Zandy595
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Something about your posts just doesn"t add up in my opinon, but I am sorry for your loss.

Something about your posts just doesn"t add up in my opinon, but I am sorry for your loss.
Ok, my take on this, is the husband couldn't get FMLA based on the bolded part above AND the fact that the wife was home with said child. Everything I read, read as if you (the husband) has to be the primary care giver for the child.
I get FMLA leave for a chronic, painful illness. I have to take days off from work and FMLA is there to protect me so I don't lose my job. As part of FMLA, my employer requires I get regular status reports from my doctor to verify I am still treating etc.
I was also confused as to why anyone would be getting FMLA off for this reason. I don't mean to offend, but that's not what FMLA is for. I would think bereavement leave (usually 3-5 days) would be more likely.
I also believe that this is not an FLMA matter, based on the information presented. This is a bereavement issue. Most companies allow a set number (2-4 is standard) of DAYS for bereavement. Again it is not a matter of a company singleing out an employee and saying "YOU only get 3 days" - it is a CORPORATE policy. If a person needs more time, then you take sick time or vacation time. I fully expect to have to take bereavement for my elderly father in the next year or two. I know how many days I get. I know how many I'll need (a couple weeks) I know its got to come from somewhere and my sick/short term leave is going to take the hit.
OP - my sincere sympathy for you and your family during this time. I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I cant even begin to fathom the pain of your loss.
This has been an interesting thread and heated discussion - albeit not necessarily a logical one at times.
I'm a long time lurker, not a troll, and felt compelled to comment on this discussion.
I've spent 25 years in the corporate workplace active in HR and accounting. This is my opinion, as well as a dose of reality. I suspect that many of you will disagree with my opinion, but it is not a fairy tale, it is corporate realism.
First of all, this is in no way, Disney's fault. To state that Disney is heartless in this matter is absurd. It is likely an emotional knee-jerk reaction by the OP, but they are no more heartless than the insurance company who sold the policy. It's not Disney's fault or responsibility, and it's not the insurance company's fault. It is the benefit as paid by the contracted insurance company based on the policy written and the premium paid for that policy.
Like other large corporations, Disney has contracted with an insurance company to offer coverage to their employees - be it life, or health, or what have you. They are paid to provide a specific policy to the policy holder. This same insurance company will have policies which may differ even from company to company that they service - depending on the policy that was purchased by the Corporation. The benefits of the policy will be outlined in the policy's handbook/paperwork, which is supplied to the employee/beneficiary.
The reality is - the policy that was purchased and supplied to the employees is chosen by the Company, largely because of the cost of the policy; the cost both to the Corporation and to the employee. Corporations have been struggling for years with increasing insurance premiums due to increased healthcare costs. Companies will pay for a portion of the policy, and pass on a percentage of it to the employee. Employees scream that theyre paying too much for insurance and put pressure on the corporations to reduce insurance costs, and companies are pressed into having to find cheaper policies in an attempt to reduce or at least maintain the cost to the employee. Its happening everywhere and although not pleasant, it is a fact of life and business. It's a no-win situation for the Company. Either they purchase bigger and better policies with bigger and better benefits and deal with unhappy employees because of the cost, or they try to give their employees a break from rising costs and bear the brunt of employees now unhappy with the benefits.
BUSINESS. The Walt Disney Companies are just that - a parent company and its group of subsidiaries. They are a business, and their business is making magic (at least its theme park subsidiaries) for it's consumers. My companys product is property. Publixs product is groceries. Disney's product is magic. Their cast members are employees just like we are employees of whatever company we work for. They are the ones who have to make the magic for the public. For Disney, magic is the bottom line. Companies are run by CEOs and CFOs and they are in the business of making money, regardless of what they are selling. A hospital is in the business of healing, but the main concern is the bottom line. A bus company is in the business of transportation, but the #1 priority is the bottom line.
As far as employee 'happiness', it's a nice perk when a company is rated as having high employee satisfaction, and with a company as large as the Walt Disney Companies, there is bound to be employee dissatisfaction, just as much as there is employee satisfaction. I do personally know several satisfied Disney employees. I also am aware of unhappy ones. I don't know of anyone who works for any company who is 100% satisfied with their company. Theres always something that someone wont like. This is becoming more prevalent in todays society, where the mindset is becoming increasingly "I'm entitled".
It is not corporately ethical to discuss wages, benefits and so forth in the open public or with your co-workers, regardless of WHO you work for. This does not apply just to the Walt Disney Companies. It's not ethical, and should not be avoided. Prohibiting personal wage and benefit divulgence to co-workers and the general public is often addressed in pre-employment discussions and accepted in employment agreements.
