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[msGAJeepgurl]

Don't feel bad... wedding planning is very much an emotional rollercoaster... at least it is/was for me! I get very excited for something just to be brought down by something else! I think it's normal! It'll pick back up for you soon! Things will start sneaking up on you, and the next 5 months will fly right by! Enjoy your "break" in planning, because the closer it gets, the more hectic it is!

You are proving to be my saving grace. So congrats I bestow upon you a halo. DF doesnt know you and he already appreciates you because every time I get ubber stressed I read the boards and/or check your posts and know I am not alone.

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

So in lieu of interesting updates, I should have more Saturday because my daddy is going to see me in my wedding dress for the first time when we (Mom, Dad, & I) go to a lovely store called "Bridal Sense." I need a crinoline underskirt and this place allows you to rent them! And dresses can be rented and oh its just heaven.

Anyway, here are some pics of our babies. Mine is the evil cat, his is the pirate dog. Ugh forgive me, the dog pic wont go any smaller.

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

Ok this is just a random note, for the atypical bride or bride & groom (I'm planning on wearing cowgirl boots and so is my DF . . . well cowboy for him. . . .never mind the tattoos, including the pastor (i.e. my momma))

this is an awesome website:
http://offbeatbride.com

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

Well I made a fun pic post but it has to get approved by mods, so hopefully it will be up soon.

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

So obviously my last post didnt go through, so I will try one more time. Here are some pics from our location. I'll post them by location. Ceremony first, then reception hall.

Outdoor gazebo where our ceremony takes place:

2nd view:

And a good pic of the waterfall where the 1st shot was taken from, yes I am riding in a carriage too:

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

Reception pics, the reception is at the same location as the actual ceremony. Its just down the mountain a little bit as the ceremony is basically on the top of the mountain.

I think this about covers the location pics....soon I'll post hair ideas. I'm really stuck on this one. So help ladies, help.

Dance Floor:

Overshot of the room:

http://forresthillsresort.com/images/stories/Weddings/rg_chaircovers_600.jpg

 

[LLLBelle]

The location looks gorgeous. If they do the lights and tulle for you, that is really pretty.

I know how you feel about just wanting the wedding to get here. I'm getting married in Puerto Rico, Jan 2010 and everything is planned, except the little things. So if you need support, I totally know how you feel. The most important thing is to just be relieved that everything is done and enjoy the time. Plus having everything done makes the few weeks up until the wedding more relaxed, or at least that is what my wedding planner tells me

I look forward to more postings and pictures!!!

 

[livinlife25]

So this is going to sound ridiculous & probably quite spoiled, but this wedding planning business. . .its getting me down. I am so excited & I really cant wait for the wedding, but the waiting is dragging me into the dumps.

I'm reading all of these TR's and, I dont know. I just want to be MRSGAjeepgurl. We live together, we have for over a year now. The wedding is 5 months away and the planning, yea its all but done. There is stuff left to do, but its little stuff. Why make the invites 3 months ahead of time? Right now they are at least in nice boxes where my parents' cats wont eat the bows.

Programs - same deal as invites, favors . . .we are going to donate to the ACS in honor of DF's mother & my middle brother both of whom have passed. All of our guests will be getting a card with two charms symbolizing DF's mom and my bro. Plus there will be a smallish candy bar! See. . .I cant do that yet!

Ladies help me! I'm worried that if I'm getting frustrated and depressed already that after the wedding is over & we buy our house, oh yes btw we are house shopping at the same time the wedding occurs. Yes i am a psycho. The mental and emotional let down will be nuts.

Sides, we live together...DF says he feels married already. I mean we even have joint bank accounts already. Part of me wishes we had just taken the money and run. Blah. sorry this is a depressing post. I know everyone likes the happy times, but sometimes you just get kinda blue.

I get into wedding funks sometimes too but what helps me is to go to wedding photography website *the ones with music* and I want for awhile and then I get reallly excited!

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

I get into wedding funks sometimes too but what helps me is to go to wedding photography website *the ones with music* and I want for awhile and then I get reallly excited!

Thanks ... its nice to know I am not alone. I am better now that I got to try on my dress again. And talk with DF. I also find that reading Disneymooner's TR's help too.

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

The location looks gorgeous. If they do the lights and tulle for you, that is really pretty.

I know how you feel about just wanting the wedding to get here. I'm getting married in Puerto Rico, Jan 2010 and everything is planned, except the little things. So if you need support, I totally know how you feel. The most important thing is to just be relieved that everything is done and enjoy the time. Plus having everything done makes the few weeks up until the wedding more relaxed, or at least that is what my wedding planner tells me

I look forward to more postings and pictures!!!

Aww thanks. I'm trying to relax, but then again I have no wedding planner to tell me that, just my DF and sometimes - he's not who I want to say that.
The tulle is pretty and the lights will be done, but my DM and I are going to add tulle in the wedding colors which will accent the trees since its fern green & copper.

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

Ok ladies - on the chance that my DF will not peek, and if you are reading this dear get off NOW. I'm going to take a wild chance and show you some pics.

