Hi Jim:
Let me see if I can tick off each question:
1) YES! The price increase justifies it in some many ways. Extra space, extra amenities, full refrigerator (for baby stuff

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2) The verandah is so amazing I can't even tell you. It does get windy the very first night. So do yourself a favor and move all the furniture as far back against the way as possible. Otherwise you'll loose some over the edge. The room steward will arrange it back in the morning if you don't want to. I was always up at the crack of dawn so I did it myself.
3) The murphy beds in the Roy are not at all hard. If you have ever been to a Marriott they are similar to those. One is a large single and the other a double. I slept in the single with one of mine one night with no worries.
4) You can have Palo delivered to your room without paying the extra 20 per person. You will of course have to pay for the tips

You can also order from any menu on the ship basically whenever you want. We tried to ensure we let the concierge know ahead of time so they could arrange.
5) Pick up the phone and there is someone there. I usually just walked down the hall and spoke with the team. They will move heaven and earth for you. Literally.
6) We had several concierge rooms and 2 non-concierge. There were 21 of us total. We asked our entire group plus those from our FE group up to the room on the first day before the muster drill. I order food and soft drinks for the kids. I just expected them to drop it off in the room and head out. We had the food and beverage manager come in about 30 minutes before the party to ensure she understood what we needed. Then they came in and set it all up, linen, china, etc. We had a bar tender and a server stay for the hour long reception. The kids of course all jumped in the hot tub and the bar tender made them smoothies, fetched sparkling cider etc. I can't say enough how much it was worth it.
7) Regarding getting the connecting room. Not really a big deal. The connecting doors are such that if left open, 12502 can't open their main door. All the rooms are close together it really doesn't matter. Walking a few extra steps is nothing.
8) Plus when the ship just gets to be too much, you have a palace to retire too every evening instead of tripping over the pull out bed.
If this doesn't push your wife over the edge I don't know what will. I can also send you some pictures we took if you like.
Happy sailing,
Trish