Disgusted with something I saw.....

[xoprincessmomxo]

The OP said "10-ish"...to me, that's 10 years old. That's too young to be out by themselves.

Kids can get kidnapped at ANY age. It's naive to think otherwise.

Oh my goodness, you'd go nuts in my town then! We have kindergarteners walking home alone! Of course, my child goes to school in a very small town. She does not walk home alone still.

As to OP: Good for you. What a little bullying punk! He needed to be taken down a couple notches.

 

[wendypooh]

Well, while I don't agree with hitting a dog, I don't think that what the OP did was necessarily the right thing. What if that kid went home, told Mom some "icky" lady slowed way down and was staring at him and giving him "looks" --------- then what if mom called the cops - and what if, that kid gave a description of you, your car, etc........

WHAT would be the first thing ANYONE would think if they hadn't heard "your" side first???????

Again, while I don't agree with what the kid was apparently doing - I think YOU "bullying or trying to scare him" was WAY out of line. And could've been taken a whole different way given certain circumstances.

I guess if I'd have been that upset about it - I would've gone to the parent - since you apparently know them. Just my 2 cents - but I think bullying or trying to scare the kid is basically the same thing you are complaining about him doing, maybe worse. Bullying or Scaring is no different if he is doing to the dog or you are doing it to him!!

 

[Keli]

Well, while I don't agree with hitting a dog, I don't think that what the OP did was necessarily the right thing. What if that kid went home, told Mom some "icky" lady slowed way down and was staring at him and giving him "looks" --------- then what if mom called the cops - and what if, that kid gave a description of you, your car, etc........

WHAT would be the first thing ANYONE would think if they hadn't heard "your" side first???????

Again, while I don't agree with what the kid was apparently doing - I think YOU "bullying or trying to scare him" was WAY out of line. And could've been taken a whole different way given certain circumstances.

I guess if I'd have been that upset about it - I would've gone to the parent - since you apparently know them. Just my 2 cents - but I think bullying or trying to scare the kid is basically the same thing you are complaining about him doing, maybe worse. Bullying or Scaring is no different if he is doing to the dog or you are doing it to him!!

I gotta say, I was thinking the same thing when I read the OP. The kid probably didn't have a clue why the OP was staring and shaking her head at him for in the first place.
To the OP:
It's obvious you love animals and I know your heart was in the right place but...
If you had a real problem with this child's behavior the only acceptable way to address it was to go to the parents and discuss it with them. Otherwise you put yourself in a bad position.

I don't like to see animals abused either although what you are describing doesn't sound horrible to me, but it possibly was worse than it sounds, not having been there I would have to leave it to you to determine whether it's a case of a kid being too rough or actual abuse.

I gotta tell you, I have two goldens, they are beautiful animals and have great personalities. But our male is not above doing lots of stuff he shouldn't and being stubborn, especially if a child is in control of him. He is also very powerful. He will go the wrong way, drag the walker, stop suddenly, lots of stuff that he knows better than to do with an adult. I guess I'm just thinking you might not have the whole picture and that you really should have spoken to the parents if it was a real issue.

 

[AftertheSunset]

Oh my goodness, you'd go nuts in my town then! We have kindergarteners walking home alone! Of course, my child goes to school in a very small town. She does not walk home alone still.

Yep, I probably would go nuts in your town.

I live in a small town, but never let down my guard where my kids are concerned. All it takes is one second for someone to steal a child.

 

[wendypooh]

Keli ~

I wanted to also point out that we have 2 dogs, a shih tzu named Minnie and my baby yorkie named Gumbo. I will add that my shih tzu can be a HANDFUL and does bad things on occassion - she is VERY well trained, but sometimes just stubborn. I also agree that maybe the OP didn't get the "entire" picture.............. but then again, maybe she did and the kid really was being bad to the dog............. but, I stand by my original thought and that she should've gone to the parents ( since she stated she knows them). I just worry about how she went about "scaring" the kid............... I'm sorry, but -that in my opinion will NOT stop him from hitting the dog!!!!


