Disney Wonder Sept 3-7,2006 Part 2

[PirateCutie05]

Patsy, keep in mind that in all reality, you'll probably keep the baby in your room with you until close to 6 months old (if not older). That will buy you even more time. You could always set things up in the other room and rearrange them later. If you're worried about noise, also remember that the baby will be less inclined to be bothered by noise if you don't keep him/her in a totally quiet enviroment from the start. I (personally) wouldn't be concerned with noise from outisde. I used to vacuum in my kids' rooms when they were little, and they never woke up. Babies will adapt over time, in the beginning it's always a little crazy no matter where you put them. Hope that helps. (So excited for you!!! )

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Babies who learn to fall and stay asleep only in dark, quiet places have a hard time sleeping with other conditions.

Babies who learn to fall asleep wherever they are when they get tired, are more flexible people and (imho ) easier to live with.

You want to take Baby on trips to WDW and DCL where you will not have the same level of dark and quiet so a flexible Baby would increase everyones' enjoyment.

Also, many of us have discovered that, in the early days at least, our lives were simpler with the baby in the master bedroom. A Pack-N-Play or something similar, near Mom (espacially if mom is nursing) makes life easier.

So that gives you time to decide later where the Baby will live. And if you have not spent MONEY on the furniture you don't have to store it until the room is done.

I also vote for the front room because Baby will grow and need space for toys and kid furniture. After all, how many hour will guests be using the space and how many hours will Baby be using space?

Instead of calling the child THEM could you say BABY. :

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I must admit I am slightly confused as to why you guys are saying that Baby will most likely be in the room with Patsy at first. My mom says that's bad?

And sorry to poo-poo your theories on the quiet vs. some-what noisy environments BUT...
When I was little...the only way my mom would be able to get me to sleep was by running the vacuum cleaner.
But NOW... ...I am a pain in the butt to get to sleep! I prefer total darkness and total quiet. I have had to take my clock out of my room before cause the ticking was *too loud*!

 

[purplern]

Patsy when I had Amanda her peditrician give me some advice-she said do not make the house quiet for her if she is napping dont walk around on tip toes. She needs to get use to the "normal" house sounds". No wI would blast the radio while the baby is sleeping but dont make everything soooooo quiet!!! Then again the baby may grow like me and can go to sleep unless I have some noise! (ie the fan)

 

[LCTsMom]

I must admit I am slightly confused as to why you guys are saying that Baby will most likely be in the room with Patsy at first. My mom says that's bad?

Different theories....which is all you hear when you have kids. Books, friends, relatives, grandparents, even doctors will tell you what to do. The first rule of thumb in my book is DO WHATEVER WORKS FOR YOU! I say that even to the degree of what a doctor tells you. Yes, of course listen and do what is safest for your baby, but in the end, you are the one who make the choices that work for you. Every baby is different and every parent is different. Circumsize, don't circumsize, breast vs bottle, sleep in your room, sleep in your bed, sleep in a different room, lights off, lights on, night light, feed on a schedule, feed on demand, pacifier, no pacifier, thumb vs pacifier....there are so many things that will lead you to everyone's opinion. In the end, you make the choices that work for you.

I had three kids, every one was in my room in a basinette from birth til about 6 months. I even did the most horrible of baby care things, I ROCKED THEM TO SLEEP AT NIGHT and now... I have to say, I do not sleep with any of them....nor do they need to be rocked to fall asleep.

Whatever works for you!

 

[JLSE50]

: what she said

 

[Piecey]

I don't know that I plan to ever have the baby in my room at night... mostly, I never considered it... because there is still a chance a sudden, strange noise can set Tom's PTSD off.

I don't want a baby suddenly screaming and crying from a few feet away to POSSIBLY make that occur. Baby will not be sleeping in our room and I will never even bring up the topic because I'm sure Tom would argue with me tooth and nail that it wouldn't be a problem... but thats the thing with PTSD. When it hits, he has no control. And he has no control of when it hits. And I'm not taking that risk! Not worth it.

