Disney Jealousy (rant!)

[Queenie]

Has anyone else experienced this?

I spoke to my sister the other day and told her I'd booked to go to Disney this year, her response was "if you like it that much you should just go and live out there." I found this quite upsetting (this is only my second WDW trip after all, 3rd Disney trip) but after thinking over it and talking to her since, I'm getting the impression it may be a case of Disney jealousy.

My sister went out there for the first time last year with my mum, her partner and their then almost 2yr old and they loved every minute of it. It was the first trip to WDW and America for all of them. Unfortunately, despite the fact that she and her partner earn more than me (as I'm unemployed), they've made some bad money decisions in the past and now really struggle, (I was in the pub with her, her daughter and my mum last week, she couldn't afford £3 for a kids meal, my mum paid.) The only reason they went to WDW last year is that mum paid for about 90% of the trip for all 3 of them.

I really want to say something to her as she wastes money all the time. If they want to go to the cinema, they drive a 2hr round trip to drop their kid off with one of her grandmas, then they drive another 2hr round trip to pick her up, this happens about twice a week. They're also forever spending money on things like concert tickets, then moaning that they can't afford the petrol to visit me (I don't live much further on than my mum who she's forever visiting.) I just worry that if I say anything it's going to turn an already shaky relationship totally sour Mainly I just wish she'd get off my back about me spending money on holidays and stuff I want.

Sorry for the rant!

 

[Tink78]

That's ok, you get it off your chest.
Defo sounds like she is very, very jealous.

You go, and have yourself a fantastic time.

 

[natalielongstaff]

i agree she does sound jealous, you spend your money on what you want....you've earned it after all

 

[wils]

Def green eyed monster - just try and ignore it. Just enjoy your planning and don't mention it to her again!

We'd love to go more often but I can hardly complain as I don't work by choice (well appart from being a full time Mum!) I just get my 'in between' fix by experiencing it through you guys!

I always fine it funny when people get jealous of such things when they appear to fritter their money away but I suppose each to their own!

Jo

 

[carolfoy]

Yup! a definitive case of envy I fear! but well done you even through unemployment you manage to have a holiday you must be very proud of your capability in managing what money you do have, I have many friends that moan to me about the fact I go away 3 or 4 times a year but I can honestly say I earn less than all of them and as a single mum all my bills are my own too! admittedly working full time as atravel agent helps but certainly doesn't get me free trips and the discounts I do manage to get are pretty negligible, but its all about prioritising your money isn't it? I rarely go out, don't drink much, only smoke duty frees! don't ever spend money on lavish shopping trips (when one of my friends tells me about her new £120 handbag I just think 'gosh, thats a weekend in Barcelona!') and spend all my spare cash on hols!

 

[jen_uk]

Yep she sounds jealous, just ignore her and feel proud that you are careful enough with money to be able to go the most fantastic holiday ever! I wouldnt bother saying anything as it might just lead to a nasty row and you dont want to feel bad in the run up to your holiday.
Like Carolfoy I have friends that criticize the fact that I like to go expensive holidays, some of them work in London and earn about twice as much as me but because they go out drinking all the time they are always broke and end up on cheap breaks to Spain etc! I work hard and Im very good at saving up for nice holidays and if other people dont like that then tough!

Have a brilliant holiday and forget all about your sister!

 

[Netty]

I think most of us have been through the jealous relative or friend thing!
What I do is not mention my plans well in advance so that theres no build up to it. i'd rather not tell them my plans, but going somewhere like wdw you cant keep that a secret!!

sounds like she relies on your mum for money as well, so she's never going to learn how to handle money, not until she learns how to stand on her own 2 feet. she obviously lives for today, sod tomorrow.
don't ever feel guilty about you going on your holidays , just go and enjoy, life is just too short.

 

[wilma-bride]

I totally understand what you mean. My Mum is constantly having a go at me for living an 'affluent lifestyle'. All this because we went to Disney last year FOR OUR HONEYMOON!!! And because we're going back this year for a week (which cost us less than her 2 weeks in Tenby!)

We don't go out (ever!) - maybe once or twice a year, we don't drink, neither of us buy new clothes or anything like that but we save every penny we can so we can have a nice holiday and, all of a sudden, we have 'affluent lifestyles'. Wish I bimming did!!!

 

[Tink78]

We'd love to go more often but I can hardly complain as I don't work by choice (well appart from being a full time Mum!) I just get my 'in between' fix by experiencing it through you guys!

Me too - that's why I'm here day after day like a crazy loon.
But I have to get my Disney fix and we aren't going back for about 8-9 years now as we want kids within the next 2 years, and it's not worth us going back now until we have a family that is old enough to know where they are! Boo hoo.
I have tried to pursuade DH to sneak one more little visit before we start trying but we cannot afford it, as all the money we have spare needs to go on sorting the house out and then saving for prams and stuff.

 

[Laurafoster]

Im the same, i tend to go away quite often, especially to WDW i go once a year. But it is about prioritising money. I dont smoke, dont spend that much on clothes or going out id rather spend my money on great holidays i know im gona enjoy!