To the OP - I applaud you for caring so much - I really do. AND Please don't take my post as an "attack" or insulting you in any way........... that is NOT my intention - just please reflect and perhaps you'll see what I'm trying to say. Maybe that kid needs more attention and love - rather than "bullying & scaring"...............

 

[wendypooh]

Yep, I probably would go nuts in your town.

I live in a small town, but never let down my guard where my kids are concerned. All it takes is one second for someone to steal a child.

This is EXACTLY what my post is referencing................ given "different" circumstances............ what the OP did could've been thought of as something totally different!!!

Lets face it folks.......... small town or no........... it happens everyday!!!

 

[DisneyKT]

Well, while I don't agree with hitting a dog, I don't think that what the OP did was necessarily the right thing. What if that kid went home, told Mom some "icky" lady slowed way down and was staring at him and giving him "looks" --------- then what if mom called the cops - and what if, that kid gave a description of you, your car, etc........

WHAT would be the first thing ANYONE would think if they hadn't heard "your" side first???????

Again, while I don't agree with what the kid was apparently doing - I think YOU "bullying or trying to scare him" was WAY out of line. And could've been taken a whole different way given certain circumstances.

I guess if I'd have been that upset about it - I would've gone to the parent - since you apparently know them. Just my 2 cents - but I think bullying or trying to scare the kid is basically the same thing you are complaining about him doing, maybe worse. Bullying or Scaring is no different if he is doing to the dog or you are doing it to him!!

Great Post. ITA.

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

Yep, I probably would go nuts in your town.

I live in a small town, but never let down my guard where my kids are concerned. All it takes is one second for someone to steal a child.

It makes me nuts, too.

 

[Feralpeg]

Chances are, the kid did not want to walk the dog and took it out on him. Poor dog.

 

[ozarkmom]

I would probably say something to the mom. As far as a 10 yr. old walking depending on where you live I don't see a problem. I really think we can be a little too paranoid. For the most part children aren't being snatched off the streets.

 

[SharkyGoddess]

I don't know, I would've been more worried that the kid was walking ALONE. In this day and age, any nutjob could've come up and kidnapped him.

Psshhh... with a kid acting like that, the abducter would have taken him back!

In all seriousness, you did the right thing giving that little snotwad a hard look, although I would have earned my name Sharky and would have scared the kid to death by sternly barking at him (so to speak). You're right in thought that he is learning this at home. What wonderful parents he must have. Next time, follow him, get an address and just call the humane society as I doubt a talk with mom will accomplish anything accept the dog getting beat worse.

 

[mrsdon]

THat makes my blood boil
Dogs love us unconditionaly, they even come back for love after they have been whacked
IMO that little poop head needed to be treated like he was treating the dog.

 

[LVSWL]

Well, while I don't agree with hitting a dog, I don't think that what the OP did was necessarily the right thing. What if that kid went home, told Mom some "icky" lady slowed way down and was staring at him and giving him "looks" --------- then what if mom called the cops - and what if, that kid gave a description of you, your car, etc........

WHAT would be the first thing ANYONE would think if they hadn't heard "your" side first???????

Again, while I don't agree with what the kid was apparently doing - I think YOU "bullying or trying to scare him" was WAY out of line. And could've been taken a whole different way given certain circumstances.

I guess if I'd have been that upset about it - I would've gone to the parent - since you apparently know them. Just my 2 cents - but I think bullying or trying to scare the kid is basically the same thing you are complaining about him doing, maybe worse. Bullying or Scaring is no different if he is doing to the dog or you are doing it to him!!

I don't have any problem with slowing down and letting that kid know you saw what he was doing. I have given the "eye" to kids before myself when they are hitting their brother or sister and mom and dad are "unaware", and a good look with a firm shake of the head never hurt anyone. If that parent wants to ask me what it is about then I will be more than happy to fill them in. If the dog is too much for the 10yr old to control on a leash, then the parents should walk him themselves. There is NO excuse for hitting him with a stick or anything else. That kid knew exactly why CR was giving him the "eye". Well done OP!!