I've got a Shih-Tzu that jingle jingles as he walks, he'll help me keep it NOISY!!


Sister-In-Law announced today she is pregnant.
Funny how that works.
I'm waiting, since my MIL said she wasn't having (or attending) a baby shower for me... to see how things play out with SIL. Hm.

 

[Piecey]

Okay. Here are some pictures after today and some hard work!

(This is the outside, just to let you know )

Living room, looking at front door before:

and.. during (we're not quite to the 'after' shot yet!)

Living room, entrance into dining room-- I LOVE my pocket door!!.. before

...and now:

Dining into kitchen, before:

...and now:

Looking at dining room windows, before:

and now.. excuse Tom, I surprised him.

 

[PirateCutie05]

I don't know that I plan to ever have the baby in my room at night... mostly, I never considered it... because there is still a chance a sudden, strange noise can set Tom's PTSD off.

Patsy you've mentioned PTSD before... What is it??

 

[Piecey]

Patsy you've mentioned PTSD before... What is it??

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

from Wikipedia: "Posttraumatic stress disorder(PTSD) is an anxiety disorder that can develop after exposure to one or more terrifying events that threatened or caused grave physical harm.

It is a severe and ongoing emotional reaction to an extreme psychological trauma. This stressor may involve .... a threat to the patient's life.... [Iraq x2]

PTSD sufferers re-experience of the traumatic event or events in some way, they tend to avoid places, people, or other things that remind them of the event, and are exquisitely sensitive to normal life experiences. Untreated Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can have devastating, far-reaching consequences for sufferers' functioning in relationships, their families, and in society."

He flips out when something sets him off, forgets where he is and thinks that everyone is out to get him. Last episode he destroyed everything on my kitchen shelf, broke the table and a chair, pounded the counter tops, broke the stereo, threw the shelves down the hallway, etc. because the kitchen is where he was when he snapped.
Then he disappeared for 5 hours and left everyone voicemail messages that he said since he was going to die "in all of this ****" we could take whatever we wanted (I didn't get one, which the Dr. said is because I didn't exist in the time frame of where he was in his head)

He snapped out of it in the middle of the woods in the county he grew up in (where he lived pre-and post Marine Corps. time) and called me because he didn't know where he was or how he got there. He had at some point abandoned his truck (which he found against a tree, with the grill cracked ) and has scratches all over his back from whatever happened in the woods. He still has scars from that night that sorta break my heart because I couldn't do anything but let him go. He didn't attempt to hurt me, he paid no attention to me that night.. I wasn't the problem, it was in his head.

Other nights have ended with broken stand up fans (no idea how a stand up fan set him off but it did and it DIED for it, haha), walls being punched through (thankfully he's never hit a support or we'd have more than broken dry-wall) and just other stupid little things.

 

[PirateCutie05]

I figured it was the traumatic stress thing but I wanted to be ABSOLUTELY sure! You know how it is when you assume something is one thing and find out it was something totally different and look like a *******.

Yeah I remember you saying about the whole woods thing... Scary stuff!!

 

[Piecey]

I figured it was the traumatic stress thing but I wanted to be ABSOLUTELY sure! You know how it is when you assume something is one thing and find it out was something totally different and look like a *******.

Yeah I remember you saying about the whole woods thing... Scary stuff!!

Personally, I hate it more when I think I have tea in my cup and go to take a sip and it's coke. Not what you were thinking at all and DISGUSTING in comparison.

Kinda the same lines, but so much more annoying!

(i'm going crazy. Tom had to go get his brother who just broke his hand in a drunken rage at the house with the (now pregnant) girlfriend... I fear this has something to do with the sudden pregnancy )

 

[JLSE50]

I don't know that I plan to ever have the baby in my room at night... mostly, I never considered it... because there is still a chance a sudden, strange noise can set Tom's PTSD off.