I also believe that this is not an FLMA matter, based on the information presented. This is a bereavement issue. Most companies allow a set number (2-4 is standard) of DAYS for bereavement. Again it is not a matter of a company singleing out an employee and saying "YOU only get 3 days" - it is a CORPORATE policy. If a person needs more time, then you take sick time or vacation time. I fully expect to have to take bereavement for my elderly father in the next year or two. I know how many days I get. I know how many I'll need (a couple weeks) I know its got to come from somewhere and my sick/short term leave is going to take the hit.
To the poster who commented that anyone who posts anything anti-Disney here is greeted with agressive defense of Disney (and those who agreed) .
What exactly did you expect? This is somewhat akin to walking into a sports bar in Downtown Dallas wearing full Redskins regalia, shouting Dallas Sucks!!! and not expecting the hardcore Dallas fans to defend their beloved team. This is a forum for and full of Disney fans and supporters! If someone is here on the forum slamming Disney, that seems just a little hypocritical to me.
Is Disney perfect?? Heavens, no! No company is! No company will satisfy every employee 100% of the time. No company will satisfy every consumer 100% of the time.
This is fine if you're willing to concede that Disney is just another company, nothing more, nothing less. This isn't the Disney I grew up with nor that Walt imagined I don't believe.
Of course Disney is just another company, with stock holders, a board of directors, and CEO. They have a responsibility to those stockholders, as do all stock companies, to operate a profitable business. If they did otherwise they would be called on the carpet by investment houses.
OP: I'm very sorry for your loss.
Moderators: Can you edit the OP's post so she is not giving out info that could get her DH fired. I know, in the past moderator's have taken out info that gave away a person's name or address. I wouldn't ask normally, but the OP is under a lot of stress, and possibly not thinking clearly about the repercussions this could have on her family. If they are already having financial problems they don't need to be dealing with the loss of a job too.
For those of you that have never worked for Disney, you just do not understand how they are. I worked for them.. they are not family friendly & that is why I left. I gave them a 6 month notice that I needed 2 weeks off (I was a part timer only 3 days a week). My DS was going to be playing baseball out of state and my DH & 2 DD's were going. We were making a family vacation of it. My store manager told me that I could not go! I was giving her 6 month notice ... then to top things off, I needed to switch one of my shifts, I had coverage for my shift and she would not allow it. I had a family emergency and I had to take off that day.. I told her there was no way I could come in. When my friend came in for me & I came on my next scheduled day, I was written up. I gave my notice right then and there. She begged me to stay. I asked if I stayed would I get my two weeks off to go with my family, she said no.. I told her I could not stay.. so Disney is NOT family friendly... you would only know that if you worked for them and had a situation where you had to take off.
A friend of mine worked for them for 14 years. Her dad was dying and they would not allow her to take off to drive over to the east coast of Fl to be with him while he was still alive.. she quit... and drove over to see her dad before he passed away.. is that family friendly...She said that was the best thing she had done in years... I know many that have left the Disney company for reasons like ones I have just stated.... this OP is not alone in what she is saying. As far as the insurance, well that may be different...there are times that only a percentage is paid out when a child is under a certain age, but Disney could have granted her DH some unpaid leave to be with the baby before passing away... Disney did have control over that...
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oh... and they will write you up if you talk negative about the company. They will have "talk" with you... I know many CM's that this has happened to. The company doesn't take critisim very well. Even if you are in the right, they still do not want you saying anything about them....
I'm sorry it didn't work out for you -- I have had a much different experience in my 17 years with Disney. Perhaps it's the difference of working in the parks vs. The Disney Stores (many of the most disgruntled people seem to refer to TDS); maybe it's just the luck of the draw. I've never had a problem taking time for family matters -- in fact, I had my father, mother and grandfather die within months of each other during my third year with the Company. Each time, I was given whatever leave I needed without question, my department sent flowers to all three funerals, people within my department donated vacation time so I could have paid time off, and my managers even helped me reconcile wills, medical bills and insurance problems during breaks. I know that there are people who have not had positive experiences -- I just wanted to show the other side.
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The FACT is, they are another "Company". The Company is an entirely different entity in the 21st century than is was 40 or 60 years ago - it has had to evolve in order to stay alive. Walt himself was not always a saint to work for, if you read the biographies of himself and of the company. But Disney, which is synonymous with magic, fairy tales, and happiness has grown from being a struggling company to a company that almost died due to hostile takeover attempts (it needed to evolve), to a mega-corporation. It's *not* just another company - but at the same time, it is, and has to be in today's market.This is fine if you're willing to concede that Disney is just another company, nothing more, nothing less. This isn't the Disney I grew up with nor that Walt imagined I don't believe.
