Disboards Dissapointment

[Nadia_disfan]

It was just an observation in the ones I've seen be quite nasty, what I meant by it was they are probably the types that enjoy posting to get reactions , and by no means a reflection on the people who have been on these boards posting helpfully and friendly for years.
I appologise at how that came accross, this is a prob with typed words, there's no body language to assist what people say, I didn't mean it how you've taken it, but am aware how you'd see that,
And thanks for the "young-un".. At 37 and currently feeling much older due to school hols.. I'll happily take that!
Sorry again x

 

[RMulieri]

Can we get something straight?

Flaming is calling someone stupid, ugly, dumb, idiotic, etc. Flaming is insulting a person directly (usually more than a one time occurrence).

Flaming is NOT telling someone you don't agree with them, that they are wrong, or what they're doing is wrong. Flaming is not disagreeing with what someone said, and flaming is not debating something.

This is one of my biggest annoyances with these forums, people are way too sensitive to the non flaming things.

 

[hannah_03]

I've been around here for a while now, just not a huge poster I think the positive ALWAYS outweighs the negative (in general) however you will have the occasional ones that starts innocent and turn into drama. You also have the ones started just to bring out the drama llamas. This is just "the way" of chat boards no matter WHAT they are about. We would all like to have everyone agree with us but that is just not the way the world works, online or in real life. If you ask for opinions on something you are going to get just that and you may or may not like all the answers. If you post something and someone is disrespectful, report it. It's as simple as that, but threads like this almost always end badly/closed.

Just my $.02

 

[disneynanacat]

The ignor button is a good thing! I know what you're talking about and it makes me sad too. I'd love to read your trip report too!

 

[hannah_03]

Can we get something straight?

Flaming is calling someone stupid, ugly, dumb, idiotic, etc. Flaming is insulting a person directly (usually more than a one time occurrence).

Flaming is NOT telling someone you don't agree with them, that they are wrong, or what they're doing is wrong. Flaming is not disagreeing with what someone said, and flaming is not debating something.

This is one of my biggest annoyances with these forums, people are way too sensitive to the non flaming things.

I agree and this is from experience on different kinds of chat boards.

 

[TheTXTaylors5]

I have to agree with you. It seems most any time you hold and post an opinion that is different than the one the OP posts, you are immediately called out for being mean. Or flaming, or being a troll. People should be able to disagree, as long as they do it in a polite manner. But the disagreement in itself is not rude or mean.

I agree that a disagreement in itself is not rude or flaming. Some people ask for opinions and you should be ready for all opinions (whether you agree or not). However, people have been known to make it personal where it shouldn't be and that's where a pleasant debate turns into hurt feelings and flaming. Sometimes, it's a fine line. If you have to think twice about posting something . . . don't post it!

 

[mcd2745]

Let me take a moment to thank the OP for starting this thread - and I'm being serious. I've enjoyed reading this thread. Mostly because of the disagreements and different opinions. It sure beats seeing another thread about TSM at rope drop, or asking if you can make ADRs online, or what is online check-in, etc., and I don't mean to disparage the people who start those threads either.

 

[innoculation]

I LOVE all things Disney and I found the Disboards when planning my first Disneyland Vacation 4 years ago. I was in heaven. I have spent countless hours just reading and reading on the forums. It's a GREAT tool for planning. And I thought for discussing all things related to your Disney trips. This trip was our first to the World and I switched from the Disneyland side to the World side of the boards, and I must say, I don't feel comfortable here. Every other post has someone flaming someone else. There are so many mean natured comments on this side that it breaks my heart, and makes me say I don't want to read or post on this side. It's sad because there are so many good natured, helpful and knowledgable people on this side, but they get over shadowed by the negative.

We just returned from our first trip and I would love to share our experience and excitment. As I come here to do so, I realize I don't think I'm willing to put my story out there, because I know someone will chime in with something negative and just put a damper on my Disney Spirit.

I can't wait until our next Disneyland trip where I will relish the family like community of those boards, and be an active participant again.

Anytime you post on the internet, you can expect negativity. No matter how upbeat your post is, the nature of a large percentage of people is unfortunately negative in todays world.