I am currently debating on what my hair should look like and I've narrowed it down to four choices. I have a fingertip veil AND a blusher that my mother has requested I wear just for my father. And since I'm a daddy's girl I will be wearing a blusher, but first chance I get that sucker is gone. Anyway - thoughts?

I love the style of this one - a lot, but i see no room for the veil how in how I want it placed:

This one I also like because its not to um frou frou on the decor...

This is how I want my veil to look - and I like the overall hair, but wind on a mountain top, I'd be seriously worried it would all come down.

This one gives you a rough idea of placement of hair-do, but I just...something about that first one. I want to do a combo of this and the first one....somehow. I have bra-strap-length hair...

And just so you get a rough idea of the dress, here is a grainy pic from my mom's cell at the warehouse sale when I first tried it on. I'll have better ones by next week.

 

[LLLBelle]

I love the first one, you could modify it a bit to include the veil. As long as you have a good hairdresser, I'm sure they will find a way

Your dress is gorgeous

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

So ladies, I've been silent . . .but planning. What I need though is some advice. Advice on flowers to be specific and the cost. I understand flowers are a real budget eater, I understand that they can make an event look simple, over the top, elegant, glamorous, or whichever direction you want to take it. What I can determine is if the price I was quoted is fair.

Here is what I was quoted:
$100 for bridal bouquet & a free tossing bouquet . . .using gerber daisies, some roses, carnations, stephanopolis, greenery, ribbon, etc. Round in style.
$75 per bridesmaid bouquet...something simple, kind of similar to mine. May go smaller than even a bouquet to a trio of flowers.
$10 per boutinerre.
------grand total approx $300

The question is - we are electing to go silk pretty much everywhere else. So is the above pricing reasonable? Should I just save money and pretty much go silk for everyone? I am stuck at an impasse.

 

[LLLBelle]

So ladies, I've been silent . . .but planning. What I need though is some advice. Advice on flowers to be specific and the cost. I understand flowers are a real budget eater, I understand that they can make an event look simple, over the top, elegant, glamorous, or whichever direction you want to take it. What I can determine is if the price I was quoted is fair.

Here is what I was quoted:
$100 for bridal bouquet & a free tossing bouquet . . .using gerber daisies, some roses, carnations, stephanopolis, greenery, ribbon, etc. Round in style.
$75 per bridesmaid bouquet...something simple, kind of similar to mine. May go smaller than even a bouquet to a trio of flowers.
$10 per boutinerre.
------grand total approx $300

The question is - we are electing to go silk pretty much everywhere else. So is the above pricing reasonable? Should I just save money and pretty much go silk for everyone? I am stuck at an impasse.

I think that is an excellent price. I'm only doing a bridal bouquet, MOH bouquet, 4 boutinerres, and 3 mom bouquets and my original quote was 816 I'm being re-quoted in the summer, once I actually have to place the order, so I am hoping it will be lower, if not I will be making changes (maybe I will have to go silk ).

As far as silk goes, if you are doing silk for everything else, price both and see which one is better. Some silk arrangements look awesome plus you will have a keepsake that will never die.

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

I think that is an excellent price. I'm only doing a bridal bouquet, MOH bouquet, 4 boutinerres, and 3 mom bouquets and my original quote was 816 I'm being re-quoted in the summer, once I actually have to place the order, so I am hoping it will be lower, if not I will be making changes (maybe I will have to go silk ).

As far as silk goes, if you are doing silk for everything else, price both and see which one is better. Some silk arrangements look awesome plus you will have a keepsake that will never die.

Thank you! I was thinking I might be crazy, but as you'll see in my post soon we made some final decisions that made me feel way better.

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

Final decisions made:
So DF and I have made some final decisions, thank goodness, and I am feeling much more calm. Course that might have to do with the 4 months still thing, but oh well.

Flowers:
We are doing the wedding party in real for the price I was quoted & the remainder of our decor, centerpieces, etc are going to be candles, fabric, and silk arrangements. DF then said - well we'll also preserve your bouquet and my boutinnerre. Which was also quite nice.

Cake Topper:
A sand castle odd given the fall theme, but goes with our favors and our Disneymoon theme.

Favors:
We are going to make a donation to the ACS in honor of our guest and in loving memory of DF's mother and my lil bro. We are also going to print on a card the Starfish Poem of how you can make a difference even if it is just to one person and give everyone a bronze starfish lapel pin. This will tie in our colors.

DM and I will be going shopping for my jewelry soon, "bling" for my flowers, jewelry for my bridesmaids, the guest book and pen, etc. Fun times. But I feel better.

Last night / this a.m. was pretty frustrating though. I got bummed about the insanity that is my extended family, lack thereof on DF's side, the rehersal dinner, and the fact that of our wedding party only 2 people are planning on visiting with us. In fact most of the wedding party is staying with each other and really only planning on showing up for the rehearsal/ r. dinner & the wedding. So i got upset and DF got frustrated until he finally went "I just wish it were October already" ....turns out he just wants me to not be stressed and blames the wedding and honeymoon on it.

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

Fair Warning: This is a stress rant with some minor planning details. Skip my post if you dont want to see it/ hear it.