Exactly.Of course Disney is just another company, with stock holders, a board of directors, and CEO. They have a responsibility to those stockholders, as do all stock companies, to operate a profitable business. If they did otherwise they would be called on the carpet by investment houses.
Walt Disney could never have imagined the market forces and demands of today. When most of us were growing up, you worked for a major company and rarely changed employers. Today, it is not uncommon for people to change jobs every few months.
I'm sorry that things didn't work out between you and your TDS manager.Disney also has a responsibility to be a good employer who treats its employees with respect and dignity. I have never read on these boards anything about how wonderful Disney is as an employer. Sure there are people who love their jobs. And in many cases they have no idea what happens when the company turns on them. I am talking about the part time "castmembers". These people never know what hit them when they leave the company. Many of them are "managed out" by managers and above who don't like them. Sometimes it makes the employee bitter at the boss, but never at the company.
Others learn how little they mean to the company when something goes terribly wrong in thier life and the company is not there to support them. Support does not have to be financial. A little bit of understanding goes a long way. With Disney, you often get guilted into doing what the "company" wants you to do.
Disney is all about business and the employee no longer matters.
Is that the Disney that so many people are so quick to defend?
Hadn't The Disney Stores been purchased by another chain (The Children's Place parent company?)???I have to agree - a lot of the unhappiness seems to have stemmed from The Disney Store. Speaking from experience here, I did work with the Disney Store for years. It was the individual management chains that made it either pleasant or hell...not the company known as Disney.
Hadn't The Disney Stores been purchased by another chain (The Children's Place parent company?)???
I do think they were recently bought back by Disney & are now in the process of being closed (at least many of them).
I know I could be completely wrong, but I thought for quite a while they weren't actually owned by the Disney Corporation.![]()
The FACT is, they are another "Company". The Company is an entirely different entity in the 21st century than is was 40 or 60 years ago - it has had to evolve in order to stay alive. Walt himself was not always a saint to work for, if you read the biographies of himself and of the company. But Disney, which is synonymous with magic, fairy tales, and happiness has grown from being a struggling company to a company that almost died due to hostile takeover attempts (it needed to evolve), to a mega-corporation. It's *not* just another company - but at the same time, it is, and has to be in today's market.
The FACT is, they are another "Company". The Company is an entirely different entity in the 21st century than is was 40 or 60 years ago - it has had to evolve in order to stay alive. Walt himself was not always a saint to work for, if you read the biographies of himself and of the company. But Disney, which is synonymous with magic, fairy tales, and happiness has grown from being a struggling company to a company that almost died due to hostile takeover attempts (it needed to evolve), to a mega-corporation. It's *not* just another company - but at the same time, it is, and has to be in today's market.
Exactly.
I'm sorry that things didn't work out between you and your TDS manager.
First, an employee who leaves because they were 'forced out by management' - the company didn't make them leave - a supervisor/manager did. What were the circumstances surrounding it? Why is an employee 'forced' to leave a company - usually they are not performing like they should, or calling in all the time, don't play well with others, or not upholding the Disney (or any company's) standard. An employee of a company is just that - an employee OF the company. In agreeing to work for said company, we agree to the pay and benefits plans that we get, and WE are responsible TO the company. As employees of a company, we work FOR them. We can't just come and go as we please and expect something from the company every time we turn around - we have become an entitleistic society.
Yes, Disney IS all about business - they're supposed to be - they're a business. It is seems to be a popular misconception that because its "Disney" it is going to be a utopian company and workplace. They are good to their employees, but I suspect a fair share of their own people take advantage of them because of the name.
Why? Why can't I feel badly for someone but still defend the company? The two things are not mutually exclusive. I can feel badly for what someone is going through and still defend a company that has done me no wrong and has not been proven wrong in this instance. The OP's original post has holes in it -- places that bring on questions and require additional information. Many people have asked valid questions about the circumstances that could help shed light, but those questions have not been answered (because the OP certainly has more important things to focus on right now). The people who are angry at Disney are reacting more to the OP's initial grief and anger than to what actually happened. Because none of us knows what actually happened. We only know what the OP says happened, and that information is incomplete.But offering your apologies and then defending the company, simply because you are a fan is beneath you.
But offering your apologies and then defending the company, simply because you are a fan is beneath you.