I usually try not to post on trip reports, as I know how you feel. But I know whatever I post, there is going to be some *******, probably sitting in his mom's basement, that will more than likely poop on my parade.

 

[WLSILVERCREEKSPRINGS]

Forums are just like the real world, there are a mixture of personalities, you just have to learn to either ignore people that stir the pot or go toe to toe with them

 

[Goofyluver]

So, here we have a thread where a poster is posting negative opinions about other people on the board who have...negative opinions? (according to that poster, of course)

Here's my biggest piece of advice for forum posting:

Don't take everything so personal. You don't know these people, and they don't know you. Why bother with what some anonymous person says on the internets?

 

[BELLEDOZER]

I could agree with you more (this from a DL vet who's lurking on the WDW boards as they are planning a trip to WDW in 3 years and is an overplanner extrodinaire!)

 

[Dunkeress]

I agree with you 110% LOL... very well said! I'm so glad the OP did say something (I don't seem to care where she posted it...Just glad she did). There are so many people out there that feel the same way as you can see and now she knows! So good for you. I don't see it as starting something.. just simply saying what her thoughts were. Good chance now her thoughts will change seeing all the positive people!

And as always there are the few that just have to DIG into someone because that's what they do best. They are always on someones thread trying to stir up something... topic doesn't seem to matter much. They just want to start something...anything... bet their home life is lovely!

When I post I do NOT mind someone disagreeing with me when they truly believe in what they are saying. Opens my eyes to look at it differently and that is such a good thing!

I do love the DIS boards and the great people on here who are so helpful... the few that are just being mean because they like it ignore! Even better..block

I understand what you mean and often feel uncomfortable reading threads, some people have an over inflated sense of their own opinion and appear to feel they created Disney themselves lol, .., it's a minority though and I can faithfully say the only people I've encountered forum wise, have been incredibly helpful and genuine, tho, like you, I word things carefully !! In this society these days I sometimes feel people are almost searching for things to take offense to or claim the high ground on, no ones perfect and let he who is without sin cast the first stone (you know you've all broken a rule at some time
I hope you're not too jaded by a distinct minority (tending to be the ones with thousands of posts under their name, hmm, get out much people? Lol)
I'm all for discussion and debate, but, maybe a separate "flame" board for people who like to lessen the magic and leave us happy "rainbow and unicorn " folk to just enjoy

 

[duffy]

I just click the back button. Sometimes, I chuckle first.

 

[GoofyTraci]

Forums are just like the real world, there are a mixture of personalities, you just have to learn to either ignore people that stir the pot or go toe to toe with them

I agree

So, here we have a thread where a poster is posting negative opinions about other people on the board who have...negative opinions? (according to that poster, of course)

Here's my biggest piece of advice for forum posting:

Don't take everything so personal. You don't know these people, and they don't know you. Why bother with what some anonymous person says on the internets?

I agree so true

The ignor button is a good thing! I know what you're talking about and it makes me sad too. I'd love to read your trip report too!

Ok where is this ignore button. I see a report post button and one to see if that poster is online. Please tell me more.

And to the OP- I sometimes agree but this is my happy place to share with others that love Disney as much as I do. But I also feel like the internet alows people to "hide" behind the computer and say and ask a certain way that they most likely wouldnt to your face. I wish u luck and hope u had a great trip. Don't let others ruin your fun or upset you.

 

[candielips]

I have been flamed before over my offering a suggestion, but when I was, a whole group of my DISers backed me up and gave the offender a piece of their mind
There are some good ones on here. And while I have as of yet to really make a connection with anyone on here, it really is a wealth of knowledge that I cannot find anywhere else. At least not all in one place.

 

[DizzDoll]

I didn't read the entire thread, but to the OP - aaaawwww, c'mon! Post your trip report!!! I'll bet you had a great time and we'd like to read about it! You KNOW we live vicariously through everyone elses' good times. As for your observation about the negativity here, well yes, there's some, but you should see where I work!! It makes the Boards positively GLOW with glad tidings and warm and fuzzies...

 

[d1gitman]

i love the irony in someone complaining about other negative posts therefore they won't post what they wanted to post.

 

[SaraJayne]

The ignore button has been used by myself a few times. If you encounter a poster that does nothing but stir the pot, wreak havoc and harass you . . . use it! It will give you peace of mind.