So DF and I are planning a few minor details - such as the sand colors for the Sand Ceremony. We are running into a little dilemna. I dont want our sand ceremony to permanently resemble Christmas, and yet the closest two colors to our actual wedding colors are red & green. So I'm debating on doing brown and green or perhaps silver and green or purple (my college color) and green. I'm just at an impasse.

Plus to top it all off i cannot quit the dreams. Dreams that are not fun and are actually stressing me out more. Dreams of ex's, dreams of divorce from my DF in the future, dreams that I dont really know that I'm in love and this whole getting married thing is really me projecting my wants on what is a totally different reality. Just crazy dreams. I try telling DF about the dreams without telling him the actual content and he gets all freaked out that I'm stressing over nothing when its really I'm stressing over dreams that likely mean nothing, but they are causing me to have seriously sleep-deprived nights. The whole situation is just bad.

And then there is the rehearsal dinner. Ok I admit I wanted a perfect wedding, I also know that stuff will go wrong. That is life. I also know the economy stinks. Still, of the entire bridal party 2 members of the 6 are staying with DF and I in a hotel. One has no choice - he's from a different state, the other is my best friend in the whole wide world. My lil bro, aka "man of honor" is staying with my parents and huge amounts of extended family, and my other bridesmaid is staying with her BF who just happens to be in the wedding as well. So all that is making me frustrated...I guess I'm just of the opinion that if you knew 2 months ago that money was tight and you couldnt/didnt want to participate in this wedding then you should have said so. I wouldnt have minded. Now its like every time we turn around DF & I get accussed of always talking wedding and when we want to talk about other things with them tehy are "busy with ____." So invariably they are always with each other. I'm happy for them but jeez louise, dont yell at me if you cant show me courtesy you yourself expect.

And on top of all of that.....DF's dad, the infamous non-planner, is planning the rehearsal dinner. Granted we're happy with BBQ hole-in-the-wall joint..actually that sounds fun. But we've got 35 people coming. So any place we look at will need to 1. confirm they can host a party of that size and 2. be forewarned of the masses. Plus we have to organize transportation for some of the masses. So some planning would be nice....DF's dad's thought process. "Well we'll just pick something out that week." Um no. I fully and totally appreciate the generosity he's giving us by paying for 35 odd people to have dinner the night before our wedding, especially given the fact that him and DF are not um "close." But please, just at least call the place and say hey...y'all open for this many people 9-11-09? Or heck, pick a place and I'll call. Sighs.

I'm sorry I'm all grumpy. This is just been on my chest and I am starting to feel like I cant vent to anyone anymore because no body wants to hear it so I hold it in and stress more and the DF & I fight. I'm ready for October.

 

[teddygurl28]

Oh hun, for starters everything will work out...its just going to take some time........lets see.....the sand colors, i agree to not do red and green ( christmas in july maybe..but not christmas in october ) now purple and green would be nice, since thats your college color, so it symbolizes a part of you..or brown being a natural sand color along with the green would work well too....whatever you decide though its going to be right, because inevitably your going to pick what "looks and feels" right at the time

now the dreams- well, thats just aniexty playing out in your subconcious. you have so much going on around you and you feel trapped because you cant vent your fears and frustrations to anyone that you are bound to manifest these somewhere and your dreams are a perfect hiding place for those ( heh i kind of like my answer ) but honestly i think that they are just products of everything else going on, i dont know the best way to get rid of them though...other than a spa day?!


id freak over the rehersal dinner issue so im not any help there, i stress out and ocd plan too much so id need to know ahead of time too..i understand and agree with you how its very generous of him to take care of it for you guys...but maybe if you kindly remind him that some places on use limited menus for groups that big or certain rooms and that if he doesnt like calling places you would gladly do that for him but you dont want to pick the places out since this is his special part of the wedding festivities. Maybe that way he may see it as you just trying to help? I know some people jsut hate being on the phone, or dont know what they are asking for so this may be a way for you to get done what needs to get done while he still has some say?


and as for your WP welll sometimes when people arent happy with their own lives they cant stand to be around people who are.
some of your friends may just be jealous of you impending marriage and happiness and they may just not know how to deal with it......
..or money may be an issue and they may not be able to stay at the hotel, but they may have thought that it would have been better to still be a part of your wedding in any way then not be a part at all (although that doesnt excuse if they have been ignoring you and not helping you through anything)


i dont think i have given any advice whatsoever...so i guess the only thing i can say is keep your head up....and smile, its going to be stressful, but you are marrying the man you love, in the end its all worth it and everything will turn out perfect in its own way

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

you are marrying the man you love, in the end its all worth it and everything will turn out perfect in its own way

You know what...you did give advice and that right there, that is all that matters. He loves me and I love him and we are getting married.

 

[msGAJeepgurl]

I am the most indecisive bride EVER!

Welp the plan for a cake topper, it changed. It changed when I took a good look at my DF's face and then secretly spoke to my mom. So as of yesterday we are now the proud owners of WillowTree's "Promise" cake topper, photo album, and guest book. God I love ebay! Sorry the image is so big....but just YAY!