Saw the surgeon today.
Really liked him. He spent a good half hour with me (not bad to have been squeezed in!) and wasn't rushed at all. He talked me through all my questions, what the ER Dr's had told me and why he wasn't following what they said.
He spelled it out like this- My gallbladder isn't going to make me drop over dead. It's going to make me miserable, but I'm not just going to die from it.
There is a risk, a small one, that anesthesia can cause pre-term labor. There is a risk, again a small one, that they won't be able to stop the labor.
At 23 weeks, Lucas won't make it.
At 28 weeks, he has a chance.
At 32 weeks, he has a VERY good chance.
At 35 weeks, he can probably breathe without a respirator and there isn't much of a doubt that he'd make it.
So he asked if I wanted to take that risk because of my own discomfort (nope). He then said his wife lost a baby and it was no one's fault (miscarriage) and knows the grief it caused them both. He said he wouldn't ever put someone in the position to feel that grief and know that if they'd made a different choice (not to have the surgery) it might not have happened that way.
He didn't say it in a patronizing way or in a way that came across like he was telling me what to do (which in writing it, I just realized it could have come out that way)... It was just like he was trying to help me understand the risk I was taking and if the worst happened, would I be okay with myself and the decision I made?
He said he'd done the surgery on pregnant women and left the option up to them. My decision was to wait. I can function. I haven't had a major attack like the one that sent me to the ER, just minor ones that suck but I can make it through them.
So, basically.. he said to carry my insurance card and be prepared to have to have myself admitted a few times in the next 17 weeks for a few days for IV fluids and to wait out attacks under monitoring.
If it gets bad, we'll do the surgery at 35 weeks no reservations from him or my OB.
I'm happy with him, he spent the time to make sure I understood everything he said and make sure I was comfortable with everything. He walked me through the options, what they mean, what the surgery will entail, when he'd rather do it, what I should do in the case of another attack (hospitalization) and he even talked about how the fact that I've gained minimal weight (not even 10 lbs so far) is working in my favor and helping control the attacks, whether I knew it or not.
He was very nice, patient and overall I really liked him.
Two thumbs up!
Happy Birthday Tom 
