. Things happen too fast.

 

[AlwaysEeyore]

Thanks everyone. That was my first thought too but I didn't want to feel like I was intruding. I don't know if this is a family party also or just for the kids. If anything maybe I'll make some new friends.

 

[smylie1]

Definitly stay for the party! Eventhough she said it was up to you, chances are she hoping you will stay. We also have a pool and with even a couple extra kids, it's hard to tell on whose been under too long with all the others jumping and splashing. The mom will also be preoccupied with the cake and other parents bring their children and all that party stuff. I would stay.

 

[cinmell]

Yes I would definitely go!

 

[NU2WDW]

I'd be staying with a 5 yr old for a "regular" birthday party, but for a POOL party, there is no question I'd be staying!

 

[Kies99]

Same here. My wife or I would go. If it wasn't a pool party, then we'd probably leave (and we have with no issues). It's the whole pool thing. Just too easy for the host to get distracted and not watch.

 

[kaysmommie]

My DD is 7 but a swimming party is definately one I would stay for. I'm overly careful though .

 

[eh24fan]

My son has had a pool party at my mom's house for the past 3 years for his birthday. I ALWAYS put on the invite that if the kid wants to swim, a parent needs to stay. I know that I can't keep track of 8 kids on my own and I don't really want that repsonsibility either. Even at my son's age (7), there are just too many swimming levels of the kids.

 

[dznygurl]

I would definitely GO!

We had a pool party for my son's 10th birthday. We had 7 boys there. My DH, dad, and another parent stayed at the pool while I did the food, cake, and other birthday duties. One of the boys jumped in and for some reason lost his breath and panicked. He grabbed one of the other boys down with him. I heard screaming and saw my hubby and dad jump in the pool to rescue the boys. The boys were so scared, but luckily they were okay. It scares me to think would could have happened if the men at the pool would not have been paying attention. It looked like horse play, but it wasn't.

Things like this happen so fast. We will NEVER have a pool party again for my kids. This was two years ago and I still get sick thinking about it. If my kids are invited to a pool party, I am right there!!!

 

[JJ&JSMOM]

Go! No one will look after your DD5 better then you especially around a pool! Too bad if they feel you're intruding - its your DD! DS8 just went to a pool party 2 months ago and the bday boy's parents offered to pick him up and take him. I said "thats very nice of you - but DH will be coming - DS8 is not the best swimmer." And they understood completely.

We just had a bowling party for DS8 and parents dropped off their kids at the bowling alley which was fine w/me but its a lot to watch each one and still serve pizza, cake, etc. And that was in a bowling alley. I'm glad my Mom was there to help me!

Have fun!

 

[K and K's Mommy]

I have a five year old, and there is no question I would stay for a pool party!! She did go to quite a few parties on her own this year, but none had a pool. My 8 year old just went to his first pool party, but luckily parents were invited too! I would not have left him either.

 

[Merriwind]

I'd be staying with a 5 yr old for a "regular" birthday party, but for a POOL party, there is no question I'd be staying!

What she said--definitely! Have a good time--and DD too.

 

[fan_of_small_world]

Yes, stay! My DS8 just attended a party at a nearby swim club, and I stayed for that too (I had the parents "add" me to the list, since we weren't members, and I paid for myself).

While I was there a child from another party started to go under the water. His dad saw what was happening and started running, which prompted another dad to jump in and grab the boy. Nobody will watch your child as well as you do.

 

[barbmouse]

We always go too especially at pool parties. Around here most parents stay with the kids until they are older!!