 

[louey]

That would have bugged me too, I feel sorry for dogs that have to put up with treatment like that!!! If he is hitting the dog on walks chances are he is doing it at home and the parents probably know. I say keep on giving him the evil eye.

 

[CathrynRose]

Like I said - I would have went to his house and talked to his parents (Ive done it before) but I was on my way to work. So, "the eye" was all I could do.

And I hope he does give my car description and all that to his mom, who can report it to the police. I'm not a sicko kidnapper - so all that will happen is I will get to tell the police, whom will then tell his parents, what a little punk they have.

 

[CathrynRose]

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I guess if I'd have been that upset about it - I would've gone to the parent - since you apparently know them.

Bullying or Scaring is no different if he is doing to the dog or you are doing it to him!!

Who said I knew them? I dont know them. It's just some kid walking his dog in my neighborhood.

And it (IMO) isnt the same thing. He was bullying a dog doing nothing wrong. I was bullying a punk kid hitting all up on a dog. And all he got was the eye.

He's lucky I was late, and all he got was the eye - otherwise I would have had time for a pow wow with his Mom.

 

[wendypooh]

I don't have any problem with slowing down and letting that kid know you saw what he was doing. I have given the "eye" to kids before myself when they are hitting their brother or sister and mom and dad are "unaware", and a good look with a firm shake of the head never hurt anyone. If that parent wants to ask me what it is about then I will be more than happy to fill them in. If the dog is too much for the 10yr old to control on a leash, then the parents should walk him themselves. There is NO excuse for hitting him with a stick or anything else. That kid knew exactly why CR was giving him the "eye". Well done OP!!

First of all - She didn't say HE was hitting the dog with a stick. In that case - then most likely the kid probably would've known why she was "giving him the eye". WHAT she said, that I had a problem with, was that she said "she was trying to scare him and was OK with that". I'm NOT debating that the kid was in the wrong here................ However, I think SHE was in the wrong as well with how she acted towards him.

To each his own I suppose............ however, I still stand by what I said and I don't think it was "well done".

 

[CathrynRose]

First of all - She didn't say HE was hitting the dog with a stick. In that case - then most likely the kid probably would've know why she was "giving" him the eye. WHAT she said, that I had a problem with, was that she said "she was trying to scare him and was OK with that". I'm NOT debating that the kid was in the wrong here................ I think SHE was in how she acted towards him.

To each his own I suppose............ however, I still stand by what I said and I don't think it was "well done".

That's fine. I had limited options given my time restraints.

I would hope if anyone saw my kids doing something wrong, they'd also give them the eye. It was right after the kick, I did so. I'd assume he knows exactly why he got it.

I watched him, as I drove down the side street, from my riew view mirror for as long as I could - and there were no more tugs, hits or kicks that I could see.

The eye worked.

 

[wendypooh]

Like I said - I would have went to his house and talked to his parents (Ive done it before) but I was on my way to work. So, "the eye" was all I could do.

And I hope he does give my car description and all that to his mom, who can report it to the police. I'm not a sicko kidnapper - so all that will happen is I will get to tell the police, (I never said YOU were a sicko kidnapper - and again - if you are so upset over it, then why don't you call the police or animal control and report it?)
whom will then tell his parents, what a little punk they have. (You know - there are MANY reasons why the kid did what he did - you don't know, maybe he had just gotten slapped around prior to taking the dog out??? Maybe HE needs as much sympathy and understanding as you give his dog.?????)

Who said I knew them? YOU DID - above
I dont know them. It's just some kid walking his dog in my neighborhood. ??????????? I'm confused, do you know them or not????

And it (IMO) isnt the same thing. He was bullying a dog doing nothing wrong. I was bullying a punk kid hitting all up on a dog. And all he got was the eye.

He's lucky I was late, and all he got was the eye - otherwise I would have had time for a pow wow with his Mom. Which is what you should've done instead of trying to bully and scare a kid.

Please RE-READ my post - I was NOT defending the kid hitting the dog, I NEVER said he wasn't doing anything wrong...... I even commended you for caring so much. However, IMO I think what you did was wrong - to each his own.

 

[SharkyGoddess]

Your actions were perfectly fine Cathrynrose