In my crazy case, I was able to forward the IMs to a Moderator. (FYI - The DISboards can and does monitor IMs. So, be careful what you put in them.) The person was banned from the DISboards and then re-signed up using a different name causing more havoc. Again, I reported them and they were banned. Little does the person know, I know who they REALLY are (name, where he lives, when and where he goes on vacation, etc ... ) By the second round of harassment, I was honestly pissed by that point. He was taking the joy out of being on the DISboards and I wanted my "happy place" back and he was not going to ruin it for me! So, I tracked him down on another site cross referencing what he told on the DIS, cruisecritic.com and other sites. He was posting as a female on the DISboards, but was really an out of work stay-at-home Dad. He must have been bored and it was fun for him to harass me and others. I posted on his cruisecritic thread using my DISboards name. I would have loved to have seen his face. I posted a pleasant thing about cruising and was very general. Maybe, he does know I am on to him or he got a job because I haven't heard from him in two years.

So a warning to those on the DISboards, just because someone has a cute name and female picture/avatar, they may not always be who they say they are. Sadly, that is what you will encounter anywhere on the internet and the DISboards is no different.

"Happy and Safe DISing to All!"

No, the mods don't police PM's (according to what mods have told me). All they will tell you is to put the person on your ignore list to block PM's from them.

 

[cm8]

I got sad when I read your post.

There are some places where I have encountered the "real housewives of DIS" and there are other places where I have met the sweetest, most sincere posters. I frequent the places where I am comfortable and ignore the rest.

Wonder if there will ever be a show call the RHODIS

Not sure many would make the cut, you have to be more than just unpleasant and talking out the side of your neck to be on a show like that . Now if they were looking for more actors/actresses to play on the Y&R and B&B many here would qualify. Some would even have to have multiple reads for the leading roles. I can see that some of us would make it great extras in another "Mean Girls" sequel

OP, I hope that you won't let some of what is said and done get the best of you. Not everyone is going to play nice, sometimes you have to throw sand back to make it clear that you can hold your own

 

[sharadoc]

This exactly.

It can be very hard to read tone on a message board. While you may take a comment as something funny and tounge in cheek, I might take very seriously and end up offended by it. Or vica versa. It is hard to tell sometimes just what a person means by just reading the words, we are all so used to hearing tone and inflection. It is easy to screw up and take things the wrong way.

Even the emoticons can be misinterpreted. I might mean to say I did something stupid, while another poster thinks I meant they did something stupid.

I guess if you are worried about what reaction you may get to the point of being upset about it, before it even happens, then you shouldn't post. But it is a shame to let a bunch of people you don't really know upset you so, before they even do anything to upset you.

I think you should post and let the chips fall where they may. Judging by your OP you are more than capable of defending yourself, should the need arise. Don't worry so!

ps--If you want to see ugly, go hop over to the transporation board and start a thread about how you didn't pay for seats, and the mean people on the plane wouldn't switch seats with you. We do tend to be a pretty rowdy bunch over there!

See, here's a perfect example of what you're saying. I think the transportation board has some of the nicest and most helpful people on the DISboards. The 2000+ mile driver thread is full of so much information, and we constantly discuss and help newbies and "old" bies on there. I would never say anything turns ugly over there - BUT we drive so I never open up the flying threads. I guess the flying threads can get mean, but the driving threads only get mean when someone comes on who thinks driving is stupid, posts something to that effect and it turns into a big fight.

If there's one thing I've learned is NEVER to judge someone's opinion, or plan, or question, or whatever. You can share your opinion like "this is what works for me", not "that's really stupid, I would never do that."

I'm also sorry to say that the majority of the pot stirrers and "meanies" on the board IN MY OPINION seem to be the guys - not ALL of them certainly. I have met and made great friends with some of the guys who post on the boards. Women tend to be much more helpful, like we're helping our friends or our children, whereas the men seem to be more likely to state their opinion and not care if it hurts someone else's feelings.

I'm generalizing, of course, and don't mean to paint anyone with a wide brush. It just seems like we turn into our genetic roots personalities - the men are aggressive, while the women are the nurturers. I bet message boards are a great study in sociology.