I don't want a baby suddenly screaming and crying from a few feet away to POSSIBLY make that occur. Baby will not be sleeping in our room and I will never even bring up the topic because I'm sure Tom would argue with me tooth and nail that it wouldn't be a problem... but thats the thing with PTSD. When it hits, he has no control. And he has no control of when it hits. And I'm not taking that risk! Not worth it.....

You have the right idea. Each family has to do what works best for them and not listen to the advice of others, no matter who they are. Regardless of what you do, there will be people eager to tell you how you should have done it.

If it works for you, then you did it right!

 

[Piecey]

Off for more house stuff!

...anyone seen this Military promo???

Since Tom was activated for a whole WEEKEND (muahaha) in September of 08, I think he qualifies and with that Tom's ticket would be free and I could get one for $99 and we could bunk with my brother. Now just to decide if I should go pregnant or with baby!!!

WDW!!


....I think we're going to go!!! With baby in tow. While I'm on maternity leave. Maybe September, labor day weekend. Hmmm... this could be excitingly interesting!!

 

[purplern]

I like the color of the dining room!
I rocked my son to sleep and Amanda took a nap lying on me sometimes!

 

[LCTsMom]

I rocked my son to sleep and Amanda took a nap lying on me sometimes!

Those were the best times, weren't they? They're some of my fondest memories of my kids being babies, all snuggled against me. Heavenly! It all goes by too fast. It seems eternal when you're living it, but you blink and it's over.

 

[PirateCutie05]

Those were the best times, weren't they? They're some of my fondest memories of my kids being babies, all snuggled against me. Heavenly! It all goes by too fast. It seems eternal when you're living it, but you blink and it's over.

Yeah I have a picture of me as a baby lying on my daddy's tummy and we both are sleeping. It is one of my favorites.

 

[Piecey]

Hah. The youngest picture I've seen of me is like 2.

I must have been an insomniac then too and they didnt bother photographing me because I was constantly awake and driving them nuts.. haha

 

[Piecey]

Alright, T... since SIL is pregnant and finding out and all this other stuff, we're finding out now.

Wanna make a prediction before I find out for sure?? I get to schedule my ultrasound at the appointment on Thursday.

I think I'm carrying low... pardon the stupid expression on my face (and the jacket, I'm freezing in here!)...

 

[PirateCutie05]

Alright, T... since SIL is pregnant and finding out and all this other stuff, we're finding out now.

Wanna make a prediction before I find out for sure?? I get to schedule my ultrasound at the appointment on Thursday.

I think I'm carrying low... pardon the stupid expression on my face (and the jacket, I'm freezing in here!)...

I hope you don't hate me for saying this...but technically MAYBE not for sure! When my mom was pregnant with me they told her she was going to have a boy!
Funny thing is I learned the other day that the doctor who told her that was supposed to be really good at knowing the gender and never wrong!

P.S. Awww yay baby's coming along!!! You must me so excited.

 

[Piecey]

I hope you don't hate me for saying this...but technically MAYBE not for sure! When my mom was pregnant with me they told her she was going to have a boy!
Funny thing is I learned the other day that the doctor who told her that was supposed to be really good at knowing the gender and never wrong!

P.S. Awww yay baby's coming along!!! You must me so excited.

Eh, I don't really mind if they're wrong. Everything will still pretty much be kept neutral on my end. I bought "Belgian Waffle" paint for the nursery and "Hot Chocolate" brown for the stripes this weekend. I scratched the Disney paint for something more neutral to grow into. These aren't quite so bright.

I just know when BIL/SIL find out, if I didn't, that I'd regret it while they were planning gender-specific stuff and I'm standing there with nothing to do and getting glares for not finding out, haha!

I'm happy with either and won't be disappointed if what they tell me is wrong!

I definitely have a belly.. it's really obvious when I sit down or when I try to wear my normal clothes. That shiny-undershirt tank top thing does a pretty good job showing it, though.

I'm off to bed, night!!

 

[LCTsMom]

They were right three times with me. (I had to find out ). They had the toughest time seeing DS number 2, but they were right when they finally made the call. I always had backup clothes...just in case.